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1. Calmly Speak Your Desires

2. Most people wish they were more
assertive.

3. In fact, most people misunderstand
being assertive.

4. They often confuse it with being
aggressive, or being belligerent.

5. And as I'm sure you know, all of us
have shades of both passiveness and
aggressiveness.

6. However, what really IS assertive
behavior?

7. Well, it's being able to "assert"
something.

8. And what does THAT mean?

9. Simply stating what's on your mind, or
asking for what you want.

10. But it ALSO means allowing the OTHER
PERSON to be assertive as well.

11. Say you see an interesting person.
You'd like their phone number.

12. An example of assertive behavior
would simply be to walk up, express
that you think they are interesting, and
ask for their phone number so you can
get in touch with them later on.

13. To know more about them. Because
they are interesting.

14. Now, imagine doing that. Imagine
walking up and saying that.

15. "Hi, I just noticed you standing there,
and I thought you looked pretty
interesting. I'm pretty busy right now,
but how about if you give me your
phone number, so I can call you later
and we can meet up and hang out?"

16. Or something similar.

17. Of course, most people wouldn't
THINK of doing this. That is
TERRIFYING!

18. But on another level, you probably
realize that if you DID do this, and
could say it with complete calmness
and confidence, you'd get a lot of good
results.

19. So how can you get to this level of
calmness and confidence?

20. (And in case your wondering, you can
substitute sales, or talking to your
boss, or discussing difficult things with
your partner, etc.)

21. The GOOD NEWS is that
"assertiveness" is a transferable skill.

22. Like your chest muscles. If you work
your chest muscles, ANYTHING
physical you do, that involves your
chest muscles will be easier.

23. Assertiveness works the same way.

24. To get better, all you've got to do is
practice.

25. Any time you have an idea, an opinion,
a desire, simply state it.

26. Don't force it on others. Don't be
belligerent with it, just state it as a
FACT.

27. It's raining out.

28. Today is cloudy.

29. I ate a cheeseburger last night.

30. I grew up in a one story house.

31. I'd like your phone number.

32. I didn't like that movie.

33. I think that mustard and pizza go great
together.

34. Don't EXPECT agreement, but don't
EXPECT disagreement.

35. After all, you're saying something that
is ABSOLUTELY TRUE. For You.

36. Always look for opportunities to
"strengthen" your assertiveness
muscle.

37. Keep score. Write how many times you
did it per day.

38. Try and keep a slightly increasing daily
average.

39. And watch how easy it gets.

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