3. Thoughts and Fears of Adults On Girl-Boy
Relationships
• Not a big issue
• Normal, part of growing up
• Natural
• No intervention needed
• No negative thoughts: discussing academic, family, school issues
• No fear
• Think they may be friends or having an affair but no negative thoughts
• Adolescents may not realize that adults keep a close watch
• Could be just friends but unconsciously keep an eye on them
• Girls should keep distance from boys
• Adolescent problem
• Fear if you see them 2-3 times: inform Head Master, inquire
• Worried that it will lead to some problems
• Risk of distraction and under-utilization of potential
• If deep and longer association, may affect students’ studies, careers and school
discipline
• Share every minute, converse and waste time and spoil their studies
• These issues should be part of CCA
4. Thoughts and Feelings of Adolescents in Relationships
with Opposite Sex
• Felt heavenly
• Proud and satisfied with life
• Opportunity to enjoy outing and dating
• Desire joy in each other’s company
• Trust, love and respect
• Took long time to realize
• Spend time together, watch movies, shop
• Thought that falling in love was a bad thing, am from traditional
family
• Happy, sense of wonderment and glory
• Day dreaming
• Good to have a relationship with opposite sex
6. Case Studies
1. Sharada and Vishal live close by and have been friends for many years. They
are studying in class XI in the same school. Recently, Vishal sent a greeting card
expressing his love for Sharada. She is confused about her feelings for him. She
feels that she needs more time to decide. However, Sharada is worried that if
she does not respond now, she may lose Vishal as a friend.
• If you were in Sharada’s place, what would you do?
• How would Vishal respond if Sharada told him that she needed more
time to decide?
• Do you think Sharada’s and Vishal’s parents or teachers can play any
positive role in this situation? If yes, what role could they play? If not,
why not?
7. Case Studies
2. Seema is a 16 years old who studies on class X. She has a very good friend
Gautama, in the same class. She has a very good friend, Gautama in the same
class. She feels that she has fallen in love with him. She wants to tell him about
her feelings but fears that if she tells him first about her feelings, he might think
she is a ‘bad girl.’ She also thinks her parents and teachers would disapprove.
Seem does not know what to do?
•Why does Seema not share her feelings with her friend, Gautama?
•How do you think Gautama will react if Seema tells him?
•If feelings are not expressed, do you think they will necessarily go away? Is it
better to recognize and express the feelings, as in Seema’s case? Please give
reasons for your response.
8. Case Studies
3. Suma and Gopi have just been promoted to class 11 and have been in JNV for
the past 5 years. They are enthusiastic about their studies and take part in most
of the activities organized in the school. They have practically grown up together
and continue to spend time with one another. Recently, their class teacher
spoke to another teacher and told her/him that she thought all was not well
between Suma and Gopi!
• As Suma’s principal/subject teacher, what will you do?
• As Gopi’s principal/subject teacher, what will you do?
4. At the educational tour to the Science Centre, Rani and Manish disappeared
for 30-40 minutes. On being asked, they would not give a clear answer on where
did they go.
• As Rani’s principal/teacher, what will you do?
• As Manish’s principal/teacher, what will you do?
9. Workshop Outline
•What is love?
•If it is a positive emotion, how is it different in this age group
•The question for us, adults is:
• In 5-7 years after leaving school, majority of students will start their own
families, have careers and need to strike a healthy balance
• Should school education prepare them for living a balanced life?
10. Workshop Outline
•What is love?
•If it is a positive emotion, how is it different in this age group
•The question for us, adults is:
• In 5-7 years after leaving school, majority of students will start their own
families, have careers and need to strike a healthy balance
• Should school education prepare them for living a balanced life?
