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 A People Pleaser always feels the need to be a nice
person almost all the time, even when he or she has
every reason to be angry or upset. People pleaser tries
to override his or her natural reactions.
 People Pleaser say ‘yes’ to everything and pretend to
share the opinion of the majority even when it is
against his or her values.
Who is a People Pleaser?
 You have a self-image of a good, caring, noble human
being. You do not want to hurt other people’s feelings.
 You want to be perceived as a good kind hearted
human being. You want the external circumstances to
reflect your self-image.
Why are you a people pleaser?
 Think about your priorities. What is most important to
you in your life right now? Your priorities could be
your values, goals or your beliefs.
 Set your limits based on your priorities.
7 Tips to prevent you from being
a people pleaser
 As you have defined your limits, you have more clarity
on whether to accept the request or not. If you cannot
figure out whether the favor is within your limits, ask
for time to think.
7 Tips to prevent you from being
a people pleaser
 Limiting your offer does not only make you more
assertive but restricts the amount of work you must do.
For a people pleaser, limiting the offer is a much easier
task to do than a firm 'no' because you offer to help in
a small way.
7 Tips to prevent you from being
a people pleaser
 When someone asks you a favor, check whether the
favor is within your boundaries. If you are in doubt,
ask for more time. If you find the help is against your
values, say ‘no’ to the requester. Provide a valid and
relevant reason understandable to even the requester.
7 Tips to prevent you from being
a people pleaser
 Express your preference or opinion with honesty.
Sharing your choice doesn't mean ignoring other
people's preferences and imposing your own. Just state
your position, and let a friendly discussion or a
majority vote determine the result.
7 Tips to prevent you from being
a people pleaser
 If you are a people pleaser, you enjoy helping others.
But start to ask favors for you.
 Start by asking for small things like a few seconds of
someone's time.
7 Tips to prevent you from being
a people pleaser
 When you start asserting yourself, you will see your
real friends respecting your boundaries.
 You will also realize the people who take advantage of
your inner people pleaser. Avoid Selfish Exploiters
from your life whenever possible.
7 Tips to prevent you from being
a people pleaser
Read the full
article on people
pleaser here
Check out our
book Better Your
Life here.
www.learn2livefully.com

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People Pleaser, How to stop being a doormat to others?

  • 1.
  • 2.  A People Pleaser always feels the need to be a nice person almost all the time, even when he or she has every reason to be angry or upset. People pleaser tries to override his or her natural reactions.  People Pleaser say ‘yes’ to everything and pretend to share the opinion of the majority even when it is against his or her values. Who is a People Pleaser?
  • 3.  You have a self-image of a good, caring, noble human being. You do not want to hurt other people’s feelings.  You want to be perceived as a good kind hearted human being. You want the external circumstances to reflect your self-image. Why are you a people pleaser?
  • 4.  Think about your priorities. What is most important to you in your life right now? Your priorities could be your values, goals or your beliefs.  Set your limits based on your priorities. 7 Tips to prevent you from being a people pleaser
  • 5.  As you have defined your limits, you have more clarity on whether to accept the request or not. If you cannot figure out whether the favor is within your limits, ask for time to think. 7 Tips to prevent you from being a people pleaser
  • 6.  Limiting your offer does not only make you more assertive but restricts the amount of work you must do. For a people pleaser, limiting the offer is a much easier task to do than a firm 'no' because you offer to help in a small way. 7 Tips to prevent you from being a people pleaser
  • 7.  When someone asks you a favor, check whether the favor is within your boundaries. If you are in doubt, ask for more time. If you find the help is against your values, say ‘no’ to the requester. Provide a valid and relevant reason understandable to even the requester. 7 Tips to prevent you from being a people pleaser
  • 8.  Express your preference or opinion with honesty. Sharing your choice doesn't mean ignoring other people's preferences and imposing your own. Just state your position, and let a friendly discussion or a majority vote determine the result. 7 Tips to prevent you from being a people pleaser
  • 9.  If you are a people pleaser, you enjoy helping others. But start to ask favors for you.  Start by asking for small things like a few seconds of someone's time. 7 Tips to prevent you from being a people pleaser
  • 10.  When you start asserting yourself, you will see your real friends respecting your boundaries.  You will also realize the people who take advantage of your inner people pleaser. Avoid Selfish Exploiters from your life whenever possible. 7 Tips to prevent you from being a people pleaser
  • 11. Read the full article on people pleaser here Check out our book Better Your Life here. www.learn2livefully.com