This document discusses the dilemmas faced by married men. It notes that maintaining a balance between one's mother and wife can be difficult, as a man's closeness with his mother can cause tension for his wife. Other dilemmas include privacy issues in joint families, lack of love/understanding with one's wife, and difficulties distinguishing between personal vs. shared priorities. These dilemmas can lead to stress, anxiety, substance abuse, health issues, problems at work, and children facing emotional difficulties. The document recommends avoiding jealousy, strong timely communication between spouses, and seeking pre- and post-marriage counseling to help couples balance their relationship and overcome issues.

1. Dilemma of a Married
Man

2. What is marriage?
• Just like every smooth road has
bumps and speed breaker on it, every
marital couple goes through ups and
downs. The notion of happily ever
after is applicable only to ferry tales,
in reality every relationship requires
efforts.
• It is a commitment of two people to
one another and to each other
family.
• It is more then a physical union but a
spiritual and emotional union.

3. Importance of marriage in Islam
and society
• Marriage is an institution found in
all society.
• It leads a couple to the legal part
without damaging their self teems.
• Marriage it self a platform to
create a society.
• In Islam marriage is declared to be
one half of single Muslim's faith.
“ Who so ever likes to follow my
tradition, then he should know that
marriage is from tradition.”
THE PROPHET (PBUH)

4. Dilemma faced by man
• Difficult to maintain balance between mother and wife.
• Man’s closeness with his mother tend to tense situation for wife.
• Privacy issue in a joint family system.
• Lack of love and understanding with his wife.
• Lend a helping hand.
• Mine v/s ours.

5. Effect of these dilemmas
• Anxiety and stress.
• Uses of substance abuse
increase.
• Researchers found that marital
conflict badly affected health
for both husband and wife.
• Disturbance in a work.
• Children face emotional
difficulties.
• Loss of social connection.

6. Today’s Journal
• Nearly half of all marriages
conclude on divorce.

7. Separation or Divorce:-
• It cause lack of trust due to
which spouse use to avoid each
other.
• Effect on child’s behavior,
academics and psychology.
• Expecting higher from each
other without listening once
problem.
• Disturbance in economic and
social setup.

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18. Conclusion

19. Avoid feelings of jealousy
• Don’t act on your feelings it is
hard not to act the way you are
feeling.
• Stop complaining admit your
mistake and try to resolve the
problem as early as you can.
• Shift your focus.
• Trust your partner.
• Seek help from your partner to
overcome this feelings.

20. Strong timely communication
• Stay focus in here and now.
• Talk each other and discuss every good or bad situations.
• Try to resolve each other problems and provide comfort zone.
• Be patient.
• Pay attention to non verbal
signals.

21. Pre and post marriage counseling
• The therapist will attempt to evaluate your
relationship, he will figure out:
o What keeps you together
o What stresses your relationship
o The nature of your conflict
o Your strength and weakness
o What steps you can take to balance your relationship
o You should able to balance the contradicting pressure
physical intimacy, time, money and both families
o Overcoming past issues
o Forgive each other