The document discusses the inevitability of anger in everyone and emphasizes the importance of how individuals choose to respond to it. It outlines objectives like identifying anger triggers, cues, and styles, as well as strategies for effectively managing anger. Techniques include cooling off, sorting through feelings, and channeling anger into positive actions.

1. Anger
Management
Skills

2. Does everybody experience anger?
 Everybody gets angry. That is okay. You’re
going to feel how you feel. BUT: how you act
is up to you. And that matters, because how
you act leads to consequences.

3. Objectives:
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Identify your anger triggers
Know your anger cues
Know your anger style
Deal with your anger effectively

4. TRIGGERS
What bugs you?
 Something that happens that
makes you angry
 What triggers you does not
always trigger someone
else.

5. 1. You have the highest average on
social studies tests, but when report
cards are handed out, the teacher
gives someone else a higher grade
than you because he participates in
class more than you do.
a. not at all angry
b. somewhat angry
c. very angry

6. 2. Your brother bumps your arm
while you reach for something
at the dinner table, and you
knock over a pitcher. The
pitcher breaks and you get
blamed.
a. not at all angry
b. somewhat angry
c. very angry

7. 3. Your best friend has a
secret that she tells to
two other friends but not
to you.
a. not at all angry
b. somewhat angry
c. very angry

8. 4. A classmate spills juice
on your homework and the
teacher says it’s too
sloppy to hand in.
a. not at all angry
b. somewhat angry
c. very angry

9. 5. One of your friends is so
bossy that she insists on
telling you who to invite to
your birthday party.
a. not at all angry
b. somewhat angry
c. very angry

10. 6. A kid in the park insults
your best friend.
a. not at all angry
b. somewhat angry
c. very angry

11. 7. Someone in your class
spreads a rumor about
you.
a. not at all angry
b. somewhat angry
c. very angry

12. 8. Your older sister keeps
interrupting you when
you’re trying to tell your
mom something.
a. not at all angry
b. somewhat angry
c. very angry

13. 9. You tell a friend a
secret and then learn he
has told it to others.
a. not at all angry
b. somewhat angry
c. very angry

14. 10. You let your brother
borrow your new digital
watch, and the
next day he doesn’t let
you use his video game.
a. not at all angry
b. somewhat angry
c. very angry

15. 11. At the pizza place, you have
to wait ten minutes before your
order is taken because the man
behind the counter has served
two people who came in after
you.
a. not at all angry
b. somewhat angry
c. very angry

16. 12. You’re crossing the
street and a car honks at
you as if you’ve done
something wrong, but you
have the right of way.
a. not at all angry
b. somewhat angry
c. very angry

17. MAKE A LIST
 If you know your
anger triggers, then
you can either:
 1. Try to avoid them
 2. Learn how to
deal with them.

18. ANGER CUES
Clenched fist
Racing &
pounding
heartbeat
Sweat
 Your body
sends you
signals, w
hen
you’re
getting
angry.
Loud voice
Red face
Upset
stomach

19. Complete the Checklist
 What are your anger cues?

20. What’s your anger style?
 When your anger is triggered, you’re
going to react in some way. The way you
react is called your ANGER STYLE.
Dumping
Acting
Out
Burying

21. ACTING OUT
 Easiest to recognize
 It’s when you strike out
at the person you are
mad at: physically or
verbally.
 YOU’RE OUT OF
CONTROL!!!!

22. Consequences
You get in trouble
Problem is not solved

23. DUMPING
DISPLACED ANGER
 Shifting your feelings to
someone you feel it’s safe
to be mad at.
 Ex. Guy gets mad at his
boss, comes home &
yells at his wife, who yells
at the kids, who kick the
dog!!

24. Consequences
 You hurt innocent people
 Problem is not solved

25. BURYING (ignoring)
 When you hold your anger down inside
yourself because you think it isn’t nice to
have those feelings.
 Denying your angry isn’t dealing with it.
 It can come out in other ways:
headaches, stomachaches, anxious, dep
ressed
 One day you might explode!!

26. Consequences
 You hurt yourself
 You may hurt others when you
EXPLODE
 Problem is not solved

27. DEALING WITH ANGER
 When you find yourself
angry, REMEMBER the only
behavior you can manage is
YOUR own!!!
 So, pay attention to your anger
cues.
 And, if you feel like you’re going
to lose it…

28. Get a grip!!!
 1. Cool off, stay calm.
 Walk away
 Count to 10
 Take deep breaths
 Use calming self-talk: “I can handle this.
Chill. It’s not as bad as it seems.”
 Imagine you are in a peaceful place.

29.  2. Give yourself some time to sort things out.
 Write the problem down on paper.
 Think it through. Ask yourself: what really
happened? How was I triggered? What were
my cues.
 Talk it over with a friend or adult you trust.

30.  3. Turn your angry energy into a change for
the better.
 Tell the person making you angry how you feel.
 Channel your angry energy into a physical
activity.
 Try to solve the problem.
 Try to accept situations you can’t change.

31. EVERYBODY GETS ANGRY
 That’s just how it is.
 The difference comes in what you do
about it.
SO:
GET A GRIP!!!