The document discusses the concept of self-image, highlighting its formation based on appearance, performance, and importance, which affects behavior and self-perception. It identifies three basic needs crucial for a healthy self-image: love and acceptance, value and worthiness, and competence. Additionally, it emphasizes the four pillars required for recovery, including direction and the importance of setting achievable goals and self-discipline.

1. A Healthy Self Image

2. A Healthy Self Image Our self image is made up of what we think and feel about ourselves Our self image affects the way we look and the way we behave “ As a man thinks in his heart so he is” (Proverbs 23.7)

3. A Healthy Self Image The Purpose of this session is:- To discover your self image To increase your self awareness To encourage self acceptance

4. A Healthy Self Image How was our self image formed?

5. A Healthy Self Image We ask ourselves 3 questions How do I look? (Appearance) How am I doing? (Performance) How important am I? (Importance) If we get a positive answer to these questions We will have a positive self image

6. A Healthy Self Image Appearance How do I look to others? We form opinions of ourselves based on how others see us. People spend money on clothes, cosmetics, beauty aides, cosmetic surgery, dieting, weight watching, body building etc

7. A Healthy Self Image Performance How am I doing? We form opinions of ourselves based on how we compare to others, and our successes & failures We have to ‘prove’ our worth by becoming performance orientated

8. A Healthy Self Image Importance How important am I to others? How important am I to self? How important am I to God? This is related to our status. We try To get into a position of power – Then we feel better about ourselves And accepted by others

9. A Healthy Self Image 3 Basic Needs That Form Our Identity Need to Feel Loved & Accepted (A sense of Belonging) 2. Need to Feel Valued & Acceptable (A sense of Worthiness) 3. Need to Feel Adequate (A sense of Competence)

10. A Healthy Self Image The 4 Pillars to a Sound Recovery 1. Need to Feel Loved & Accepted = A sense of Belonging 2. Need to Feel Valued & Acceptable = A sense of Worthiness 3. Need to Feel Adequate = A sense of Competence 4. Need for Direction = A sense of Purpose IDENTITY Need to set achievable goals Need to forgive self & others Need for tough love-self discipline Need to be aware of highs & lows

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