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Families & Friends of Murder Victims October 2012 newsletter

  1. 1. FAMILIES & FRIENDS OF MURDER VICTIMS, Inc. Families & Friends of Murder Victims: (FFMV) A non-profit organization Dedicated to providing information, support, and friendship to persons who have experienced the Newsletter October 2012 death of a loved one through the violent act of murder Thank-you: Share Sorrow….. *Carol Anderson – Website Share Strength *Kaiser – Oakland Mission: To restore a sense of hope and to *Avaxat Elementary School- Murrieta provide a pathway to well-being to those who *St. Anthony’s Catholic Church-Upland have lost a loved one to murder and to those who *Christ The Redeemer Catholic Church are victims of attempted murder. Grand Terrace Portola Community Center- Palm Desert Love Gifts *San Bernardino County District Attorney’s Office of Love gifts are a specific tax deductible donation made Victim Services/Victim Advocates to the memory of a loved one’s birthday, anniversary *Riverside County District Attorney’s Office of Victim of a death, holiday, or just because which are posted Services/Victim Advocates in newsletter. They are also made by caring *Family of Kris Flores professionals, organizations to help in the work that *Janet Garcia& Barbara Christian FFMV does with victims/survivors. These gifts help facebook administrators with the expenses incurred in reaching out to others * Ellie Rossi and operating expenses. When making out a check,*Anonymous Donor for sponsoring newsletter for please make payable to FFMV and note Love Gift on October 2012 check or envelope. Love Gifts can be mailed to FFMV- P.O. Box 11222 San Bernardino, Ca. - 92423-1222 Need Someone to Talk To? * Bertha Flores - Parent - Spanish speaking Join Families & Friends of Murder Victims on (909) 200-5499 (after 3pm) *Rose Madsen – Parent (909) 798-4803 (after 4pm) Thank-you *Maxine Russell – (818) 378-2072 Janet Garcia Parent/Grief Counselor Mother of Jesse Garcia – 6/10/78 – 6/27/94 *Dawn Hall - Parent(951) 757-4419 Barbara Christian *Mary Stewart -Parent (951 698-5317) Mother of Terri Lynn Winchell– Emergency Consult for Suicidal or Homicidal 4/10/63 – 1/8/81 Participants*Linda Atencio -Parent – 760-490-7864 * Ellie Rossi - Parent - 909-810-8133  Inmate Locator, Department of Corrections is now making it easier for people to locate prison inmates; it’s a free online search and is open to the general public.http://inmatelocator.cdcr.ca.gov "Angel Miracles: Connecting with your Loved Ones in Heaven is available and can even be read on your computer or Iphone! http://www.amazon.com/dp/B009HOBI88
  2. 2. Riverside Chapter West End Chapter -Bi-lingualMeets on the 3 rd Wednesday of every Meets every 2nd Thursday of every month at 7:00pm-8:30pm month at 7pm St. Anthony’s Catholic ChurchAvaxat Elementary School, 24300 La Conference Room Brisas Road in Murrieta, CA 2210 North San Antonio Upland, CA 91786 Contact Dawn (951) 757-4419 Participants have the option of the For directions ask for PJ at- English & Spanish Meeting 951-696-1600 x2177 – Local Grupo Bilingue M-F 9am-4pm (1-2pm lunch) Los participantes pueden escoger en Inglés o en Next Meeting – October 17, 2012 Español Se reunen cada Segundo Jueves del mes a las 7:00 p.m. Contact persons/ Personas de contacto: Colton Chapter Rita Marin (909) 215-7063 rittaatffmv@aol.com Next Meeting October 11, 2012 st 1 Tuesday of every monthChrist The Redeemer Catholic Church Grief Support Group Robinson Hall – Room 6 ALL are welcome at our monthly meetings. 12745 Oriole Ave Grand Terrace, CA Whether you are a parishioner or not. If you 92313 are suffering the loss of a loved one and in New Time: 6:00pm - 8:00pm need to talk to someone, we are here to Contact person for directions or listen and share emotions. information Rose – 909-754-6969 Together and with the help of the Lord, we mail4ffmv@yahoo.com can help each other heal. Meetings are held every 2 nd Wednesday of Next Meeting – October 2, 2012 the month 7 to 9 P.M. ~ Room 8 St. Anthony’s Church 1640 Western Ave. Coachella Valley Chapter San Bernardino (909)887-3810 New Address Contacts: Hope Morfin (909)820-6163 We will continue meeting every Ralph & Arlene Payan (909)887-4387 3rd Wednesday of each month (FFMV Participants) 6:00pm – 8:00pm Danny & Rose Equihua (909) 887-3744 Portola Community Center Room 2 45-480 Portola Ave (parking on Shadow Mountain) Palm Desert, CA 92260 760-568-2560- Call for directions Rose – 909-754-6969 mail4ffmv@yahoo.com Candy- 619-200-0547 Candyclb@aol.com Next meeting is October 17, 2012 Oakland Chapter Kaiser in Oakland, Howe St. at Broadway, 12th floor Room 1200 East Contact Helene (510) 452-2553
  3. 3. Resources and Additional Support Services FFMV Fundraisers San Bernardino County District Attorney’s Office Office Depot - Staples – Office Max of Victim Witness Centers: San Bernardino If you shop at Office Depot or Staples please (909) 387-6540 use FFMV’s Rewards Number for Office Depot Rancho Cucamonga: (909) 945-4241* which is 1139461170 Office Max – 650756207, Staples- or use just give them 909-798-4803 Victorville/Desert area: (760) 243-8619 for all three. We get reward points that help Riverside County District Attorney’s Office of defray the cost of printing, ink cartridges and Victim Witness Centers: office supplies. Riverside: (951) 955-5450Murrieta: (951) 304-5680 * Banning: (951) 922-7130 * Indio: (760) 863-8408 PLEASE….Don‘t throw away your old ink *Los Angeles County District Attorneys Victim cartridges! Continue to bring them to us, or Witness Assistance Program offices: take them to Office Max, Staples or Office Depot and give them 909-798-4803 Pomona: 909) 620-3381 It’s an easy way to help *Life.After.Uncivil.Ruthless.Acts. FFMV purchase office supplies. 323-816-9651 www.laurala.org* WINGS OF JUSTICE – Websitewww.murdermislabeledsuicide.com/WingsofJustice Finding The New Normal *Women Against Gun Violence – 310-204-2348 “When does this pain of loss end? www.wagv.org Is there no relief?” *www.CrimeVictims.gov—public awareness Web site This is often the cry of a parent who has lost* H.E.A.L. Helping Everyone Acknowledge Loss – a child. The grief seems too big and too hard 818-378-2072– RussellBliss21@aol.com at times. And, there seems to be no end in * Crime Victims United of California – 916-928- sight for the pain and isolation. And, yet we 4797 www.crimevictimsunited.com or know that somehow, some way life must mail@crimevictimsunited.com continue on. * North American Victim Assistance (NOVA) www.trynova.org * Victims of Crime Resources Center (800) We keep trying; keep reminding ourselves VICTIMS that we must take life one day at a time. * POMC - (888) 818-POMC www.pomc.org In fact, sometimes we take life one hour at a* Greater Orange County POMC – Marie – 714-999- time, giving ourselves the time we need to 7132 – 562-508-2397 adjust to our new world, our new way, this * Citizens Against Homicide - (415) 455-5944 life that now is labeled “the new normal.” * Justice for Murdered Children - (310) 547-1367 * The Crime Victims Assistance Network (iCAN) Foundation (916) 273-3603 And, so we train our minds daily to look for * Memory of Victims Everywhere - (949) 248-5470 the good, to listen for the song, and to watch MOVE@cox.net for the sunshine and blue skies. We force * Resource for the Grieving and ourselves to move forward into this world Bereavedwww.griefcompanion.com knowing that it will never be the same again, * Crime Survivors – 949-872-7895 www.crimesurvivors.com Bi-monthly meetings but also understanding that we must choose held in Orange County to move forward into this new land beyond * Adela Lavine~Medium: www.adelalavine.com our grief journey. And, so we do! * MADD – (909) 888-6233 www.maddsanbernardino.org Hope is amazing as it teaches us that the *JUSTICE FOR HOMICIDE VICTIMS - (310) 457- very same sun is still shining and waiting to 0030 -jhvinfo@justiceforhomicidevictims.com warm us. Nature is still painting the world* Striving Towards Eradicating Violence In Ennercities -S.T.E.V.I.E. stevieisunityandpeace@yahoo.com with beauty beyond words. Our Father is oneunikadvocate2@aol.com still giving us comfort and help in order to * www.psychic4themissing.com help fill the void. And, so we slowly move *Homicide Survivors Inc. forward knowing that one day the curtain of todd.blumhorst@pcao.pima.gov grief will be pulled back and we will be able 520.740.5729 to see life with new eyes and a heart filled with hope! --Clara Hinton
  4. 4. October 2012 Birthdays Abel Gonzales Alfred Cabrera Anthony Rodríguez Anthony Ledinich Betty Van Patter Charlie Martinez Christopher Patrick Weiss David Garcia David Lowe Demetrius Lanier Williams Dwayne Fields Elzie Elijah Winston Ericka Elaine Baker HeatherAnn Steimer Hector Cisneros Ariz-mendez Jason VanKleef Jerry Ramirez Jr. Jimmy Brown Joshua Rexford Jose Uriel Alvarez Villalobos Kristhoper Flores Mark Anthony Minchaca Michael Ray McCoy II Michele Kriezel Nicolas Casas Randy Olivas Rosario Mojarro Ronald Saxton Stevlan “Stevie” Singleton Theodore Albert Goede Trudy Thompson
  5. 5. October 2012 Memories Aaron Luis Angulo Aaron Gurrola Abel Gonzales Adelaja Nogoma Russ Andy R. Castro Jr. Angela Lynn Merth Bailey Elizabeth Sloan Brandon Smith Brittany Riggs Bryan Stapleton Damon Jones Sr. Diana Dawn Vacari Elena Sylvia Perez Frankie Cayetano Jesse Aguilar Maria Banuelos Maureen Ramirez Ozzy Conde Rosa Maria Gamino Rosa Torres Trevor Johnson William Rees Merrel We Will Always Remember You When we bury our parents, that is our past. When we bury a spouse, thats ourpresent. When we bury our kids, we bury our future.... quote from a gentlemen.. Stefan Robinson
  6. 6. LOVE GIFTS In Loving Memory of In Loving Memoryof In Loving Memory of Kris Flores Mario Quiroz Joshua Rexford 10/10/77 – 7/24/96 5/14/68 – 1/25/06 10/8/76 – 11/27/94In Loving Memory David Charles Nystrom – 2/2/64 - 7/27/98 & Lisa Cummings – 11/13/66 – 3/12/11 Brother and Sister in Heaven ….. now together watching over their Mom (Ellie Rossi) --------------------------------------------------------------Love Gift-----------------------------------------------------------------Donation $_______________Name (please print):_________________________________________________________________Address____________________________________City/St.________________________Zip__________Email address: __________________________________________________________Your Phone # ( ) ____________________Relationship to Victim: _____________________________Name of Victim: _________________________________________________________________Date of Birth: Date of Death: ______________________Please post my loved ones message and/or picture(s) for the month of: ___________# of pictures enclosed/attached ____________ Use picture on file_______________
  7. 7. CAMP GOOD GRIEF (SVP)Camp Good Grief-Special Victims Program (SVP) is a joint effort between the San Bernardino County DistrictAttorneys Office Bureau of Victim Services and Loma Linda University Medical Center Childrens Hospital. The 3-day grief camp is geared toward homicide/suicide and is for children ages 10-16 who have experienced a violentdeath in their family. Campers board a bus at the Ronald McDonald House in Loma Linda and head to CampCedar Falls in the San Bernardino Mountains for a three-day camp and grief therapy experience.At camp the children participate in game and team building activities and therapeutic group activities designedto help them learn and understand how to cope with the grief over the violent death of their loved one. Thiscamp has been so successful that it has been expanded to include Camp Good Grief - Special Victims ProgramTeen Retreat. It will be held annually and provides grief services for teens ages 14-18 who previouslyparticipated in Camp Good Grief - SVP and whose lives have been positively impacted by camp. It will be acombination of learning advanced grief management skills as well as a training camp for future Camp Good GriefPeer Counselors.Camp is free of charge to all campers and camperships are funded by unclaimed victim restitution. Therapistsand interns from Loma Linda Marriage and Family Therapy Clinic, Loma Linda Child Life Specialists and DistrictAttorneys Office Victim Advocates donate their time to the camp.The Bureau of Victim Services and Loma Linda University Childrens Hospital have pledged to continuefundraising activities, presentations to service groups, and outreach events so they may continue hosting futureCamp Good Grief-SVP programs.Contact: Dorothy Brooks 909-558-4073 COLD CASES FYII attended JHV Memorial in April, guest Speaker Frank Girardot, editor of the Pasadena Star News andsenior editor of the San Gabriel Valley Tribune Group announced that he would to publish pictures andinformation regarding unsolved homicide cases on the newspaper website. Many families that I knowpersonally have UNSOLVED cases which have turned to COLD cases…Everyone deserves JUSTICEIf your loved one was murdered in the greater Southern California area and the case is unsolved, Frankwill get it published in the newspaper.You can check out the Cold Case Project by going to www.PasadenaStarNews.com/coldcases. Thepaper also has the project listed on Facebook …This is a response Frank gave me when I e-mailed him about this project:Hi Rose, If I get a photo from a loved one I will post it on our website as soon as I can. Anyone who is interestedcan contact me and I promise to get them set up.Sincerely,Frank Girardot911 E. Colorado BlvdPasadena, CA 91106626-578-6300 ext.4478frank.girardot@sgvn.comHere is some basic information Frank needs when you send him a picture of your loved one: Your full name, address, phone(s), e-mail address, Victims Full Name and age at time of murder, Victims DOB-DOD, your relationship to victim, city where murder took place, any suspects arrested?, Detective’s name & phone, & short bio on how your loved one was murdered
  8. 8. 3820 Mulberry Street Riverside, CA 92507 951-369-7447 Presents a Flapjack Fundraiser ForFamilies & Friends of Murder Victims, INC (FFMV) Saturday October 13, 2012 8:00am – 10:00am Walk-In’s Welcomed ALL YOU CAN EAT Pancakes, Scrambled Eggs, Sausage Orange Juice & Coffee included Tickets - $10 ea Kids under 5yrs. Free Come & Support FFMV Proceeds will benefit FFMV’s Annual Christmas Memorial Luncheon for Surviving Children, Families & Friends who have lost a Loved One to Murder For tickets….contact Rose 909-754-6969 or 909-798-4803 or mail4ffmv@yahoo.com
  9. 9. Each year House of Ruth holds a candlelight vigil in October for Domestic Violence Awareness Month. The vigil is toremember those who have lost their lives to domestic abuse in the past year and also to honor of all domestic violencevictims, survivors & their families.This years candlelight vigils theme will be "NO MORE."We invite community partners and community members to join us.The Vigil will be held in collaboration with students from the Sisterhood Academy at Montclair High School.The event will take place at House of Ruths Outreach Agency in Pomona: 599 N. Main St. Pomona, CA 91768.For more information please contact Marina Wood at 909-868-8010 or mwood@houseofruthinc.org.
  10. 10. Save the Date Come and Join Families & Friends of Murder Victims, Inc. to their Annual Christmas Candlelight/Memorial Luncheon All FFMV chapter members, their family, children, friends and supporters of FFMV are invited to attend When: Sunday December 9, 2012 Time: 2pm - 5pm Where: The Diocese of San Bernardino Pastoral Center 1201 E. Highland Ave., San Bernardino, CA. 92404-4641 (909) 475-5300 **HONOR YOUR LOVED ONE AT OUR CHRISTMAS LUNCHEON**You can give special honor to your loved one by making a monetary donation towards the main course, annual gift raffle, table centerpieces or ornaments to be hung by each family in Memory of your Loved One. Your Loved One’s name will be acknowledged in the program. ~ Our Goal is to have all children will receive a Special gift at Annual Gift Raffle ~ (We are seeking a sponsor(s) for this event) Sign-up sheet will be in the November Newsletter If you would like to be a sponsor contact: Rose 909-798-4803 mail4ffmv@yahoo.com
  11. 11. Christmas Memorial RSVP by November 30, 2012 ~We ask that you please bring a salad or side dish and dessert to share ~ ~ Bring your Loved Ones picture to display on our Memorial Table ~ ~ Each family will receive an ornament in Memory of their Loved One ~ ~ Our Loved Ones Slide Show Presentation (send your picture) ~ FFMV will provide the main course, & beverage, and one ornament for each family*We are in need of additional donations. If you are interested in donating a prize for our annual raffle, or if you know of a business that would like to help sponsor this memorial please call and leave a message at (909)798-4803 or e-mail mail4ffmv@yahoo.com with your interest or questions. *We will be taking reservations for individual tables if you have 8 or more in your party attending. This will be on a first come basis only, please mention your interest when you RSVP.Directions to the Diocese:From I-210 East; exit at Waterman Ave. and go right , then go left on Highland Ave. Diocese is on the rightFrom I-10 E, to I-215 N towards San Bernardino, merge onto I-210-E, HIGHLAND / MTN RESORTS, exit at Waterman Ave. and go right , then goleft on Highland Ave. Diocese is on the rightFrom 91 E , 91E becomes I-215 N , merge onto CA I-210 E / HIGHLAND / MTN RESORTS, exit at Waterman Ave. and go right , then left onHighland Ave. Diocese is on the right,From Beaumont take I-10 W, merge onto I-210-Pasadena/CA-30 W toward HIGHLAND, continue going west on I- 210, exit Del Rosa Ave, and go left,then right on Highland Ave. Diocese is on the left Diocese is on Highland Ave & Golden Ave (signal)-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------( ) Yes I will be attending ( ) Yes I would like to request an individual family table for a family of _____________I would like ________ additional ornaments at $1ea - Enclosed is $_____________ for ___________ additional ornaments( ) Enclosed is my loved ones picture ( ) I will e-mail my loved ones picture ( ) Use my loved ones picture that youhave on filePLEASE PRINT: Your loved ones DOB_________________________ DOD _______________________Loved Ones First Name________________________ Last Name____________________________________Your Name: _________________________________________________________________Your Contact phone # with area code ( ) _____________________email____________________________# of adults________ # of children ________ # Boys______ Ages_______________________________# of Girls_______ Ages________________________________________________________________ I will bring (circle one) Salad Side Dish Mail or e-mail this completed form no later than November 30, 2012 to: FFMV ~ P.O. Box 11222 ~ San Bernardino, CA ~ 92423-1222 ~ mail4ffmv@yahoo.com
  12. 12. From Rose Madsen, Editor/Chair/co-founder of the Colton & Coachella Chapter of FFMV In Memory of my daughter Jennifer LeAnne Balber 12/02/73 – 11/10/94 A 20yr. old SoCal Gas Co. Meter Reader, Fatally Shot in the Line of Service in Rialto, CAFFMV will be hosting a Pancake Fundraiser on October 13, 2012…. (see attached flyer for details)Come and Support FFMV....Cant come?...you can purchase a ticket (s) & sponsor your ticket (s) toone of our volunteers or to a participant of FFMV.... Proceeds will benefit FFMV’s Annual ChristmasMemorial Luncheon for Surviving Children, Families & Friends who have lost a Loved One to MurderFor tickets….contact Rose 909-754-6969 or 909-798-4803 ....mail4ffmv@yahoo.com.Your sponsorship will be acknowledged....Thank- youI’m working on November memory board, so send me your loved ones picture.ThoughtfullyRoseFFMV is a non-profit organization dedicated to serving survivors of murder victims & victims ofattempted murder. Our main purpose is grief support for those victim/survivors. All assistance providedto victims is given free of charge by volunteers. Contributions and/or questions regarding the policies ofFFMV may be addressed to: FFMV Executive Board at P.O. Box 11222 San Bernardino, Ca. 92423-1222, e-mailed to mail4fffmv@yahoo.com or phoned to 909-798-4803. FFMV is a tax-exempt organization under the Section 501 (c) (3) of the InternalRevenue Service.Our Organization depends largely upon private donations which will cover operationalexpenses, Our Annual Family Christmas Memorial Luncheon, and Our Annual Victims RightsWeek Memorial. We are seeking a sponsor (s) for our events. Please contact FFMV at the abovee-mail or phone if you are interested.Tax ID #68-0299211 All Contributions Are Tax Deductible
  13. 13. 2012/2013 Participant /Photo Release Form for slide show & picture boards Families & Friends of Murder Victims, INC (FFMV)Circle one: New Participant ~ Update my information ~ Agency/Non VictimPlease PrintDate________________ Relationship to Victim_______________________Victim’s First Name_________________________________________Victim’s Last Name_________________________________________Date of Birth _____________ Date of Death__________ Solved: Yes ( ) No ( )Permission to use photo(s): Yes ( ) No ( ) Just add me to e-mail/mailing list toreceive monthly newsletter and event informationI grant to Families & Friends of Murder Victims, Inc. (FFMV), the right to usephotograph(s) of the above-identified subject. I authorize FFMV to use andpublish the same in print and/or electronically.I agree that FFMV may use such photographs with or without his/her name and forany lawful purpose, including for example such purposes as publicity, illustration,advertising, and Web content.I have read and understand the above.Name of Agency/Non-Victim if applicable: ________________________________Signature _________________________________________________________Print Full Name _____________________________________________________Address___________________________________________________________City__________________________________ Zip Code____________________Phone with area code ______________________________________E-mail ____________________________________________________________ Mail or e-mail participant/release form to: mail4ffmv@yahoo.com FFMV ~ P.O.Box 11222 San Bernardino, CA ~ 92423-1222 I have included a picture ( ) Yes ( ) No use the one on file I have included a $_________ donation for 2012 Thank-you… if you have already sent your 2012/2013 donation
  14. 14. Please help with this legislation, to either sponsor or co-sponsor this urgently needed bill.Write to your congressperson and Senators Barbara Boxer and Dianne FeinsteinCongresswoman Ileana Ros-Lehtinen as the Chair of the House Foreign Relations Committee and CongressmanHoward Berman as the Ranking Member. Chief of Staff Margaret Mott (mail wont be stalled thru radiation there as it is inDC)14546 Hamlin St. # 202 Van Nuys, California 91401 Phone (818) 994-7200 Fax: (818) 994-1050Congresswoman Ileana Ros-Lehtinen, Chair of the House Foreign Relations Committee2206 Rayburn House Office Building Washington, DC 20515-0918 to either sponsor orCo-sponsor this urgently needed bill.Thanks, Maxine B. Russell - Mother of Darren - russellbliss21@aol.comOn the web: www.russellcase.net (UPDATED)On Twitter: @killed_in_chinaIn U.S. Federal Court: Case No. CV-09-06050