This document provides information about dating violence, sexual assault, and rape. It defines sexual assault and rape and discusses the types of nonconsensual sexual contact. It also discusses date rape drugs like Rohypnol, GHB, ketamine and ecstasy. The document outlines signs of being dosed, what to do if dosed, and safety tips for dating. It provides statistics about teen dating violence and discusses the cycle of violence and warning signs of an abusive relationship.

1. DATING
VIOLENCE AND
RAPE

2. Sexual Assault
 Sexual Assault – Sexual contact that occurs
without the explicit consent of the recipient of
the behavior.
 Such contact can take the form of:
 Harassment
 Exposing/Flashing
 Forcing a person to pose for sexual pictures
 Fondling
 Unwanted sexual touching or penetration with any
object

3. Rape
 Rape – forced sexual
intercourse, including
vaginal, anal or oral
penetration.
 Penetration may be by a
body part or an object.
 Rape may be forced
through threats, physical
force, or psychological
coercion.
 Women, men, and children
may be victims of
rape, and victims may be
straight or gay.

4. Date Rape: It can happen to
anyone
 Date rape is difficult to talk about
 Date rape is a serious crime
 Date rape is a violation of one’s body and trust
 Behaviors in date rape are the same as rape
by a stranger or by an acquaintance or
someone in your family
 Date rape has nothing to do with love or
passion

5. If Date Rape Happens to You
 Remember that rape is rape. You are not to
blame. Know that action against the rapist can
prevent others from becoming victims.
 Get help immediately. Phone the police, a friend,
a rape crisis center, a relative. Don’t isolate
yourself, don’t feel guilty or ashamed, and don’t
try to ignore it. It is a crime that should be
reported.

6. If It Happens To You
 Get medical attention as soon as possible. Do
not shower, wash, or change your clothes.
Valuable evidence could be destroyed.
 Get counseling to help you through the
recovery process. Rape is a traumatic
experience and trained counselors can make
recovery easier and quicker.

7. Why Does It Happen?
 Although things are changing,
society still frequently
encourages men to be
competitive and aggressive
and teaches women to be
passive and avoid
confrontation.
 Men say they misunderstand
a woman’s words and actions
– the excuse, “She said no,
but meant yes”.

8. Facts and Myths About Date
Rape
 Rape is only
committed by
strangers in dark
alleys and parking
lots.
 As many as 84% of
women are raped by
someone they know,
such as friends,
family or an
acquaintance.
Myth Fact

9. Facts and Myths About Date
Rape
 If a woman is
raped, then she
must have deserved
it, especially if she
agreed to go to the
man’s room or wore
sexy clothing.
 No one deserves to
be raped. Being in a
man’s room or
wearing revealing
clothing does not
mean a woman has
agreed to have sex.
Myth Fact

10. Facts and Myths About Date
Rape
 Women who don’t
physically fight back
haven’t been raped.
 If a woman did not or
could not consent to
having sex, it is
considered rape.
Forcing a woman to
have sex against her
will, whether she
physically fights back
or not, is rape, plain
and simple.
Myth Fact

11. Facts and Myths About Date
Rape
 If there isn’t a
weapon
involved, you
haven’t been raped.
 Whether the man
uses a weapon, his
fists, the weight of
his body, verbal
threats, drugs, alcoh
ol, or takes
advantage of a
woman’s diminished
physical or mental
state to force her to
have sex, it is rape.
Myth Fact

12. Facts and Myths About Date
Rape
 It’s not rape if the
man is her boyfriend
or husband or if they
have had sex before
 A woman has the
right to decide what
she does with her
body at all times – if
she does not want
to have sex, it is her
decision, even if she
willingly had sex
with the man before.
Myth Fact

13. Facts and Myths About Date
Rape
 When a woman
agrees to “make
out” with a man, she
is implying that she
will have intercourse
with him, too.
 Everyone has the
right to say “no” to
sexual activity,
regardless of what
has preceded it, and
to have that “no”
respected.
Myth Fact

14. Facts and Myths About Date
Rape
 Women lie about
being raped,
especially when
they accuse men
they date or other
acquaintances.
 Rape really happens
– to people you
know, by people you
know.
Myth Fact

15. Facts and Myths About Date
Rape
 When men are
sexually aroused,
they can’t stop
themselves from
forcing sex on a
woman.
 Men are still able to
control themselves
even after becoming
sexually excited.
Myth Fact

16. Facts and Myths About Date
Rape
 Only women are
raped.
 Ten percent of rape
cases involve men
as a victim.
Myth Fact

17. As A Woman, You Can
 Be clear with men in
your life about what,
if any sexual
behavior you are
comfortable with.
 Do not use alcohol
or other drugs.
 Trust your gut
feelings.
 Check out a first
date or blind date
with friends.
 Leave social events
with friends, not with
strangers.
 Always watch your
drink and never
leave it unattended.

18. As A Man, You Can
 Realize that forcing
a woman to have
sex against her will
is rape.
 Accept a woman’s
decision when she
says “no”.
 Do not use alcohol
or drugs.
 Ask your self how
sexual stereotypes
affect your attitudes
and actions towards
women.
 Understand that if a
woman is drunk and
you have sex with
her against her will,
it’s still rape.

19. Date Rape: Staggering Stats
 For every 1,000 women attending college, there
will be 35 incidents of rape in a given academic
year.
 51.8 % of rapes occur after midnight.
 62% of completed rapes occur by classmates or
friends.
 16 % of male students who committed rape, and
10% of those who attempted rape, did so with at
least one other attacker
 57% of rapes occur while on a date.
 Women are 10 times more likely than men to be

20. 4 Major Types of Date Rape
Drugs
 Gamma Hydroxyburtryate
 Rohypnol
 Ketamine
 Ecstasy

21. Gamma Hydroxyburtryate
 Also known as GHB.
 In high doses, the drug starts to work as an
anesthetic and can result in sever adverse effects.
 These include:
 Slow heartbeat
 Decreased respiratory effort
 Unconsciousness
 Seizure-like activity
 The effects start to decrease after 3 or 4 hours.
 The health risks increase significantly when GHB is
mixed with alcohol or other drugs.

22. Rohypnol
 Is used in some countries as a surgical
anesthetic and in the treatment of some
psychiatric disorders.
 Rohypnol is the most commonly used date-
rape drug.
 It easily dissolves into all fluids and is
odorless, colorless, and tasteless.
 It is a strong tranquilizer and is 10 times
stronger than Valium.
 It is easy to overdose on Rohypnol when
mixed with alcohol and can leave the victim
unconscious after about a minute depending

23. Rohypnol
 When under the influence
of this drug, the victim is in
a sedated state that is just
the way the rapist wants
them.
 They do not have the
ability to fight off an attack.
 The effect of the drug can
last for up to 12 hours.

24. Ketamine
 Ketamine- A dissociative anesthetic,
developed in the mid 1960’s, used primarily for
veterinary purposes.
 It comes in the form of a clear liquid and can
be placed into any type of drink.
 The drug causes a combination of amnesia
and hallucinations.
 It also stops the feeling of pain and lowers the
heart rate leading to oxygen starvation to the
brain and muscles.
 It can lead to temporary paralysis.

25. Ecstasy
 Ecstasy comes in a tablet that can come in
many different colors and usually has some
type of design on the surface.
 Ecstasy causes inappropriate and/or
unintended emotional bonding, tendency to
say things you might feel uncomfortable about
later.
 It can also cause muscle tension, increase in
body
temperature, hypothermia, dehydration, nause
a, and vomiting.

26. Signs of Being Dosed
 You feel intoxicated when you have been
drinking a non-alcoholic beverage.
 You wake up feeling fuzzy.
 You have injuries to your body that you cannot
explain.
 You start to feel dizzy or sick suddenly after
drinking the beverage. You feel as if you are
going to pass out.

27. If You Have Been Dosed
 Get to a safe place and tell someone you trust.
 Get someone to transport you to a hospital or
call 911.
 Try to obtain a sample of the beverage for
testing.
 Call the police immediately.
 Remember that you are not alone.

28. If It Happens To Someone You
Know
 Believe the person
 Offer comfort and
support
 Do not judge
 Go with him/her to
hospital, police station,
or counseling center
 Let him/her know that
he/she is not to blame
 Don’t take over for
him/her
 Don’t force him/her to
make decisions
 Don’t minimize his/her
feelings
 Do not blame him/her by
making statements such
as, “I told you not to go
to the party”
 Encourage him/her to
seek counseling

29. Dating Safety Tips
 Open your own
beverages
 Don’t share or exchange
drinks
 Never leave a drink
unattended
 Don’t drink anything that
tastes unusual
 Never leave with
someone you just met. If
you do, give the persons
name and description to
 Always tell someone you
trust your plans for the
evening and what to do
if they don’t hear from
you.
 Take your own car.
 Have money for a taxi
or phone call
 Be aware of your
surroundings. Don’t
allow that person to
isolate you from others.

30. Facts About Teen Dating
Violence
 Teen dating violence does
not discriminate.
 It runs across race, gender,
and socioeconomic lines.
 Teens who are part of a
violent relationship are
more likely to experience
violence in their adult
relationships – violence
that’s often more severe.

31. What Does Dating Violence Look
Like?
 Teens and young adults experience the same
types of abuse in relationships as adults. This
can include:
 Physical Abuse: Any intentional use of
physical force with the intent to cause fear or
injury, like hitting, shoving, biting, strangling,
kicking or using a weapon.
 Verbal or Emotional Abuse: Non-physical
behaviors such as threats, insults, constant
monitoring, humiliation, intimidation, isolation
or stalking.

32. What Does Dating Violence
Look Like?
 Sexual Abuse: Any action that impacts a
person’s ability to control their sexual activity or
the circumstances in which sexual activity
occurs, including rape, coercion or restricting
access to birth control.
 Digital Abuse: Use of technologies and/or
social media networking to intimidate, harass or
threaten a current or ex-dating partner. This
could include demanding passwords, checking
cell phones, cyber bullying, sexting, excessive
or threatening texts or stalking on Facebook or
other social media.

33. The Facts About Teen Dating
Violence
 One in five high school girls has been
physically or sexually assaulted by a dating
partner, significantly increasing their risk of
drug abuse, suicide, and other harmful
behavior.
 A current or former boyfriend or girlfriend
victimized 94% of the 16-19 year-old female
victims of intimate partner violence.
 40% of teenage girls between the ages of 14-
17 report knowing someone their age who has
been hit or beaten by a boyfriend.

34. The Facts About Teen Dating
Violence
 58% of rape victims report having been raped
between the ages of 12-24; and, in 9 out of 10
rapes in which the offender was under 18, so
was the victim.
 Both victims and abusers attribute the
responsibility for violent dating behavior to
victims, citing reasons like: provocation by the
girl; the victim’s personality type; the girl’s
need for affection; communication problems;
and peer group influence.

35. Warning Signs
 While there are many warning signs of abuse,
here are ten of the most common to look for:
 Checking your cell phone or email without permission.
 Constant put-downs.
 Extreme jealousy or insecurity.
 Explosive temper.
 Isolating you from family or friends.
 Making false accusations.
 Mood swings.
 Physically hurting you in any way.
 Possessiveness.
 Telling you what to do.

36. The Cycle of Violence
 Phase One: Tension Building
 Batterer experiences increased tension
 Victim minimizes problems
 Batterer increases threats
 Victim withdraws
 Batterer controls more
 Tension becoming intolerable
 Victim feels like they are walking on eggshells
 Poor communication

37. The Cycle of Violence
 Phase Two: Abusive Incident
 Batterer unpredictable; believes he is losing
control
 Victim is helpless; feels trapped
 Batterer highly abusive, incident occurs
 Incidence of violence or threat occurs
 Victim traumatized
 Batterer blames victim

38. The Cycle of Violence
 Phase Three: Honeymoon Period
 Batterer is loving, apologetic and attentive
 Victim has mixed feelings
 Batterer is manipulative
 Victim feels guilty and responsible
 Batterer promises change
 Victim considers reconciliation
 Victim often recants/minimizes abuse

39. The Facts About Teen Dating
Violence
 If a teenage girl is physically assaulted during
an episode of dating violence while in high
school, she is statistically much more likely to
experience another physical assault during her
first year in college.
 Male peer support for violence against women
is a constant predictor of male violence within
post-secondary educational institutions.
 Between 1993 and 1999, 22% of all homicides
against females ages 16-19 were committed
by an intimate partner.

40. The End!