Dating abuse or dating violence is defined as the perpetration or threat of an act of violence by at least one member of an unmarried couple on the other member within the context of dating. It is also when one partner tries to maintain power and control over the other through abuse/violence.

1. Dating Violence
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2. Does he/she put down your accomplishments or goals?
Does he/she tell you which friends you can see?
Are you afraid of his/her temper or to disagree with
him/her?
Does he/she tell you that you are nothing without
him/her?
Does he/she keep checking up on you several times a
day? Or showing up unexpectedly wherever you are?
Does he/she yell at you or make fun of you in front of
your friends?
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3. Dating Violence
• Dating abuse or dating violence is
defined as the perpetration or threat
of an act of violence by at least one
member of an unmarried couple on
the other member within the context
of dating. It is also when one partner
tries to maintain power and control
over the other through
abuse/violence.
• TYPES OF DATING
VIOLENCE
• Verbal &
Emotional
• Physical
• Sexual. 3

4. TYPES OF DATING VIOLENCE
Verbal & Emotional Physical Sexual
•Emotional abuse originates
in the aggressor’s desire to
control the other person’s
behavior.
•The abuser tries to limit a
dating partner’s ability to act
independently, and
undermines their confidence.
•Verbal abuse can include
swearing at a partner,
insulting and belittling them,
and threatening or terrorizing
them with words.
•Typically, males use physical
force to assert control, while
females use it to protect
themselves, to retaliate, or
because they fear an assault.
•This type of abuse includes
hair-pulling, biting, shoving,
slapping, choking, strangling,
punching, kicking, burning,
using or threatening use of a
weapon, and forcibly
confining someone.
•Sexual abuse includes
unwanted sexual touching,
force or pressure to get a
partner to consent, rape or
attempted rape, and
attempting or having sex with
a person who is under the
influence of alcohol or drugs.
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5. Dating Violence Cycle
• Tension – such as criticism, yelling, swearing,
angry gestures, coercion, or threats
• Violence – such as physical and sexual attacks
or threats
• Seduction – such as apologies, promises to
change, or gifts
• Jealousy and possessiveness are two of the
most common warning signs of dating abuse.
Abusers use them to control the other
person's behavior.
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6. The elements that can keep the cycle in motion.
• Love for the abuser: Believing that the relationship is not
entirely bad
• Hope: Thinking things will change or it's just a phase
• Fear: Worrying that threats will become a reality, resulting in
fear of ending the relationship
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7. abusive relationship also has serious consequences
for your mental and physical health.
↘Loss of appetite
↘Headaches
↘Nervousness
↘Weight loss
↘Bruises
↘Sadness
↘Self-blame
↘Confusion
↘Anxiety
↘Guilt
↘Shame
↘Mistrust of self & others
↘Depression
↘Fear
↘Feelings of worthlessness
↘Terror
↘Permanent injury
↘Homicide/murder
↘Suicide
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8. Why Teenage Dating Violence Occurs
Teenage men may believe:
• They have the right to "control" their female partners in any way necessary
• "Masculinity" is physical aggressiveness
• They "possess" their partner
• They should demand intimacy
• They may lose respect if they are attentive and supportive toward their girlfriends
Teenage women may believe:
• They are responsible for solving problems in their relationships
• Their boyfriend's jealousy, possessiveness and even physical abuse, is "romantic"
• Abuse is "normal" because their friends are also being abused
• There is no one to ask for help 8

9. Ending Dating Violence
COMMUNICATION
ESPECIALLY IN TOUGH TIMES actions
AWARENESS
EDUCATION
FOR PARENTS, TOO
Counseling Can Help
Cases of Dating Abuse?
COUPLES COUNSELING
GROUP THERAPY
ART THERAPY
MUSIC THERAPY
ANIMAL-ASSISTED THERAPIES
Therapy for Children
Affected by Dating
Violence
PLAY THERAPY
SAND TRAY THERAPY
PARENT–CHILD interaction
therapy was specifically
designed to help children with
behavioral issues.
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10. CONCLUSION
All young people have the right to be safe in their
relationships. Dating violence affects young people in
a unique way and can have long-lasting negative
physical and psychological consequences. Providing
young people with the communication and conflict
resolution skills, support, and resources to avoid or
end unhealthy and violent relationships is key to their
well-being.
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11. References:
• Intimate Partner Violence: Consequences. (2013). Retrieved from
http://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/intimatepartnerviolence/con
sequences.html
• Almeida, Rhea V; Durkin, Tracy. (1999, July). The cultural context
model: Therapy for couples with domestic violence. Journal of Marital
and Family Therapy, 25.3, 313-24.
• Domestic Violence Facts. (2007). Retrieved from
http://www.ncadv.org/files/DomesticViolenceFactSheet%28National%
29.pdf
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12. Thank You
Hansala Indrachapa