R1: When feeling responsible for others, one tries to fix, protect, rescue, control, and carry others' feelings, feeling tired, anxious, and liable. One is concerned with solutions, answers, and details rather than the person. One becomes a manipulator who expects others to meet their expectations. R2: When feeling responsible to others, one empathizes, encourages, shares, confronts conflicts sensitively while listening. One feels free, relaxed, and aware, concerned with relating person to person and the feelings of the person rather than solutions. One realizes one can help and guide rather than control by sharing oneself. One trusts and lets go rather than staying in control.

1. RESPONSIBILITY To and RESPONSIBILITY For 責 任
When I feel responsible FOR others… When I change to feeling responsible TO others…
當我覺得我當為他人負責時 當我改變成為協助他人負責時
I try to fix I begin to empathize
我會試圖糾正 我開始有同理心
protect保護 encourage鼓勵
rescue拯救 share分享
control控制 confront面對衝突
carry their feelings背負他們的感覺 put aside judgments將判斷放在一邊
am sensitive觀察敏銳
listen傾聽
I feel tired
我會覺得疲憊 I feel free
anxious焦慮 我感到自在
fearful恐懼 relaxed輕鬆
liable有義務 aware覺察
high self-esteem高度自尊
I am concerned with
I am concerned with 我會關心
我會關心 relating person to person人和人之間的關聯
the solutions解決方案 feelings感受
answers答案 the person這個人本身
circumstances環境狀況
being right做對
details細節 I realize if I can share myself, the other person has enough to make it
performance成果 我了解如果我可以分享自己，對方有足夠的能力可以完成
I become a manipulator I become a helper-guide
我變成一個操控者 我變成一個助手、嚮導
I expect the person to live up to my expectations I expect the person to be responsible for himself and his/her own actions
我期待他人達到我的期許 我期待這個人為自己的行為負責
I cannot trust & therefore believe I must stay in control I can trust and let go ICA TAIWAN
我無法信任所以我相信必須將事情維持在我的掌控當中 我可以信任並且放下