4. Effective People Ineffective People
BE PROACTIVE BE REACTIVE
Proactive people take responsibility
for their own lives. They determine
the agendas they will follow and
choose their response to what
happens around them.
Reactive people don’t take
responsibility for their own
lives. They feel victimized, a
product of circumstances,
their past, and other people.
They do not see as the
creative force of their lives.
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7. you could have a
good day no matter
what comes your way.
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8. Reactive People Proactive People
There’s nothing I can do
That’s just the way I am.
He makes me so mad.
I have to do that
I must
If Only
Let’s look at our
alternatives.
I can choose a different
approach.
I Control my own feelings.
I will choose an
appropriate response.
I prefer
I will.
You can choose your language
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11. o Begin with the End in Mind means
developing a clear picture of where you
want to go with your life.
o Deciding what your values are
o Setting Goals
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12. o Good reasons to have an end in
mind
▪ The paths you choose now can affect
you forever.
▪ If you don’t decide your own future,
someone else will do it for you.
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13. A powerful document that expresses your personal
sense of Purpose and meaning in life. It acts as a
governing Constitution by which you evaluate decisions
and choose behaviors.
End in mind is very important for everybody.
When you wake up, you should plan to do
something for today.
You can start with what is the beginning, how you
will act to others, and where you will end up for
today.
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15. Key Paradigms
“I will focus on importance instead
of urgency.”
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16. Importance
An activity is important if you personally find it
valuable, and if it contributes to your mission
values, and high-priority goals.
Urgency
An activity is urgent if you or others feel that it
requires immediate attention.
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17. Effective Management is putting first
things first
Urgent Matters are usually visible
Important Matters contribute to our
mission
Effective People stay out of III & IV
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18. . Crisis
. Pressing problems
. Deadline-driven projects,
meetings, preparations
. Preparation
. Prevention
. Values clarification
. Planning
. Relationship building
. True re-creation
. Empowerment
. Interruptions, some
phone calls
. Some mail, some reports
. Some meetings
. Many proximate,
pressing matters
. Many popular activities
. Trivia, busywork
. Some phone calls
. Time wasters
. “Escape” activities
. Irrelevant mail
. Excessive TV
I II
III IV
Urgent Not Urgent
ImportantNotImportant
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20. SIX PARADIGMS OF HUMAN INTERACTION
Win-Win Win-Lose Lose-Win
Lose-Lose Win Win-Win or No-Deal
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21. Competition can be very healthy. It drive you
to improve to reach and stretch but it
becomes dark when you use it as a way to
place yourself above others.
Comparing your self with others. This is
cancerous and will only lead to bad news. It
will make us feel inferior to others. The only
thing you should compare yourself to is your
own potential.
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22. Win/Win is not a personality technique.
It’s a total paradigm of human
interaction. It comes from a character of
integrity, maturity, and the Abundance
Mentality. It grows out of high-trust
relationships. It is embodied in
agreements that effectively clarify and
manage expectations as well as
accomplishment. It thrives in supportive
systems.
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23. Win/Win seeks mutual benefits in all human
interactions.
Win/Win means that agreements or solutions are
mutually beneficial.
Win/Win is the belief that it’s not your way or my way;
it’s a better way, a higher way.
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24. Win/Lose states If I win
you lose.
In Leadership style,
Win/Lose is a
authoritarian approach.
Win/Lose people are
prone to use position,
power, credentials,
possessions, or
personality to get their
way.
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25. Lose/Win stands for no
demands, no expectations, no
vision.
People who think Lose/Win are
usually quick to please or
appease.
They seek strength from
popularity or acceptance.
Lose/Win people have little
courage to express their own
feelings and convictions and
are easily intimidated by the
ego strength of others.
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26. When two Win/Lose determine, stubborn, ego-invested
individuals interact-the result will be Lose/Lose.
Both will Lose. Both will become vindictive and want to
“get back” or “get even,” blind to the fact that murder is
suicide, that revenge is a two-edged sword.
Lose/Lose is the philosophy of the highly dependent person
without inner direction who is miserable and thinks
everyone else should be, too.
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People with the Win
mentality don’t
necessarily want someone
else to lose. That’s
irrelevant.
What matters is that they
get what they want.
Win mentality thinks in
terms of securing his own
ends-and leaving it to
others to secure theirs.
28. No Deal basically means that if we can’t find
a solution that would benefit us both, we
agree to disagree agreeably-No Deal.
No expectations have been created, no
performance contracts established.
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29. Habit #5Based on the work of Stephen Covey
Seek first to
Understand, Then
to be
Understood
30. You need to understand other first before you
start wanting other to understand you.
Listen first, talk second.
Understand other will have a big effect on how
you judge the person.
Seeking First to Understand is only half of habit
5.
Seeking to Be Understood is way more
challenging since it require courage.
If you can understand other, then other will
surely understand you too.
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31. Ignoring Making no effort to listen
Pretend Listening Making believe or giving the appearance you
are listening
Selective Listening Hearing only the parts of the conversation
that interest you.
Attentive Listening Paying attention and focusing on what the
speaker says, and comparing that to your
own experiences.
Empathic Listening Listening and responding with both the heart
and mind to understand the speaker’s words,
intent and feelings.
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33. Synergizing or synergy is when you
achieve something with more than
one person or in a group to create a
better solution.
Its not my way or your way it’s a
better way to solve or do something.
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34. When you use synergy in your everyday life
you’re a team worker. You want to hear other
people’s opinions and what they have to say .
You don’t ignore them or say no to whatever
they may have to say.
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35. An example of synergy is two heads are
better than one. Which is when two
people are thinking you could solve a
problem a better way or have a better
solution for that problem.
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38. You need to restore your health and take
care of yourself to be prepared.
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39. Eat good food
Relax
Get enough sleep
Practice yoga
Play sports
Take walks
Stretch out
Aerobics workout
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40. Read newspapers
Visit a library
Write a story
Debate
Play board games
Play an instrument
You have to want
something to get it.
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41. Renew and awaken your
inner self.
Meditate, pray
Draw, write, read
Walk, listen to music
Get real
You can do it.
Treat your soul with
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42. Habit #8Based on the work of Stephen Covey
Find your voice
and inspire
Others to find
theirs
43. Find your voice ….&inspire
others to do likewise
Find your voice Inspire others to find their
voices
Focus Execution
•Find your voice
•Express your voice
•Expand your influence
•Be trustworthy
•Build trust
•Blend others voices
•Create a common vision
•Align goals and system
•Empower others
44. To find your voice means to
engage in work that genuinely
taps your talents and fuels your
passion
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45. Three gifts of nature
Freedom to choose
Laws of nature
The four intelligences
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