1) The document provides tips and guidance for coaching forum members to help them effectively present challenges and desired experiences at forum meetings. 2) It emphasizes exploring all aspects of the member's situation through questioning to identify the true core challenge, as the initial understanding may not be accurate. 3) The coaching questions provided are meant to gain deeper insight into the background, causes, feelings, impacts, and potential solutions around the member's challenge.

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The goal of a coaching session is to get answers to these two questions by digging into the situation. You’ll
present the answers at the actual presentation in the Forum:
1) What is the core (ideally singular) challenge that you are facing?
2) What is the ideal experience share you'd love to hear from the group?
THE MAIN GOAL
THINGS CHANGE
Coaching is like walking on a city street. They think that the street they are on now is the core
challenge, but your job as their coach is to explore each side street you pass and see if the real core
challenge is on another street and not the one you are on now. Often times, the core challenges
someone starts with ends up not being the final challenge after the coaching call for three main
reasons:
1) They start with multiple core challenges and you help them narrow down to one.
2) They start with multiple core challenges and you help them zoom out and find a
bigger core challenge that encompasses all the smaller challenges.
3) In talking it out with you and finding clarity, they realize they have a totally different core
challenge.

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DO NOT...
1) DO NOT give your own advice or experience share. Save that for the Forum meeting.
2) DO NOT talk too much. Ask questions and let them talk. Sometimes they will struggle to clearly
state their challenge, and in those situations, it's okay to paraphrase what they said (after they
said it) to help them say it better.
3) DO NOT plant feelings and thoughts in their head. For example, instead of saying "Does that
make you feel sad?" say "How does that make you feel?" If you say the word sad, then you are
planting that idea in their head.
TO START…
Always start with these two questions to get a baseline of what they are thinking...
1) What is the core (ideally singular) challenge that you are facing?
2) What is ideal experience share you'd love to hear from the group?
Then ask the same questions two more times, once in the middle and at the very end, and see if/how
their answers change.

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QUESTIONS
- Tell me more about the background of this situation?
- What led up to this point?
- What do you think is the root cause of this situation?
- How much of this situation is personal vs professional vs family?
- What part of this station is most confusing to you? Why?
- Have you ever experienced something like this in other parts of your life? What was it?
- How might your own actions add to the difficulty of this situation? What part of this situation can
you own yourself?
- How does the situation make you feel when you think and talk about it?
- Give me three feelings you have around this situation. Describe each feeling and why you chose
that feeling.
- If nothing changes with the situation, what happens 3 months, 6 months, 1 year from now?
- Why does solving this situation matter to you?
- What changes in (3,6,12 months) if you are able to resolve this situation?
- Why haven't you been able to tackle this situation yet?
- What have you tried to tackle this already? What worked? What didn't?
- Tell me about a time when this situation was actually working and things were going well. What
was that like? What was working then?
- What are some things that are off limits and not an option for you in tackling this situation?
(e.g. Divorce, firing someone, closing the business, etc)
- What lie (if any) are you telling yourself about this situation?
- How would the other person describe this situation?
- If you could do it over again, what three things would you do better to have a better outcome?
- Does this situation make you feel embarrassed at all? If so, how and why?

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