Human love as described in marriage has certain key characteristics: - It is love for a unique person in their entirety, including their qualities and circumstances. This creates a unique bond between each couple. - It is total, meaning love for the totality of the other and a willingness to generously share all aspects of oneself. - It is intended to last forever, with a commitment to remain faithful until death rather than having temporary limits.

1. LOVE AND MARRIAGE 4
CAUSES OF SEXUAL ATTRACTION

2. CAUSES OF SEXUAL ATTRACTION
May be Aesthetic, Romantic, Sensual, Sexual

5. 1 - Aesthetic Attraction
This is a constant theme of art

6. The appreciation of the “forms” is an artistic theme in all ages

7. The proportions of the body,

8. and the aesthetics of it’s graceful movements.

9. 2 - Romantic – affective affinity

10. friendship where one is appreciated is favoured by everyone

11. Qualities such as thoughfulness, virtues like goodness,
generosity, and affection are valued highly.

12. It is easier to fall in love with a saint than a demon

13. 3 - Sensual nearness

14. Strong friendship favours intimacy, nearness, tenderness

15. gestures which are more easily given and received

16. Sexual attraction

17. This contains elements of the previous mentioned,
aesthetic, romantic, and sensual causes

18. But it is also distinctly and specifically sexual.

19. The presence of the “other” excites sexually
with corresponding physical and psychological movements

20. In the male, attraction is the result of
mostly aesthetic and physical factors
Differences in sexes –

21. In the female,
attaction is
mostly the
result of the
psychological –
affective and
sensual factors

22. There is normally graduation and sequence in a relationship,
aesthetic – affective – closeness – sexual intimacy

23. •CAUSES OF SEXUAL ATTRACTION
May be Aesthetic, Romantic, Sensual, Sexual
Aesthetic
This is a constant theme of art
The appreciation of the “forms” is an artistic theme in all ages
The proportions of the body, and the aesthetics of it’s graceful movements.
Romantic - affective
friendship where one is appreciated and love, is favoured by everyone
Qualities such as thoughfulness, virtues like goodness, generosity, and
affection are valued highly. It is easier to fall in love with a saint than a demon
Sensual
Strong friendship favours intimacy, nearness, tenderness gestures which are
more easily given and received
Sexual attraction
Contains elements of the previous mentioned, aesthetic, romantic, and sensual
causes
But it is also distinctly and specifically sexual.
The presence of the “other” excites sexually
With corresponding physical and psychological movements
Differences in sexes
In the male, attraction is mostly the result of the aesthetic and physical factors
In the female, attaction is mostly the result of the psychological-afective and
sensual factors
There is normally graduation and sequence ina relationship, aesthetic – affective –
closeness – sexual intimacy

24. LOVE AND MARRIAGE 5
•FREEDOM AND INTIMACY

25. Everyman and every woman, with normal health,
shares life with other men and women
Men and women live in communities in society

26. Sexual consciousness
can range from
latent to aroused

27. All have to learn to deal with each other
taking into consideration the totality of the person,
which includes their sexuality.

28. The attraction between the sexes tends toward sexual unión
Attraction at a distance leads to relating socially

29. Appreciation of the person behind the body,
can lead to strong emotional attachment

30. Although natural virtues make it easier to love a person,
the time and effort involved, is freely given by each partner

31. Though it
is easy to
“fall in love”
especially
with a certain
person with
many qualities
or virtues

32. yet letting oneself fall, or following up a relationship,
is a free act of the will.

33. discovering the other’s personality in it’s totality
requires time and attention

34. developing a relationship involves our liberty,
and is not just determined by nature or fate.

35. Although there are famous examples of love at first sight,
normally a relationship must pass through different phases
Isaac and
Rebecca
Jacob and Rachel

36. Love at first sight

37. Ed & Sandra
Austin & Sam
Rodolfo & Mimi
Bella & Edward

38. Amanda and Jim
Jack and Rose
Rick and Rachel

39. Stanley & Sophie
Fleur & Michael
Louis & Lyla
Tony & Maria

40. The dynamics of “agreeing with each other”
and going ahead with the relationship
is fruit of free decisions on both sides.

41. Progress is made and the relationship deepens

42. There arrives in the relationship a moment to pass onto
a new superior level, - The level of sexual intimacy.

43. Though sexual instinct
may be very powerful,
as mentioned,
the actual unión of a pair
involves the concessions
of free will on both sides.
They create the atmosphere
and circumstances
whereby they can pass
on to this new level
in their relationship.

44. It does not occur by accident,
but is prepared by many previous free acts
no matter how small and insignificant they seem

45. Sexual intimacy is a superior level in the relationship

46. It marks a divide
between before
and after,
because sexuality
is very intimate
and personal,
and affects
the psychology
of each partner
powerfully.

47. in a loving relationship, each one may be more or less
conscious of different motives why they wish to live together.

48. Some couples are very introverted
and the affection and passion of their relationship
may absorb all their attention

49. Others are more capable of putting
their relationship in context and seeing
the dimensión of a life project together
the forming of a family together

50. Couples, according to their maturity,
competence and control, may determine
together when and how to pass on
to this new level of intimacy

51. Some for lack of reflection pass the line toward intimacy
without much thought, without much responsability

52. Others plan when and where to pass
to this stage - when to marry

53. and announce and proclaim their love
publicly, before the community.

54. Among christians this proclamation
will receive the blessing of the Church
(which comes from Christ)
called the sacrament of marriage.

55. •FREEDOM AND INTIMACY
Men and women live in communities in society
Everyman and everywoman, with normal health, shares life with other men and women
Sexual consciousness can range from latent to aroused
All have to learn to deal with each other taking into consideration the totality of the person, which includes their sexuality.
The attraction between the sexes tends toward sexual unión
Attraction at a distance leads to relating socially
Appreciation of the person behind the body, can lead to strong emotional attachment
Although nature and virtue make it easier to love a person
The time and effort involved, is freely given by each partner,
Though it is easy to “fall in love” especially with a certain person with many qualities or virtues
Yet letting oneself fall, or follow up a relationship, is a free act of the will.
Discovering the other’s personality in it’s totality requires time and attention
Developing a relationship involves our liberty, and is not just determined by nature or fate.
Although there are famous examples of love at first sight, normally a relationship must pass through different phases
The dynamics of “agreeing with each other” and going ahead with the relationship is fruit of free decisions on both sides.
Progress is made and the relationship deepens
There arrives in the relationship a moment to pass onto a new superior level,
The level of sexual intimacy.
Though sexual instinct may be very powerful, as mentioned, the actual unión of a pair involves the concessions of free will on both
sides. They create the atmosphere and circumstances whereby they can pass on to this new level.
It does not occur by accident, but is prepared by many previous free acts no matter how small and insignificant they seem
Sexual intimacy is a superior level in the relationship
It marks a divide between before and after because sexualtiy is very intímate and personal, and affects the psychology of each partner
powerfully.
in a loving relationship, each one may be more or less conscious of different motives why they wish to live together.
Some couples are very introverted and the affection and passion of their relationship may absorbs all their attention.
Others are more capable of putting their relationship in context and seeing
The dimensión of a life project together
The forming of family; procreating children together.
Couples, according to their maturity, competence and control, may determine together when and how to pass on to this new level of
intimacy
Some for lack of reflection pass the line toward intimacy without much thought, without much responsability
Others plan when and where to pass to this stage, when to marry
And announce and proclaim their love publicly, to the community.
Among christians this proclamation will receive the blessing of the Church (which comes from Christ) called the
sacrament of marriage.

56. LOVE AND MARRIAGE 6
HUMAN LOVE

57. Marriage, is not the effect of chance -
or the result of the blind evolution of natural forces.
- The couple freely enter into this like a contract.

58. It is not, merely a question of natural instinct or emotional drive.

59. It is above all, an act of the free will, whose trust is such
that it is meant not only to survive the joys and sorrows of daily life,

60. but also to grow, so that husband and wife become in a way one heart
and one soul, and together attain their human fulfillment.

61. This love is destined to help the couple
realize themselves in life more completely

62. HUMAN LOVE - has certain characteristics

63. It is love for a PERSON
in their uniqueness;
their temperament, character,
virtues and vices,
circumstances and background,
education and culture.

64. Both are unique and irrepetible

65. Their relationship and
union is also UNIQUE.
No two relationships
are the same –
Each couple will form
a unique family -

66. the childen with their own characters,
and order and sex, make infinite
possible combinations that give
a UNIQUE quality to all families.

67. It is a love which is TOTAL.
It is love for the totality of the other person,
in their completeness with the totality of my person

68. that very special form of personal friendship in which husband
and wife GENEROUSLY SHARE everything, allowing no unreasonable
exceptions and not thinking solely of their own convenience.

69. Whoever really loves his spouse
loves not only for what he receives,
but loves that partner for the partner's own sake,
content to be able to enrich the other with the gift of oneself

71. The acceptance of this commitment is FOREVER
Married love is also faithful and this until death.

72. It means committing yourself to this
individual in his/her entirety
which means as long
as they last in this life.
Therefore true love is FOREVER.

73. We cannot imagine marriage for a year or two,
putting limits on love as in the so called “trial marriage”

74. FAITHFUL AND EXCLUSIVE
It is not posible to give marital type love to more than one person
Because of it’s total and intímate nature (psychological, affective, passionate)

75. The love of a married couple is particular and special, just between them
And it cannot be duplicated or repeated with another

76. This is how husband and wife understand it on the day
on which, fully aware of what they are doing,
they freely vow themselves to one another in marriage.

77. Though this fidelity of husband and wife sometimes presents difficulties,
no one has the right to assert that it is impossible;
It is, on the contrary, always honorable and meritorious.

78. The example of countless married couples proves not only
that fidelity is in accord with the nature of marriage, but also
that it is the source of profound and enduring happiness.

79. Marriage is a natural institution, inscribed in the physical,
biological and psychological nature of man

80. Husband and wife, through that mutual gift of themselves,
which is specific and exclusive to them alone, develop that union
of two persons in which they perfect one another,

81. Fecund or fruitful
It is not confined
wholly to the loving
interchange of
husband and wife;
it also contrives
to go beyond this
to bring new life
into being.

82. and they participate in the natural laws of generation of new lives.

83. And in the social function of rearing these their children

84. This love is above all fully HUMAN,
a compound of SENSE and SPIRIT

85. •HUMAN LOVE - has certain characteristics
 Marriage, then, is not
the effect of chance
or the result of the blind evolution of natural forces.
The couple freely enter into this like a contract.
It is not, then, merely a question of natural instinct or emotional drive.
It is also, and above all, an act of the free will, whose trust is such that it is meant not only to survive the joys and sorrows of daily
life, but also to grow, so that husband and wife become in a way one heart and one soul, and together attain their human fulfillment.
This love is destined to help the couple realize themselves in life more completely
ONE
It is love for a PERSON in their UNIQUENESS.
Their temperament, charácter, virtues and vices, circumstances and background, education and culture,
Both are unique and irrepetible
Their relationship and unión is also unique. No two are the same
each couple forms a unique family
the childen with their own characters, and order and sex, make infinite possible combinations that give a unique
identity to all families.
It is a love which is TOTAL
It is love for the totality of the other person, in their completeness
With the totality of my person
that very special form of personal friendship in which husband and wife generously share everything, allowing no unreasonable
exceptions and not thinking solely of their own convenience.
Whoever really loves his partner loves not only for what he receives, but loves that partner for the partner's own sake, content to be
able to enrich the other with the gift of himself
Song by John Legend
'Cause all of me
Loves all of you
Love your curves and all your edges
All your perfect imperfections
Give your all to me
I'll give my all to you
You're my end and my beginning
Even when I lose I'm winning
'Cause I give you all of me
And you give me all of you,

86. FOREVER
The moment of acceptance of this commitment is forever
Married love is also faithful and this until death
and commiting yourself to this individual in his/her entirety,
which means as long as they last in this life. Therefore true love is forever.
We cannot imagine marriage for a year or two, putting limits on love as in the so called “trial marriage”
FAITHFUL AND EXCLUSIVE
It is not posible to give marital type love to more than one person
Because of it’s total and intímate nature (psychological, affective, passionate)
The love of a married couple is particular and special, just between them
And it cannot be duplicated or repeated with another
This is how husband and wife understood it on the day on which, fully aware of what they were doing, they freely
vowed themselves to one another in marriage.
Though this fidelity of husband and wife sometimes presents difficulties, no one has the right to assert that it is
impossible;
it is, on the contrary, always honorable and meritorious.
The example of countless married couples proves not only that fidelity is in accord with the nature of marriage, but also
that it is the source of profound and enduring happiness.
Marriage is a NATURAL INSTITUTION, inscribed in the physical, biological and psychological nature of man
husband and wife, through that mutual gift of themselves, which is specific and exclusive to them alone, develop that
union of two persons in which they perfect one another,
FECUND OR FRUITFUL
It is not confined wholly to the loving interchange of husband and wife;
it also contrives to go beyond this to bring new life into being.
and they participate in the natural laws of generation of new lives.
And in the social function of rearing these their children
This love is above all fully HUMAN, a compound of SENSE and SPIRIT.

87. LIST OF PRESENTATIONS IN ENGLISH
Revised 11-6-2020
Advent and Christmas – time of hope and peace
Amoris Laetitia – ch 1 – In the Light of the Word
Amoris Laetitia – ch 2 – The Experiences and Challenges of Families
Amoris Laetitia – ch 3 - Looking to Jesus, the Vocation of the Family
Amoris Laetitia – ch 4 - Love in Marriage
Amoris Laetitia – ch 5 – Love made Fruitfuol
Amoris Laetitia – ch 6 – Some Pastoral Perspectives
Amoris Laetitia – ch 7 – Towards a better education of children
Amoris Laetitia – ch 8 – Accompanying, discerning and integrating weaknwss
Amoris Laetitia – ch 9 – The Spirituality of Marriage and the Family
Beloved Amazon 1ª – A Social Dream
Beloved Amazon 2 - A Cultural Dream
Beloved Amazon 3 – An Ecological Dream
Beloved Amazon 4 - An Ecclesiastical Dream
Carnival
Christ is Alive
Familiaris Consortio (FC) 1 – Church and Family today
Familiaris Consortio (FC) 2 - God’s plan for the family
Familiaris Consortio (FC) 3 – 1 – family as a Community
Familiaris Consortio (FC) 3 – 2 – serving life and education
Familiaris Consortio (FC) 3 – 3 – mission of the family in society
Familiaris Consortio (FC) 3 – 4 - Family in the Church
Familiaris Consortio (FC) 4 Pastoral familiar
Football in Spain
Haurietis aquas – devotion to the Sacred Heart by Pius XII
Holidays and Holy Days
Holy Spirit
Holy Week – drawings for children
Holy Week – glmjpses of the last hours of JC
Inauguration of President Donald Trump
Juno explores Jupiter
Laudato si 1 – care for the common home
Laudato si 2 – Gospel of creation
Laudato si 3 – Human roots of the ecological crisis
Laudato si 4 – integral ecology
Laudato si 5 – lines of approach and action
Laudato si 6 – Education y Ecological Spirituality
Love and Marriage 1-
Love and Marriage 2 – growing up to sexual maturity
Love and Marriage 3 – psychological differences and complimentarity
Love and Marriage 4- causes of sexual attraction
Love and Marriage 5- freedom and intimacy
Love and Marriage 6 - human love
Love and Marriage 7 - destiny of human love
Love and Marriage 8- marriage between Christian believers
Love and Marriage 9 – sacrament of marriage
Lumen Fidei – ch 1,2,3,4
Medjugore Pilgrimage
Misericordiae Vultus in English
Mother Teresa of Calcuta – Saint
Pope Franciss in Thailand
Pope Francis in Japan
Pope Francis in Sweden
Pope Francis in America
Pope Francis in the WYD in Poland 2016
Querida Amazonia
Resurrection of Jesus Christ –according to the Gospels
Russian Revolution and Communismo 3 civil war 1918.1921
Russian Revolution and Communism 1
Russian Revolution and Communismo 2
Saint Joseph
Saint Patrick and Ireland
Sunday – day of the Lord
Thanksgiving – History and Customs
The Body, the cult – (Eucharist)
Valentine
Vocation – mconnor@legionaries.org
Way of the Cross – drawings for children
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88. LISTA DE PRESENTACIONES EN ESPAÑOL
Revisado 11-6-2020
Abuelos
Adviento y Navidad, tiempo de esperanza
Amor y Matrimonio 1 - 9
Amoris Laetitia – ch 1 – A la luz de la Palabre
Amoris Laetitia – ch 2 – Realidad y Desafíos de las Familias
Amoris Laetitia – ch 3 La mirada puesta en Jesús: Vocación de la Familia
Amoris Laetitia – ch 4 - El Amor en el Matrimonio
Amoris Laetitia – ch 5 – Amor que se vuelve fecundo
Amoris Laetitia – ch 6 – Algunas Perspectivas Pastorales
Amoris Laetitia – ch 7 – Fortalecer la educacion de los hijos
Amoris Laetitia – ch 8 – Acompañar, discernir e integrar la fragilidad
Amoris Laetitia – ch 9 – Espiritualidad Matrimonial y Familiar
Carnaval
Cristo Vive
Domingo – día del Señor
El camino de la cruz de JC en dibujos para niños
El Cuerpo, el culto – (eucarisía)
Espíritu Santo
Familiaris Consortio (FC) 1 – iglesia y familia hoy
Familiaris Consortio (FC) 2 - el plan de Dios para la familia
Familiaris Consortio (FC) 3 – 1 – familia como comunidad
Familiaris Consortio (FC) 3 – 2 – servicio a la vida y educación
Familiaris Consortio (FC) 3 – 3 – misión de la familia en la sociedad
Familiaris Consortio (FC) 3 – 4 - participación de la familia en la iglesia
Familiaris Consortio (FC) 4 Pastoral familiar
Fátima – Historia de las Apariciones de la Virgen
Feria de Sevilla
Haurietis aquas – el culto al Sagrado Corazón
Hermandades y cofradías
Hispanidad
Laudato si 1 – cuidado del hogar común
Laudato si 2 – evangelio de creación
Laudato si 3 – La raíz de la crisis ecológica
Laudato si 4 – ecología integral
Laudato si 5 – líneas de acción
Laudato si 6 – Educación y Espiritualidad Ecológica
Lumen Fidei – cap 1,2,3,4
Madre Teresa de Calcuta – Santa
María y la Biblia
Medjugore peregrinación
Misericordiae Vultus en Español
Papa Francisco en Bulgaria
Papa Francisco en Rumania
Papa Francisco en Marruecos
Papa Francisco en México
Papa Francisco – mensaje para la Jornada Mundial Juventud 2016
Papa Francisco – visita a Chile
Papa Francisco – visita a Perú
Papa Francisco en Colombia 1 + 2
Papa Francisco en Cuba
Papa Francisco en Fátima
Papa Francisco en la JMJ 2016 – Polonia
Queridas Amazoznia 1 un sueños social
Queridas Amazoznia 2 un suepo cultural
Queridas Amazoznia 3 un seuños ecologico
Queridas Amazoznia 4 un sueño eclesial
Resurrección de Jesucristo – según los Evangelios
Revolución Rusa y Comunismo 1
Revolución Rusa y comunismo 2
Revolución Rusa y Comunismo 3
San José
Santiago Apóstol
Semana santa – Vistas de las últimas horas de JC
Vacaciones Cristianas
Valentín
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