6. Power of Paradigm
Each of us tends to think, we see things as they are, that we
are objective. But this is not the case.
We see the world, not as it is, but as we are – or as we are
Conditioned to see it.
We open our mouth to describe what we see, we in fact; describe
Ourselves, our perception – our paradigms.
When other people disagree with us, we immediately think
Something is wrong with them.
7. If you keep on doing
what you have done,
you will keep on
getting what you
have always got
10. The only thing that each of us can
really change is OURSELVES.
A rule to remember:
"The only thing you can change is
YOU."
Therefore, unless you change...
NOTHING CHANGES.
11. Change will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time. We are the
ones we’ve been waiting for. We are the change that we seek.
Barack Obama
15. •“Being nice”
•Letting feelings
hang out”
The capacity for recognizing our own feelings and
those of others, for motivating ourselves, and for
managing emotions well in ourselves and in our
relationships.
•a field in infancy
•fast-growing
16. •Emotional Self-Awareness
•Managing one’s own emotions
•Using emotions to maximize intellectual processing
and decision-making
•Developing empathy
•The art of social relationships
(managing emotions in others)
Goleman’s Categories
Self-Awareness
Self-Regulation
Self-Motivation
Social Awareness
Social Skills
17. A weak predictor for
achievement
job performance success
overall success, wealth, & happiness
Accounts for a major component of employment
success according to numbers of studies covering
career success; maybe as much as 20-25%.
18. The Research
shows that IQ can
help you to be
successful to the
extent of 20
percent only in
life.
The rest of 80
percent depends
on your EQ
21. Low EQ Person
If only I had a different job….
If only I had finished Graduation….
If only I had been
Handsome/beautiful….
If only my spouse had stopped
drinking….
If only I had been born rich and
famous
If I had good contacts….
If only I had better friends….
If only I had married someone
else….
High EQ Person
A time to be aggressive and a time
to be passive
A time to wait and a time to watch
A time to be together and time to
be alone
A time to fight and a time to love
A time to work and a time to play
A time to cry and a time to laugh
A time to confront and a time to
withdraw
A time to speak and a time to be
silent
A time to be patient and a time to
decide
22. 1. Taking the time for mindfulness
2. Recognizing and naming emotions
3. Understanding the causes of
feelings
4. Differentiating between emotion
and the need to take action
5. Preventing depression through
“learned optimism”
6. Managing anger through learned
behavior or distraction techniques
7. Listening for the lessons of feelings
8. Using “gut feeling” in decision
making
9. Developing listening skills
Nine
Strategies
for
Emotional
Intelligence
23. 23
100,000workers for
20years for a single
pyramid – who told
each workers what to
do and make sure they
do it right?
compared to building the
Great Wall, building the
Pyramids was nothing!
24. AMYGDALA
Amygdala is a small part of the brain located just above the Spinal
Cord that stores Emotional Memories, particularly those associated
with Fear.
It is where the Fight or Flight response is resides.
NEOCORTEX
The Cortex can act as a damper switch for the amygdala, but it
can’t prevent the emotional surge from occurring in the first place,
if the stimuli are strong enough.
25. If you are in a situation that feels
threatening to you physical being or
your ego, it is the amygdala that
stimulates your reaction to either
fight (Aggression) or Flight (Escape).
Emotional brain triggers emotional
reactions before the thinking brain has
any chance to pick up a signal or
evaluate it.
26.
27. SOME QUOTES
"You are precisely as big as what you love and
precisely as small as what you allow annoying
you."
– Robert Anton Wilson
."What you are is what you have been. What
you'll be is what you do now."
- Buddha
."There are no limitations to the mind except
those we acknowledge"
- Napoleon Hill
28. The term amygdala hijack describes
any situation in which a person
responds inappropriately based on
emotional rather than intellectual
factors. The amygdala is the
emotional center of the human brain
and can create split-second
responses when a person is
threatened.
29.
30. Hijacking can cause you to confuse the
facts
Rational brain can be rendered
dysfunctional due to hijacking by
Emotional Brain
As such hijacking can impair decision –
making in the work-place, which can
have serious consequences
31. EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
Between stimulus and response
there is a space. In that space
lies our freedom and power to
choose our response. In those
choices lie our growth and our
happiness.
