1. Addicted to Negativity
June 5, 2012
Are you addicted to the ‘denial of negativity’ about
yourself? Negative habits, inflexible habits, insensitive
habits, habits of denial, habits of not listening, the habit
of not allowing anyone to point out bad habits, habit of
not being open to change, and the habit of bad habits -
the list goes on especially the bad habits that fall under
these arbitrary habits. Spiritual growth is about the
openness to see yourself as a ‘pearl’, and to shine in
others eyes who have the insightful gift to appreciate
another’s pearl of consciousness.
Negativity is a form of radioactivity when exposed to, pollutes both the holder of it, and those
exposed to it, particularly for extended periods of time. Negativity at its worst is like an
incurable disease. Negativity is a destroyer of all positive, making it a coagulating force that
becomes harder and harder to escape itself. Many see the negative in everything, and
relentlessly limit the light of higher possibilities. Negativity becomes a habit, and seeps into
all aspects of ones interaction with others. Habits begin to define who you are to others.
Negativity is defensive when exposed to any questioning or acknowledgment of
its presence, in fact it’s exposure is sometimes capable of resulting in anger or
rage from the source of negative behavior.
Addictions become friends. When positive, they transcend the word addiction
to a meditative, healthy, loving demeanor. When negative, they become
friends with rationalizing and protecting them. Negatives that follow one
through life often started in childhood. Reaching adulthood, there is no excuse
to not deal with, and rise above them. In a very real sense, it’s stealing others
positive moments which they are entitled to. It could be called bullying or
abusing others with words and/or actions.
I had a friend who relentlessly would taunt others with words that were offensive,
cross the line of sensitivity, and upon a reaction, accuse the offended person with, ‘they are just
words, and you chose your reaction’. Finally, a handful of friends told him that unless he could
use more sensitivity to others feeling he needed to find new friends to verbally abuse.
Everyone needs to, at some point in their lives, seek viewpoints from a loving, source to mirror
any negative attributes you may have. Pick 3 or 4 loving people who have spent enough time
with you to experience whether you have annoying, bad habits. Listen to them. Vow to change
what needs to improve, and check with them at a later point to get their opinion on if those bad
habits are still there. Individually and collectively we can change the world, and it all starts with
you having all good habits!
Love yourself, accept yourself, and know that all your actions are loving to others. Be the
transformation that makes it a more loving world yourself.
Yesss Self Love Center
ArhataOsho.com