Social media use can negatively impact marital relationships in several ways: 1. Excessive social media use reduces face-to-face communication between spouses and increases the communication gap. 2. Partners may develop unrealistic expectations of each other from only seeing curated versions of lives on social media. 3. Late night chatting/messaging with others on platforms like WhatsApp or maintaining virtual relationships can breed mistrust and conflict. 4. Addiction to social media and internet use has been cited in divorce petitions with couples spending more time online than with each other. 5. Privacy issues around social media use and refusal to share account access has led to divorces due to lack of transparency and trust.

1. Influence of social
media in marital life
and its resolution
Dr.Sapna Sukrut Deo
Cyber Consultant
B.S.L, LL.M,Ph.D,D.C.L

2. Counselling
Counselling is an act which involves professional
guidance to a person who seeks advice or guidance
to resolve personal problems or some emotional
conflict

3. • Counselling provides great support in times of crisis or
change. This is a collaborative effort between the
counselor and the client.
• Almost everyone faces challenges and difficulties in their
life at some point in the time of their life.
• Stress over a job, anxiety over uncertain future, loss of
near and dear, problems over addiction or difficulties in
a relationship are some of the reasons which make
people take a professional Counsellor's help.

4. Benefits of counselling
• Counselling helps in identifying the root cause of the
problem, be it behavioral or familial or social.
Deliberating, discussing and exchanging ideas helps in
problem-solving.
• Arriving at conflict resolution, reconciliation, made
easier through anger management counseling.
• Disputes are resolved through improved and guided
interpersonal communication and face to face talks.
• Suicidal tendencies and divorces can be avoided
through stress management and self-help techniques
provided by the counsellor.

5. • The innate human potential is drawn out through individual
counselling helping in individual growth and boosts his self-
confidence and self-esteem thereby aiding in personality
development.
• Counselling is the service offered to the client who is
undergoing some trauma or facing a problem and needs
professional help from an experienced and able counsellor.
• Counselling provides therapeutic healing through creating
awareness and understanding of one’s own inner turmoil
and conflicts and enhancing coping skills by instilling self-
confidence.
• Here psychological issues like anxiety, depression and low
self-esteem are handled well and treated through the able
guidance of a counsellor.

6. The Effects of Social Media Addiction

9. Signs and Symptoms of an Social media
Addiction
• administer to the client by a proctor. These items
include statements such as:
• How often do you find that you stay online longer than
you intended?
• How often do others in your life complain to you about
the amount of time you spend online?
• How often do you find yourself anticipating when you
will go online again?
• Clients can answer with one of these 5 responses: Not
Applicable, Rarely, Occasionally, Frequently, Often, and
Always. Each answer has a numerical value assigned to
it.

10. 8 characteristics that described having an
internet use disorder.
1. Is preoccupied with the internet (thinks about previous online activity
or anticipates next online session).
2. Needs to use the internet with increasing amounts of time in order to
achieve satisfaction.
3. Has made unsuccessful efforts to control, cut back, or stop internet
use.
4. Has stayed online longer than originally intended.
5. Is restless, moody, depressed, or irritable when attempting to cut
down or stop internet use.
6. Has jeopardized or risked the loss of a significant relationship, job, or
educational or career opportunity because of the internet.
7. Has lied to family members, therapist, or others to conceal the extent
of involvement with the internet.
8. Uses the internet as a way of escaping from problems or of relieving a
dysphoric mood (e.g., feelings of helplessness,
guilt, anxiety, depression).

11. • Depression symptoms increase because your brain stops producing
“happy chemicals.” Soon the only way you feel happy is from social
media.
• Self-esteem decreases because you’re constantly comparing yourself
to other people. You’re only seeing a filtered version of their lives,
but that doesn’t stop the grass-is-greener mentality.
• You become socially isolated because you’re disconnected from the
real world. The augmented reality you see online becomes more
desirable than spending time with friends and family.
• Work productivity dwindles because your mind is constantly
elsewhere. You may even break the rules at work just to check your
accounts.
• You begin assigning value to your life based on other people’s
opinions. The number of likes and positive comments you receive
dictate your actions moving forward.
• You lose sleep at night thinking about social media or checking your
phone for messages. This leads to sleep deprivation, which makes
you irritable and fatigued the following day.

12. Take a 30 Day Break from Social Media
• Some research shows that habits are formed after 21 days.
• Limit Your Access to One Device
• Don’t let anything come between you and your productivity.
• Set Times for Social Media Access
• Work with an Addiction Counselor to Control Future
Temptations
• The process is similar to other addiction recovery programs,
but it focuses heavily on “Why?” Why do you feel the need
to get approval from others? Why does the internet feel
safer than real world events at times? Get to the root cause
of your addiction and tackle it head-first, all with the help of
an experienced addiction therapist.

13. Counsellor and his role in various fields
Legal Counselor:
Marriage Counselor: helps to improve husband and wife relations and
develop understanding between them, providing
trust counselling to the couple to resolve their
disputes and refrain from taking a divorce.
Student Counselor helps to improve the grades of students, to eliminate
exam fear, to help them in managing stress levels
during student life, to teach them effective time
management.
Rehabilitation Counselor They help the drug addicts, alcoholics, criminals out
on parole, victims of rape, just released from jail
persons, post-trauma case victims, prostitutes,
juvenile delinquents, who need to be rehabilitated
into society or their homes and families or into job
milieu

14. • Genetic counselor: Any disease is better prevented
than suffered. To avoid passing of the genetic
disorders and transmittable diseases to future
generations or their kids during pregnancy,
necessary precautions are to be taken on the advice
of a genetic counselor.
• Career Counselor: helps in choosing a career when
one is just out of high school and stands at the
crossroads of their career and future.

15. • Addictive disorders are a group of disorders
that can cause physical and psychological
damage. Receiving treatment is essential for
breaking the cycle of addiction.

17. Social Media

18. • “Earlier the reason of matrimonial disputes was
dowry, family arguments and property-related
matters. There was hardly any mention of social
media as the reason for conflict or divorce.”
• When couples spend more time on social media,
communication gap becomes quite natural. Social
media also make couples have unrealistic
expectations from each other and when the spouse
fails to meet them, they think of it as a compatibility
issue.”

19. Crimes related to Internet
EMAIL MOBILE PHONE/SMS SOCIAL MEDIA COMMON CRIMES
Email spoofing Vishing : Whats App messages
Cyber-stalking
Defamatory emails Blue-Bugging Facebook crimes Morphing
Email Bombing BlueJacking twitter crimes Voyeurism
Sending threatening
emails
Blue Snarfing Website Cyber pornography
Email hacking Phone Recording Defamation
Sending malicious
codes through email
Prank calls Cyberbullying
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20. Common issues and challenges
INTERNET CRIMES DONE BY
SPOUSE
• Excessive use of Social Media
• Facebook crimes
• Whats app and status issues like
Latenight chatting
• Prank calls
• Violation of Privacy
• Inappropriate social media Post
• Live –in relationships to Virtual
relationship
WITHOUT PERMISSION OF
SPOUSE
• Call recordings
• Phone Tapping
• HIDDEN CAMERA IN
BEDROOM
• Sharing private photo
• Morphing
• Creating fake account
• Using bank account
This internet addiction affects family or individual relationships

21. Case Study
1. Knock the door A woman from Mumbai sought a ban on
pornographic sites
2. Narendra Singh has also contended that his wife would
chat on WhatsApp until late nights with her male friends and
it perturbed him

22. 1. Can Excessive Social Networking
Harm Marriages?
• "He loves Facebook more than he loves me!“
• Divorcing for Drug Addiction moves to NET
addiction
1. Man drags wife to court for divorce over her social
media addiction
2. Woman files petition in Supreme Court over
husband's pornography ..
3. Use of Phone in kitchen and Bathroom
4. Spending minimum 10 hours for Job and
remaining time on phone: Growth of Children

23. Every healthy relationship is built on a foundation of honesty and
trust
• 3. Cell Phone Privacy in Marriage:
Give Spouse Full Access
• “I’m not giving you full access to
myself. There are secrets I don’t want
to tell you, behaviors I don’t want to
reveal to you or activities I don’t want
to share with you.”
• The healthiest couples value
transparency over personal privacy.

24. Why People Do It
• There are trust issues.
• There is a lack of communication or
problems with intimacy.
• Partners are insecure or suspect
there may be infidelity.
• Does your partner have a history of
lying and cheating? Has he or she
given you a reason to think they might
be hiding something?
• So, Is It Ever OK? “It is an invasion of
privacy and property,”

25. • Even loving partners need space.We
want to share every experience Not
everything has to be shared, and not
all that is mine is yours. For me to
maintain my dignity and my identity, I
need to protect a certain level of
privacy, a domain that is mine and
mine alone.

26. • 4. Divorce for breach of privacy when
email is hacked
• Sensational case of Vinod Kaushik vs
Madhvika Joshi came up, the issue of
alleged hacking of e-mail of husband
and father-in-law by daughter-in-law
came to limelight.

27. ‘Honey, you don’t reply to my
Whatsapp messages’
• 5. WhatsApp feature can make or break
relationships
• ignoring Whatsapp messages – a
ground for divorce?

28. • the wife claimed that she didn’t want
to spend her life with a man who
couldn’t keep his promises, which
means the only real option she has is
Salman Khan. Ek baar jo maine
commitment kar di, fir main apne aap
ki bhi nahi sunta.
• Saudi man divorces wife for ignoring
his Whatsapp messages

29. • 6. Husband facing five years in jail
after hacking wife's email ?

30. • “When couples spend more time on
social media, communication gap
becomes quite natural. Social media
also make couples have unrealistic
expectations from each other and
when the spouse fails to meet them,
they think of it as a compatibility
issue.”

31. 2. Facebook Crime
1. Creating fake account
2. Defamation
3. Harassment
4. identity theft
5. Cheating by personation
6. Sharing photos

32. 3. WhatsApp Blamed for Increased
Divorce Rates
• Late night chatting
• Sharing video and photos on WhatsApp a crime?
Bathing –video calls
• Sexual abuse and child pornography
• Videos of spouse in embarrassing incidents on
status of whats app
• Commit Adultery
• have no sexual relationship
• humiliating or treating your spouse badly

34. 4.Prank Calls
• Harassment through unwanted
telephone calls.
• Sometimes spouse prankster?
• Making spoof calls to extort money
• Spoofing is a process of changing the
caller ID to any number ..
•

35. • Save the Harassment Data:
• . Get Your Cell Phone Records
• Compile All Evidence:
• Have your own copy:
• Include Your Contact Information:
• Go to the Police:

36. 5.Violation of privacy
• Divorce for breach of privacy when
email is hacked
• Unauthorized access of email to gather
evidence
• Vinod Kaushik vs Madhvika Joshi came
up, the issue of alleged hacking of e-mail
of husband and father-in-law by
daughter-in-law came to limelight. The
father-son duo alleged that their
daughter-in-law did so to support her
dowry case she had earlier filed
separately with the Pune police, when
the couple was staying in Pune.

37. • Phone-Tapping And Recording Of A
Phone Conversation By A Private
Party: Issues Relating To Legality And
Admissibility...

38. Tapping of conversation between
husband and wife
• In the case of Rayala M.
Bhuvaneswari vs Nagaphanender
Rayala AIR 2008 AP 98 the Hon'ble
High Court of Andhra Pradesh held
that the act of tapping itself by the
husband of the conversation of his
wife with others was illegal and it
infringed the right of privacy of the
wife. In this case the husband was
recording the conversations of his wife

39. Rajalakshmi M. Bhuvaneshwari v
Nagaphomendar Rayala, AIR 2008
AP 98
• The husband demanded the phone
recordings of his wife with another
man in order to prove her illegal
relationship with that man but the
wife denied. The court held that
neither the husband can demand such
thing nor can he tap her phone as it is
violative of her right to privacy and
marriage does not give unreasonable
privilege to do such an act

40. The Information Technology (Procedure and
Safeguards for Interception, Monitoring and
Decryption of Information) Rules, 2009
• define 'intercept' and 'interception device' as follows:
• **
• "intercept" with its grammatical variations and
cognate expressions, means the aural or other
acquisition of the contents of any information through
the use of means, including an interception device, so
as to make some or all of the contents of a
information available to a person other than the
sender or recipient or intended recipient of that
communication and includes –
• Monitoring of an such information by means of a
monitoring device
• Viewing, examination or inspection of the contents of
any direct or indirect information; and
• Diversion of any direct or indirect information from its
intended destination to any other destination.

41. • "interception device" means any
electronic, mechanical, electro-
mechanical, electro-magnetic or optical
or other instrument, device, equipment or
apparatus which is used or can be used,
whether by itself or in combination with
any other instrument, device, equipment
or apparatus, to intercept an
information; and any reference to an
interception device, includes, where
applicable, a reference to monitoring
device;

42. JUSTICE K.S. PUTTASWAMY (RETD.) AND ANOTHER
.....PETITIONER(S) VERSUS UNION OF INDIA AND OTHERS
• It is better to be unique than the best.
Because, being the best makes you
the number one, but being unique
makes you the only one.

43. ONLINE proceedings IN DIVORCE
Rahul Kone v Janhavi
... Karnataka HC 2018
• Santhini v Vijaya Venkatesh in October 2017. The decision
also held that family court can allow video–conferencing
during trial as well, after failure of settlement. However, the
court disapproved the use of video-conferencing during
settlement proce... The majority decision of CJI Justice Dipak
Misra and Justice Khanwilkar observed that video-
conferencing may create a dent in the settlement
proceedings and overruled the decision in Krishna Veni
Nagam v Harish Nagam, which had held that whenever
one... make a request for video conferencing it can be
allowed by the Family Court. Justice Chandrachud dissented
from the majority decision, observing that family courts
have the flexibility to decide its own procedure, and video-
conferencing ought to be ... encouraged even in settlement
proceedings....

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45. Vishing
• Vishing is the act of using the telephone in an
attempt to scam the user into surrendering private
information that will be used for identity theft. The
scammer usually pretends to be a legitimate
business, and fools the victim into thinking he or
she will profit.
• Purpose :To extract sensitive information from the
victim, by means of social engineering.
• Cheating by personation.
• Identity theft
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47. • This attack involves the virtual takeover of the
victim’s phone by performing a backdoor
mechanism.
• A backdoor is generally performed by a developer
in the case of troubleshooting a problem, but this
mechanism is also performed by attackers to gain
access into the victim’s device by bypassing the
security mechanism.
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49. • It is a milder version of Blue bugging, it involves
sending anonymous, unwanted messages to other
users with Bluetooth-enabled mobile phones.
• A Bluejacker uses a feature originally intended for
exchanging contact details or Electronic-Business
cards. The attacker adds a new entry in the address
book, types in a message and sends it via Bluetooth
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51. Bluesnarfing
• is the theft of data from a Bluetooth phone. The attacker,
just by running the right software on their laptop, can
discover the nearby phone, connect to it without
confirmation and download confidential data.
Even by turning off the Bluetooth a potential victim cannot be
safe from being Bluesnarfed. As a device in hidden state
may also be Bluesnarfable by guessing the device’s MAC
address via a brute force attack.
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52. • Widened introspection of Section 2(i) of the Information and Technology Act, 2000,
makes mobile phones fall within the definition of word “computer”, as mobile phones are
used for exchanging of information. Section 2(r) of the Information and Technology Act,
2000 defines “electronic form” as any information generated, sent, received or saved in any
media, optical, magnetic, computer memory, micro film, micro fiche or relatable form.
Therefore, information exchanged on mobile phones in whatever form it may be in, falls
within the ambit of the Information and Technology Act, 2000.
Sections 294, 504, 506, 507 and 509 of the Indian Penal Code, 1860, lays down legal
provisions for those expressing offensive feelings by means of mobile phone or computer.
• Section 67(a) of the Information and Technology Act, lays down provisions for punishment
against publication or spreading of materials containing sexually active acts, etc., in
electronic form. Similarly, Sections 292, 292(a) of the Indian Penal Code, 1860, also lays
down punishment on initial conviction for imprisonment and also fine.
Thus, legal provisions along with established legislations have played a major role towards,
curbing increasing crime rates being committed over mobile phones.
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53. Best Social Media Monitoring Tools for Parents
• 1. FamiGuard
• This app for parents allows them to block social medias.
• Block games or inappropriate apps in category.
• Get app activity summary of your child's device.
• Set time limits for your child in app usage.
• The most reliable app that gives automatic alerts on geofence.
• Real time location tracking is fully supported with this parental
control app.
• With the web filter feature of this powerful tool you can allow or
block websites to ensure safe browsing over your kid's device.
• Moreover, screen time limiting and web content filtering is purely
allowed.

55. 2. KidLogger
KidLogger lets you know:
how long your Kid is working on the PC;
which apps were used; (Android, Windows, MAC)
which websites were visited;(Android, Windows, MAC)
with whom he or she communicated (phone, SMS, Skype,
Facebook);(Android)
where was been;(Android, iPhone)
what photos made; (Android)
and what wrote to friends(Android, Windows, MAC)

56. How Social media affecting in Marriages
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57. • “Be you ever so high, the law is
above you.” - Lord Denning

58. • In Rajalakshmi M. Bhuvaneshwari v.
Nagaphomendar Rayala,6 the husband demanded
the phone recordings of his wife with another man
in order to prove her illegal relationship with that
man but the wife denied. The court held that
neither the husband can demand such thing nor can
he tap her phone as it is violative of her right to
privacy and marriage does not give unreasonable
privilege to do such an act.