Love, intimacy and passion

1. Love, Intimacy &
Relationship
Chavaria, Cathy
Cunto, Analyn

2. Lesson objectives:
• define terms such as "love," "attraction,"
"intimacy," "relationship," and other related
terms.
• discuss different theories of love
• identify needs, issues, and concerns
experienced by people who are in a
romantic relationship, and
• reflect upon one's attitudes towards love,
intimacy, and relationship

3. LOVE
A complex phenomenon characterized by an affective
and cognitive inclination to someone and set of social
behavior geared towards cohesion.
The emotive and physical component of love, drives
towards sexual and romantic attraction.
COMMITMENT
Decision to engage and maintain a loving relationship.
PASSION

4. INTIMACY
The psychosocial component of love,
knowing and being known by someone in a
deeply personal level; emotional closeness
and connection.
RELATIONSHIP
Social bond between and among individuals
manifested through communication and
other forms of interaction. This bond may be
biological or determined by social contracts
such as social consensus or laws.

5. INTRODUCTION

6. What does it mean "to
love" someone? Does it
always mean the same
thing and if not in what
ways do loves differ from
each other?"

7. LOVE AS CULTURE UNIVERSAL
Love is also construed as a culture universal. A
culture universal is a phenomenon similarly by
people across time and cultures. This means
that humans, whether those who lived in the
past or who are living now and regardless of
their geographic location and socio-cultural
identities, have experienced love, in one way or
another.
"The way we appreciate and experience this
phenomenon may be unique but it is a similar
phenomenon altogether"

8. Love is also viewed as a social
phenomenon. Social phenomena are
events or experiences which ensue within
our interaction and relationship with other
people. Loving entails communication- the
process of giving and receiving information
between and among people. It also entails
the use of a language- symbols that are
culturally agreed upon as possessing
certain meanings and that are used by
people to express certain realities and
worldviews.

9. Love is also construed as an emotion.
Emotions are physiological responses
that we evaluate psychologically as we
experience particular life events. There
are basic emotions such as joy,
sadness, fear, disgust, and anger among
others There are also complex
emotions, which are combination of
basic emotions in varying magnitudes
and are made intricate by
LOVE AS AN EMOTION

10. With recent advancements in science, love,
now, can be studied as a neurobiological
event. Every split of a second, information
is being passed on within our nervous
system-a conglomerate of organs (including
our brain, our spinal cord, and our nerves,
among others) responsible for our ability to
process and transmit essential information
among the many organs in our body. The
information comes into the form of
electrical signal running along our neurons

12. Refers to psychodynamic theory posits that we
have desires and motives fueled by life (eros)
and death (thanatos) instincts.
Likewise, the psychodynamic view puts prime on
the influence of our early life experiences (from
conception to six years old) - referred to as the
formative years in our personality development.
Crucial to this life stage is the presence of a
caregiver-typically our mother. It suggests that
the kind of attachment we have with them
influence or affects how we view life later.
PSYCHODYNAMIC VIEW ON LOVE

13. John Alan Lee(1973) suggested
that there are different types of
love.
—It is possible for us to experience not just one, but two or
more of these types of love in our lifetime .
COLOR WHEEL THEORY
OF LOVE

15. Psychologist Robert
Sternberg's theory
describes types of
love based on three
different scales:
Intimacy, Passion,
and commitment.
STERNBERG'S TRIANGULAR THEORY OF LOVE

16. According to Hatfield & Rapson
(1978.1993), there are two general
types of love: romantic love &
companionate love.
ROMANTIC AND
COMPANIONATE LOVE

17. COMPANIONATE LOVE is
characterized by intense intimacy
emotional closeness- which is
also characteristic of liking.
ROMANTIC LOVE is characterized
by intense passion- a state of
intense longing for union with your
partner.

18. Gary Chapman, a world-
renown author,
suggested that people
have various ways
through which we give
and receive love.
LOVE LANGUAGE

20. LOVE & INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP
Love, although well-studied and variedly-theorized, remains
abstract and obscure unless viewed in the context of human
relationship. The Greek philosopher, Aristotle, has been
widely quoted as referring to humans as social animals. This
means that we survive, thrive, and flourish when we are
together such that relating to other humans is not only a
sentimental, but also an evolutionary and a practical process.

22. In his analysis of human relationships, George
Levinger (1982) postulated that there are stages
that intimate relationships go through:
1. ACQUAINTANCE
Intimate human relationships starts in
acquaintanceship. We meet up through
circumstances and fist learn about basic
information about one another. Crucial
at this time is attraction.

23. Some acquaintanceships build up into
deeper relationships. Frequency of
interaction increase. Kinds of activities
shared become diverse. The involved
parties begin to introduce one another to
each other's friend's and family thus,
making the social network larger and
interconnected. This is the stage when
two persons test their boundaries. They
test the waters before engaging fully and
so commitedly in the relationship.
2.BUILDUP

24. 3. Consolidation and
Continuation
This stage is when people commits to a
long-terms relationship with one
another,. either through a personal
agreement (exclusivity of partnership,
domestic partnership) or social-legal
agreement (marriage).

25. 4. Declination on Deterioration
Unfortunately, some intimate
partnerships are unable to sustain
and maintain their commitments or
attraction. For one, there may be a
change in priorities between the
individual couple, such that the
conjoint value of the partnership is
not anymore sufficient. There may
be infidelity, the breech of loyalty
and promises as agreed upon by
both individuals.

26. 5. Ending
Finally, for those intimate
partnerships who are unable
to address the causes and
circumstances leading to the
deterioration of their
relationship, the stages
culminate into ending or
termination of the
agreements made.

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