The document discusses how emerging technologies can negatively impact relationships by allowing people to hide from each other and avoid real interactions. It argues that while technology provides benefits, overreliance on technology for communication weakens interpersonal connections. The document advocates using technology like video conferencing to supplement but not replace in-person interactions, which are needed to build trust and understand nonverbal cues. It encourages being fully present with others rather than distracted by devices, and connecting with people locally rather than staring at screens.
1. HIGH TECH ≠ HIGH TOUCH
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How To Use Emerging Technology
To Forge Deeper, Stronger Relationships
Jeff Turner, President, Zeek Interactive, Twitter: @jeffturner
2. Alone Together
“Our networked life allows us to hide from each other, even as we are
tethered to each other. We’d rather text than talk.” – Sherry Turkle
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3. Enthusiastic About Technological Change
“Every technology is both a burden and a blessing;
not either-or, but this-and-that.” – Neil Postman
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4. What’s Wrong With This Picture?
Nothing. That’s the problem.
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5. Media Changes The Way We Behave
“New media not only affect the way people behave, but they eventually
affect the way people feel they should behave.” – Joshua Meyrowitz
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6. What Captures Your Attention?
“Giving undivided attention is the first and most basic
ingredient in any relationship.” – Kare Anderson, Harvard Business Review
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7. Technology Is A State Of Culture
“It is also a state of mind. It consists in the deification of technology, which
means that the culture seeks its authorization in technology, finds its
satisfactions in technology, and takes its orders from technology.” – Neil Postman
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8. What Problem Does This Solve?
“Our most serious problems are not technical, nor do they arise from
inadequate information.” – Neil Postman
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9. No Sense Of Place
“Whether media have actually affected the amount of family interaction
may be less of an issue than the fact that they have changed the
uniqueness of what goes on in the home.” – Joshua Meyrowitz
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10. Technology Is Not A Differentiator
“Truly different behaviors require truly distinct situations.” – Joshua Meyrowitz
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11. We’re Missing The Nonverbal
“A person can lie verbally much more easily
than he or she can “lie” non verbally.” – Joshua Meyrowitz
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12. It’s Time To Pause
… and consider how we want the world to look.
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13. Awareness Brings Opportunity
You have the ability to alter your behavior, and change the game.
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14. Be In The Moment
Be where you are, with who you’re with.
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15. How We Engage Matters
I will do business with someone I can laugh with.
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16. Seek Hugs Over Likes
Use the computer to get off of the computer.
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17. The Fastest Way To Trust
When it comes to trust, nothing is more efficient than face-to-face.
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18. Technology Is Not Neutral
“When you adopt a technology, you also adopt
the philosophy embedded in that technology.” - Clay Shirky
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19. Facebook Has An Agenda
If you’re not vigilent, their agenda becomes your agenda.
Don’t adopt philosophies counter to your own philosophy.
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22. SEO, yes. But YEO as well.
Even blogging can take a different direction when
the focus shifts to “You Engaging Others.”
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23. Connect Locally
How many opportunities are you missing by staring at your phone?
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24. Eyes Over Screens
Get out from behind the computer.
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25. Real Parties Over Virtual Parties
The real thing is always better. Never forget that.
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26. Analog Over Digital
“It is important to remember what can be done
without computers” – Neil Postman
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27. HIGH TECH ≠ HIGH TOUCH
Ignore
How To Use Emerging Technology
To Forge Deeper, Stronger Relationships
Jeff Turner, President, Zeek Interactive, Twitter: @jeffturner
Editor's Notes
“For one thing, in cultures that have a democratic ethos, relatively weak traditions, and a high receptivity to new technologies, everyone is inclined to be enthusiastic about technological change, believing that its benefits will eventually spread evenly among the entire population. Especially in the United States, where the lust for what is new has no bounds, do we find this childlike conviction most widely held. Indeed, in America, social change of any kind is rarely seen as resulting in winners and losers, a condition that stems in part from Americans’ much-documented optimism. As for change brought on by technology, this native optimism is exploited by entrepreneurs, who work hard to infuse the population with a unity of improbable hope, for they know that it is economically unwise to reveal the price to be paid for technological change. One might say, then, that, if there is a conspiracy of any kind, it is that of a culture conspiring against itself.” – Neil Postman
This is not a Gen Y issue.Just because a new behavior is accepted, doesn’t meant it’s better, or more effective. It’s just means we are permitting it. But we’re more than “permitting it,” we’re seeking it out as a culture. It is becoming the way we behave.
From Kare Anderson’s post: “A few years ago, DisneyWorld executives were wondering what most captured the attention of toddlers and infants at their theme park and hotels in Orlando, Florida. So they hired me and a cultural anthropologist to observe them as they passed by all the costumed cast members, animated creatures, twirling rides, sweet-smelling snacks, and colorful toys. But after a couple of hours of close observation, we realized that what most captured the young children's attention wasn't Disney-conjured magic. Instead it was their parents' cell phones, especially when the parents were using them.Those kids clearly understood what held their parents' attention — and they wanted it too. Cell phones were enticing action centers of their world as they observed it. When parents were using their phones, they were not paying complete attention to their children.Giving undivided attention is the first and most basic ingredient in any relationship. It is impossible to communicate, much less bond, with someone who can't or won't focus on you. At the same time, we often fail to realize how what we focus on comes to control our thoughts, our actions, and indeed, our very lives.”
We have lost our sense of place. We are being forced in to a sea of homogenous behaviors where everyone begins to look alike.
"Attendants at its birth, we threw ourselves into its adventure. This is human. But these days, our problems with the Net are becoming too distracting to ignore. At the extreme, we are so enmeshed in our connections that we neglect each other. We don’t need to reject or disparage technology. We need to put it in its place.” – Sherry Turkle