2. Masks
Behaviour is a search for attention,
not approval
An adolescent tries on multiple
masks until one gets attention
Once they find a mask that works
(gets attention) they become that
mask
– https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Acw_LTWnKBU
4. Common Adolescent Behaviours1
– Incredible Brain Development
(Neuromaturity)
– Shortly after puberty to 20’s
– Great ability to learn (better “with”
than “from”)
– Pleasure from Risk, 2x Dopamine
with Peers Present
– The adolescent brain is a pleasure-
seeking, risk-taking organ
5. Common Adolescent Behaviours2
– Limited Emotional Vocabulary
– Anti-Dependency
– Inability to Delay Gratification
– Youth in Care: Trauma
7. Arrested Development
– Trauma
– Inconsistent Role Models
– Lack of Guidance
– Addictions/Compulsions
– FASD and other disorders
– We ALL do what works…
8. Helping Someone with Arrested
Development
– Narrate a new story (Start with
engagement, not rules)
– Use Scaffolding
1. Help them articulate their values
2. Help them identify areas of mastery
3. Help them build social capital
9. When Young People Thrive…
Expectations e - E
Relationshipsr-R
e, r
Neglectful
Vulnerable
e, R
Permissive
Socially Impaired
E, r
Authoritarian
Avoidance Behaviours
E, R
Authoritative
Engaged
Rules,
Unequal
Power,
Addictive
Shared
Values,
Purpose,
Meaning
10. Relationships Grid
Tasks t - T
Relationalr-R
t, r
No need to set up
conversation
t, R
Work together and
talk
T, r
Where things are, what we’re
going to do, Vitals
T, R
Conversation with activities