This document discusses obtaining fierce conversations through effective interpersonal communication. It defines a fierce conversation as one that is intense, strong, powerful, passionate, and eager. The goal is to have genuine, authentic discussions where all parties deal openly with reality. Barriers to communication like noise pollution and a lack of understanding other perspectives must be overcome. Strategies include active listening, maintaining an open mind, avoiding distractions, and focusing on understanding rather than judging. Regular practice and studying communication principles from the Bible can help fuel productive fierce conversations.

1. Interpersonal Communication Project
Communicating with a Fierce Conversation Santosha Deen
HSER 508
Liberty
University

2. Communication Where Humanness Happens
• Communication is the
continuous, complex,
collaborative process of verbal
and nonverbal meaning making.
(Stewart, 2012)
• Communication derives from the
root word “commune” sharing
information and connecting with
others. (Peterson, 2007)
• The spiritually minded believe
you can also commune with
God. (Peterson, 2007)

3. Overarching Goal
Obtaining a Fierce Conversation
 Intense
 Strong
 Powerful
 Passionate
 Eager
 Robust conversation
(Stewart,
2012)

4. Overarching Goal Obtaining a Fierce Conversation
• Not to operate in anger or
hostility;
Being genuinely present
Authentic in as many as possible
of the conversations you
experience (Stewart, 2012)
• “The goal of an intense
conversation is to get reality on
the table where you can deal
with it”(McVey, 2010)
• A recent study shows that most
students engineer responses to
please the teacher without
conversation or collaboration.
They are just wanting to get the
right answer (Kipp-Newbold,

5. Obtaining a Fierce Conversation
For the word of
God is quick, and
powerful, and
sharper than any
two-edged sword,
piercing even to
the dividing
asunder of soul
and spirit, and of
the joints and
marrow, and is a
discerner of the
thoughts and
intents of the

6. Enlarging the conversation
Obtaining a Fierce Conversation
• Enlarging the
conversation is when we
conquer the
flaws/demons that can
hinder our personalities
from operating to its
fullest. This means we
are able to function with
different personalities
and are capable of
responding to people
who may think or
respond differently than
we do.
• I have concluded that
enlarging the
conversation has a lot to

7. The Four Temperament Model of
Human Behavior
• Passive/Peo
ple-oriented
• Steady, stable,
shy, specialists,
submissive
• Passive/
Task-
oriented
• Cautious,
competent, careful,
• Active/People
–oriented
• Inspiring,
influencing,
interested in people
• Active/ Task-
oriented
• Directing, driving,
demanding
D I
SC
(Carbonell,200

8. My Behavioral BlendI am expected to be an
S
This is me C/S
D I S C
Graph
D I S C
Graph
Uniquely You Profile

9. My DISC Tendencies
I AM
 D - is direct to the point
 I -
promoting, encour
aging, smiling happy
 S - True Blue, Calm
Obedient, Compassion
ate, Generous, Loyal, S
weet, Merciful
 C-
Conscientious, Thinker,
Inquisitive
I’M NOT
 D -
demanding, opinionat
ed, controlling
 I -
Popular, clowning, talk
ative
 S - soft spoken , timid
 C -
Perfectionists, Precise

10. Interpersonal Skills Test
• Can interpret
other people’s
words and
actions
• Few
misunderstandi
ngs
• See things from
other peoples
perspective
• Empathy
• Will adjust
yourself
according to
Interpersonal Communication
Skills
100%Insightful

11. Quenching The Fierce Conversation
Being Out Of Control
• Fear
• Not speaking out
• Not allowing time for
myself
• Only listening to people
• “Sucker”
(Carbonell, 2008)

12. Fueling The Fierce Conversation
Mature or In Control
• Education and
experience has a way
of strengthening my
personality
• Although considered
an introvert I can act
like and extrovert
• People no longer see
me as a nerd but a
knowledgeable
person.
(Carbonell,2008
)

13. • Not Having a Response To
Malevolent or Benevolent
lies
“Let her lie”
• Listening with the “Flat-Brain”
• Out of Control thoughts
• Not allowing the speaker to
talk
• Not studying the Bible
Potential barriers to interpersonal communication

14. Dealing with potential barriers to interpersonal
communication
• Play detective
• Restore truth
• Non judgmental
• Empathetic Listening
• Taking ownership of thoughts
and feelings
• Help the Talker give birth to
their conversation
• Transform my mind (Romans
12:1-2)

15. Noise Pollution
• My beliefs
• My Experiences
• Actual Noise
• Visual Distractions

16. Solution To External Noise
Pollution
Do
• Listen with understanding
• Be non judgmentally and
noncritical
• Have eye contact
• Face the person with an open
relaxed posture
• Acknowledge the talker by
Nodding head
Leaning forward
Making facial expressions
that match the talkers
feelings
Do Not
• Interrupt
• Fidget
• Tune out what
the other
person is
saying
( Burley-

17. Solutions To Internal Noise Pollution
• Listen to yourself (Burley-
Allen,1995)
Going Somewhere Cycle
Situation
Thought
Process
Behavior
Feelings

18. A Plan of Action Obtaining a Fierce
Conversation
• Search for Something to use; find areas of
common interest
• Take the initiative
• Work at listening
• Focus Your Attention on Ideas
• Make meaningful Notes
• Resist External Distractions
• Hold Rebuttal; Watch Out for Hot Buttons
• Keep an Open Mind: Ask Questions to
Clarify for Understanding
• Summarize
• Practice Regularly
• Analyze What Is Said Nonverbally
• Evaluate and Be Critical of Content, Not
the Speaker’s Delivery
Burley-Allen
,1995

19. A Plan of Action Obtaining a Fierce
Conversation
Study The Word
Of God And
Apply It To My
Conversation
Colossians 4:6

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