This document discusses the importance of choosing friends wisely in Islam. It notes that on the Day of Judgment, wrong friends will become enemies and lead people away from guidance. True friendship in Islam involves encouraging one another to obey Allah, draw closer to Him rather than each other, and avoid wasting time. Hadiths emphasize loving others for Allah's sake alone. Friends should help each other spiritually, not distract from remembrance of God or lead into sin. The highest friendship is for the sake of Allah that will be rewarded with His love, protection and paradise.

1. FRIENDSHIP IN ISLAM
“Close friends, that Day will be
enemies to each other, except for
the righteous.” (Quran 43;67)

2. “And the day the wrongdoer will bite
on his hands (in regret) he will say,
“Oh, I wish I had taken with the
Messenger a way.” (Quran 25:27)
Oh, woe to me! I wish I had not
taken that one as a friend. He led me
away from the remembrance after it
had come to me. And ever is Satan to
man a deserter.”(Quran:25;28,29)

3. THE 2 MAIN REGRETS
ON THE DAY OF JUDGMENT
• Not following the Prophet (s.a.w)
on the path of guidance
• Befriending a person who diverted
one from the truth

4. Friendship is every
person’s need.
Without loving and being
loved , our personality can
never be complete.

5. HOWEVER, ALL FRIENDSHIPS that..
• Lead you away from the remembrance of Allah
• Make you deviate from the straight path
• Affect your ability to differentiate between halaal
and haraam
• Overpower your mind to the exclusion of all else
• Make you neglect your obligations
ARE FORBIDDEN IN ISLAM
They are unreal and transitory

6. HADITH
The Prophet (s.a.w) said:
“A man follows the religion of his friend; so
each one should consider whom he makes his
friend.”(Abu Dawud )
“ Everyone will be with those he loves.”(Bukhari)
“Keep company with a believer only and let your
food be eaten only be the righteous.” (Abu Dawud
& Tirmidhi)

7. In A Good Friendship, there is :
- Common love for Allah
- Increase in Taqwa, Allah-consciousness
- Increase in emaan in each other’s company
- Urging each other to do good deeds and -
stopping each other from sinning
- No wastage of each other’s time, energy, wealth
or abilities
- Discouragement of aimless talk, sinful or
senseless speech or bad behavior
- Drawing towards Allah and not towards each
other

8. WHEREAS A WRONG FRIEND will..
• Pose a danger to your eeman
• Draw you to herself and not towards Allah
• Distract you from Allah’s remembrance
• Draw you into sinful activities and make them feel
enjoyable
• Waste your time and energy
• Justify your mistakes and faults rather than
focusing on improvement
• Be possessive and resent the time you spend
elsewhere
Contd..

9. A WRONG FRIEND will..
Contd..
•Flatter you even when you don’t deserve praise
•Make you a slave of whims and fancies
•Make never ending demands on you and expect
them to be met
•Not be happy when you say ‘No”
•Abandon you in your troubled times
•Be selfish and seek to fulfill her own agenda
•Forget you when you are out of sight

10. SUCH A FRIENDSHIP IS
NOTHING BUT A DECEPTION!
• There are
Satans amongst
both Jinn and
humans • Beware of the
enemy in the
garb of a
friend!

11. Hadith
The Prophet (s.a.w) said:
“The example of a good pious companion and an
evil one is that of a person carrying musk and
another blowing a pair of bellows. The one who is
carrying musk will either give you some perfume as
a present, or you will buy some from him, or you
will get a good smell from him, but the one who is
blowing a pair of bellows will either burn your
clothes or you will get a bad smell from him.”
(Bukhari)

12. ASSESS YOUR FRIENDSHIP..
• What do you talk about when you are
together? Is it about Allah, the Prophet
(s.a.w) or other people?
• What do your do together? Obey Allah’s
commands or your own desires?
• Do you help each other in righteousness and
piety and and stop each other from sin and
aggression?
• When you spend money on each other, is it
to please Allah or to impress each other or
other people?

13. ASSESS YOUR FRIENDSHIP..
• Do you waste each other’s time and energy?
• Do you point out each other’s faults in a
sincere and wise manner and accept the
criticism constructively ?
• Does your friendship advance you
spiritually?
• When you look at your friend, does it bring
Allah to mind?
• Most Importantly…Do you love each other
for the sake of Allah?

14. HADITH
The Prophet (saw) said:
“O people, listen and understand. Allah has slaves who are
neither prophets nor martyrs, but both the prophets and martyrs
envy them for their closeness to Allah. They are from various
peoples and tribes who have no ties of relationship between
them. They love each other purely for the sake of Allah. On the
Day of Resurrection, Allah will present them pulpits of light for
them to sit on. Their faces will be light and their clothes will be
light. The people will be scared on the Day of Resurrection, but
they will not be scared. They are the friends of Allah who will
not have any fear upon them nor will they grieve.”(Ahmad)

15. HADITH
The Prophet (s.a.w) said:
“On the Day of Judgment. Allah the Most High
will announce, “Where are those persons who
love each other for the sake of My Pleasure?
This day I am going to shelter them in the shade
provided by Me. Today there is no shade except
My shade.” (Muslim)

16. HADITH
The Prophet (s.a.w) said;
Allah has decided: It is incumbent upon
Me to bestow My love on those who love
one another for My sake, meet one another
for My sake , visit one another for My
sake and spend for each other for My sake.
(Malik)

17. HADITH
The Prophet (s.a.w) said:
In Paradise there are pillars of rubies on which
there are rooms of emeralds with open doors
shining like sparkling planets.” He (s.a.w) was
asked who would occupy them and he replied:
“Those who love one another for Allah’s sake
and those who visit one another for Allah’s
sake.” (Baihaiqi)

18. VALUABLE ADVICE..
•Be moderate in your friendship
•Keep reasonable expectations
from each other
“And cooperate in righteousness
and piety, but do not cooperate in sin
and aggression.” (Quran 5;2)

19. There are 3 types of ‘friends’..
Those that are necessary like nourishment
and you cannot live without them; those
that are like medicine and are beneficial,
so you need them sometimes; and finally,
those that are like a sickness and you do
not need them at all!

20. DU‘A
Allahumma innee as’aluka hubbaka wa hubba
main yuhibbuka wal ‘amal ladhi yuballighunee
hubbak
O Allah ! I ask of You Your love and the love of
whoever loves You and the love of of the deed
which will draw me in attaining Your love.
Ameen