2. FAMILIES & FRIENDS OF
MURDER VICTIMS, Inc.
(FFMV) Need Someone to Talk To?
* Bertha Flores - Parent - Spanish speaking
Newsletter November 2012 (909) 200-5499 (after 3pm)
*Rose Madsen – Parent (909) 798-4803 (after
Thank-you: 4pm)
*Carol Anderson – Website *Maxine Russell – (818) 378-2072
*Kaiser – Oakland Parent/Grief Counselor
*Avaxat Elementary School- Murrieta
*St. Anthony’s Catholic Church-Upland *Dawn Hall - Parent(951) 757-4419
*Christ The Redeemer Catholic Church *Mary Stewart -Parent (951 698-5317)
Grand Terrace Emergency Consult for Suicidal or Homicidal
Portola Community Center- Palm Desert Participants
*San Bernardino County District Attorney’s Office of
Victim Services/Victim Advocates *Linda Atencio -Parent – 760-490-7864
*Riverside County District Attorney’s Office of Victim * Ellie Rossi - Parent - 909-810-8133
Services/Victim Advocates
*Family of Kris Flores
*Janet Garcia& Barbara Christian
facebook administrators
Families & Friends of Murder Victims:
* Ellie Rossi
A non-profit organization
*Anonymous Donor for sponsoring newsletter for
Dedicated to providing information, support, and
November 2012
friendship to persons who have experienced the
death of a loved one through the violent act of
murder
Share Sorrow…..
Share Strength
Remembrance Mission: To restore a sense of hope and to
Prayer Service for those provide a pathway to well-being to those who
have lost a loved one to murder and to those who
Lost Due to Murder are victims of attempted murder.
Love Gifts
Love gifts are a specific tax deductible donation made
to the memory of a loved one’s birthday, anniversary
of a death, holiday, or just because which are posted
in newsletter. They are also made by caring
professionals, organizations to help in the work that
FFMV does with victims/survivors. These gifts help
with the expenses incurred in reaching out to others
When: Wednesday, November 7, 2012 and operating expenses. When making out a check,
please make payable to FFMV and note Love Gift on
7:00pm—9:00pm check or envelope.
Love Gifts can be mailed to
Where: Diocesan Pastoral Center FFMV- P.O. Box 11222 San Bernardino, Ca. -
92423-1222
1201 East Highland Avenue
San Bernardino, CA 92404
Join Families & Friends of Murder Victims on
Refreshments will follow the service.
Thank-you
Those who attend are encouraged to Janet Garcia
bring a photo of their loved one. Mother of Jesse Garcia – 6/10/78 – 6/27/94
Barbara Christian
Mother of Terri Lynn Winchell–
Please RSVP to Sandra Garcia by 4/10/63 – 1/8/81
November 1, 2012
909-475-5476 or
sgarcia@sbdiocese.org
3. Riverside Chapter West End Chapter -Bi-lingual
nd
Meets on the 3rd Wednesday of every Meets every 2 Thursday of every month at
7:00pm-8:30pm
month at 7pm St. Anthony’s Catholic Church
Avaxat Elementary School, 24300 La Conference Room
Brisas Road in Murrieta, CA 2210 North San Antonio Upland, CA 91786
Contact Dawn (951) 757-4419 Participants have the option of the
For directions ask for PJ at- English & Spanish Meeting
951-696-1600 x2177 – Local Grupo Bilingue
M-F 9am-4pm (1-2pm lunch) Los participantes pueden escoger en Inglés o en
Español
Se reunen cada Segundo Jueves del mes a las
7:00 p.m.
Contact persons/ Personas de contacto:
Colton Chapter Rita Marin (909) 215-7063 rittaatffmv@aol.com
Next Meeting November 8, 2012
st
1 Tuesday of every month
Christ The Redeemer Catholic Church Grief Support Group
Robinson Hall – Room 6 ALL are welcome at our monthly meetings.
12745 Oriole Ave Grand Terrace, CA Whether you are a parishioner or not. If you
92313 are suffering the loss of a loved one and in
Time: 6:00pm - 8:00pm need to talk to someone, we are here to
Contact person for directions or listen and share emotions.
information Rose – 909-754-6969 Together and with the help of the Lord, we
mail4ffmv@yahoo.com can help each other heal.
Meetings are held every 2nd Wednesday of
Next Meeting – November 6, 2012 the month 7 to 9 P.M. ~ Room 8
St. Anthony’s Church 1640 Western Ave.
Coachella Valley Chapter San Bernardino (909)887-3810
New Address Contacts: Hope Morfin (909)820-6163
We will continue meeting every Ralph & Arlene Payan (909)887-4387
3rd Wednesday of each month (FFMV Participants)
6:00pm – 8:00pm Danny & Rose Equihua (909) 887-3744
Portola Community Center Room 2
45-480 Portola Ave
(parking on Shadow Mountain)
Palm Desert, CA 92260
760-568-2560- Call for directions Birthdays, anniversaries &
Rose – 909-754-6969
mail4ffmv@yahoo.com holidays -times that used to
Candy- 619-200-0547 mean joy and celebration - can
Candyclb@aol.com
NO MEETING in NOVEMBER we will now be among the toughest
resume December 19, 2012 for a special now.
Holiday Meeting
Observe them with care and
Oakland Chapter simple ceremony to ease the
Kaiser in Oakland, Howe St. at pain.
Broadway,
12th floor Room 1200 East
Contact Helene (510) 452-2553
4. FFMV Fundraisers
Resources and Additional Support Services
Office Depot - Staples – Office Max
If you shop at Office Depot or Staples please
San Bernardino County District Attorney’s Office
use FFMV’s Rewards Number for Office Depot
of Victim Witness Centers: San Bernardino
which is 1139461170 Office Max – 650756207,
(909) 387-6540
Staples- or use just give them 909-798-4803
Rancho Cucamonga: (909) 945-4241* for all three. We get reward points that help
Victorville/Desert area: (760) 552-6994* defray the cost of printing, ink cartridges and
Riverside County District Attorney’s Office of office supplies.
Victim Witness Centers:
Riverside: (951) 955-5450
PLEASE….Don‘t throw away your old ink
Murrieta: (951) 304-5680 * Banning: (951) 922-7130
cartridges! Continue to bring them to us, or
* Indio: (760) 863-8408
take them to Office Max, Staples or Office
*Los Angeles County District Attorney's Victim Depot and give them 909-798-4803
Witness Assistance Program offices: It’s an easy way to help
Pomona: 909) 620-3381 FFMV purchase office supplies.
*Life.After.Uncivil.Ruthless.Acts.
323-816-9651 www.laurala.org
* WINGS OF JUSTICE – Website
www.murdermislabeledsuicide.com/WingsofJustice Sunny days seem to hurt the most
*Women Against Gun Violence – 310-204-2348
www.wagv.org
Wear my pain like a heavy coat
*www.CrimeVictims.gov—public awareness Web See you everywhere I go
site See your smile
* H.E.A.L. Helping Everyone Acknowledge Loss –
818-378-2072– RussellBliss21@aol.com
See your face
* Crime Victims United of California – 916-928-
4797 www.crimevictimsunited.com or Hear your laughing in the rain
mail@crimevictimsunited.com
* North American Victim Assistance (NOVA)
Still can’t believe you're gone
www.trynova.org It isn’t fair you died to young
* Victims of Crime Resources Center (800) Like a story that had just begun
VICTIMS
* POMC - (888) 818-POMC www.pomc.org But death tore the pages all away
* Greater Orange County POMC – Marie – 714-999- God knows how I miss you
7132 – 562-508-2397 And the hell that I've been through
* Citizens Against Homicide - (415) 455-5944
* Justice for Murdered Children - (310) 547-1367 Just knowing no one can take your
* The Crime Victims Assistance Network (iCAN) place
Foundation (916) 273-3603
* Memory of Victims Everywhere - (949) 248-5470
MOVE@cox.net Excerpt from "who you'd be today"
* Resource for the Grieving and Kenny Chesney
Bereavedwww.griefcompanion.com
* Crime Survivors – 949-872-7895
www.crimesurvivors.com Bi-monthly meetings
held in Orange County
* Adela Lavine~Medium: www.adelalavine.com
* MADD – (909) 888-6233
www.maddsanbernardino.org
Give yourself time to grieve. It may
*JUSTICE FOR HOMICIDE VICTIMS - (310) 457- take several years just to accept the
0030 -jhvinfo@justiceforhomicidevictims.com finality of a loss, that someone is
* Striving Towards Eradicating Violence In Ennercities
-S.T.E.V.I.E. stevieisunityandpeace@yahoo.com gone forever, and even more to
oneunikadvocate2@aol.com work through your emotions
* www.psychic4themissing.com
*Homicide Survivors Inc.
5. November 2012 Birthdays
Alfonso Lopez ** Ashley Nicole Randles
Amber Martnez ** Anthony Prudhomme
Anthony Turner Jr. ** Aubrey Maloy
Balam Alcaraz Vega ** Charles Shaw
Christina Duran ** Christhopher Heyman
Damon L. Jones Sr. ** David Leon II
Derek Wiltz II ** Doctor Fernandez
Dwayne Durston III ** Eileen Ponce
Frankie Salas ** Herbert Souther
Jerry Sehrs ** Jonathan Olagues
Jose Tamez III ** Jose Funtes
Juan Macias ** Juanita Martinez
Katie Brennar ** Lindel Fields
Marcus Ringo ** Maria Sanchez
Maria DeLos Angeles Maggallon ** Mark Adam Rodriguez
Michael Villegas Jr. ** Michele Lynette Baily
Michiel A. Hyder-Blamey
Raymond Cole ** Richard Albidrez
Roy Hall ** Sebastian Orioli
Salvador Olivas Jr. ** Teresa Soto Del Rio
Timothy Gaines ** Tommy Matthews Jr.
6. November 2012 Memories
Alexander Ray Esparza
Amber Martinez
Andrian Rivas
Anthony Prudhomme
Brandon Michael Selph
Bryan O’Meara
Christina Duran
David Garcia
Evan Todd Kinard
Greg W. Gibson II
Gilbert Rivera
Jennifer LeAnne Balber
Jerry Ramirez Jr.
Jose Esparza
Joshua Rexford
Lisel Wiedeman
Mark Mireles
Maraslee Ann Nicholas
Mary Estes
Michele Jeanette Carson
Roberto Nanito De La VegasSr.
Roberto “Bobby” Ruiz
Sonia Herrera
Terry L. Stutson
Thomas Charles Pagent Jr.
Yanize Lizette Mora
We Will Always Remember You
7. This page is dedicated to
Michele Jeanette Carson
12/22/84 – 11/7/10
November 7, 2010 a day that changed the lives of our family forever. I can’t believe it is going to be 2
years since we lost our daughter Michele. Michele was so loved and we all miss her so much.
She was taken from us at such a young age by a senseless murder. Michele was a loving young woman
with compassion for her family, friends and strangers. She had a tender heart and true empathy for those
who were troubled or less fortunate than herself. She loved children and children just gravitated to her.
Her whole life she hungered for knowledge, and just knew she wanted to give back. She was a college
graduate and was about to continue her education working towards her Master’s degree. Her goal was to
work with children to help lead them in a path to stay out of trouble as they grew older. We all know in our
hearts that Michele would have made a wonderful mom.
Michele was murdered by someone she cared about very much, and by someone she believed cared
about her. She was strangled and her body had been set on fire in the Las Vegas desert. The utter shock
and emotional despair our family has endured is truly indescribable and beyond any words. Our beautiful
girl was only 25 years old. Her murderer was her ex-boyfriend who is currently in jail awaiting trial in Las
Vegas. Reality is that this can happen to anyone. We pray that justice will be served someday.
Now, we do all that we can to honor our daughter. Our family will do our best to reach out to as many
people as possible and to raise awareness about domestic violence and victim’s rights. Although difficult,
we will continue to share our tragedy of how much it has affected our lives. We do not want to see other
families have to feel what we are going through. This has become a personal priority and we will reach
out, support and speak out against domestic violence whenever possible. No matter how small the
gesture we have to try and make this world a little better place to live.
We love you Michele, you will always be in our hearts. We will meet again in heaven someday.
With Love,
The Carson Family
8. LOVE GIFTS
In Loving Memory of In Loving Memory of In Loving Memory of
Yanzie Lizette Mora Terry L. Stutson Joshua Rexford
3/28/94 – 11/2/10 4/4/58 – 11/84 10/8/76 – 11/27/94
In Loving Memory David Charles Nystrom – 2/2/64 - 7/27/98 & Lisa Cummings – 11/13/66 – 3/12/11
Brother and Sister in Heaven ….. now together watching over their Mom (Ellie Rossi)
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Donation $_______________
Name (please print):_________________________________________________________________
Address____________________________________City/St.________________________Zip__________
Email address: __________________________________________________________
Your Phone # ( ) ____________________Relationship to Victim: _____________________________
Name of Victim: _________________________________________________________________
Date of Birth: Date of Death: ______________________
Please post my loved ones message and/or picture(s) for the month of: ___________
# of pictures enclosed/attached ____________ Use picture on file_______________
9. CAMP GOOD GRIEF (SVP)
Camp Good Grief-Special Victims Program (SVP) is a joint effort between the San Bernardino County District
Attorney's Office Bureau of Victim Services and Loma Linda University Medical Center Children's Hospital. The 3-
day grief camp is geared toward homicide/suicide and is for children ages 10-16 who have experienced a violent
death in their family. Campers board a bus at the Ronald McDonald House in Loma Linda and head to Camp
Cedar Falls in the San Bernardino Mountains for a three-day camp and grief therapy experience.
At camp the children participate in game and team building activities and therapeutic group activities designed
to help them learn and understand how to cope with the grief over the violent death of their loved one. This
camp has been so successful that it has been expanded to include Camp Good Grief - Special Victims Program
Teen Retreat. It will be held annually and provides grief services for teens ages 14-18 who previously
participated in Camp Good Grief - SVP and whose lives have been positively impacted by camp. It will be a
combination of learning advanced grief management skills as well as a training camp for future Camp Good Grief
Peer Counselors.
Camp is free of charge to all campers and camperships are funded by unclaimed victim restitution. Therapists
and interns from Loma Linda Marriage and Family Therapy Clinic, Loma Linda Child Life Specialists and District
Attorney's Office Victim Advocates donate their time to the camp.
The Bureau of Victim Services and Loma Linda University Children's Hospital have pledged to continue
fundraising activities, presentations to service groups, and outreach events so they may continue hosting future
Camp Good Grief-SVP programs.
Contact: Dorothy Brooks 909-558-4073
COLD CASES FYI
I attended JHV Memorial in April, guest Speaker Frank Girardot, editor of the Pasadena Star News and
senior editor of the San Gabriel Valley Tribune Group announced that he would to publish pictures and
information regarding unsolved homicide cases on the newspaper website. Many families that I know
personally have UNSOLVED cases which have turned to COLD cases…Everyone deserves JUSTICE
If your loved one was murdered in the greater Southern California area and the case is unsolved, Frank
will get it published in the newspaper.
You can check out the Cold Case Project by going to www.PasadenaStarNews.com/coldcases. The
paper also has the project listed on Facebook …
This is a response Frank gave me when I e-mailed him about this project:
Hi Rose,
If I get a photo from a loved one I will post it on our website as soon as I can. Anyone who is interested
can contact me and I promise to get them set up.
Sincerely,
Frank Girardot
911 E. Colorado Blvd
Pasadena, CA 91106
626-578-6300 ext.4478
frank.girardot@sgvn.com
Here is some basic information Frank needs when you send him a picture of your loved one:
Your full name, address, phone(s), e-mail address, Victims Full Name and age at time of murder,
Victims DOB-DOD, your relationship to victim, city where murder took place, any suspects arrested?,
Detective’s name & phone, & short bio on how your loved one was murdered
I encourage you to submit your story if you still have an unsolved case!
10. Come and Join
Families & Friends of Murder Victims, Inc.
to their
Annual Christmas Candlelight/Memorial Luncheon
All FFMV chapter members, their family, children, friends
and supporters of FFMV are invited to attend
When: Sunday December 9, 2012
Time: 2pm - 5pm
Where: The Diocese of San Bernardino Pastoral Center
1201 E. Highland Ave., San Bernardino, CA. 92404-4641
(909) 475-5300
**HONOR YOUR LOVED ONE AT OUR CHRISTMAS LUNCHEON**
You can give special honor to your loved one by making a monetary donation towards the main course,
annual gift raffle, table centerpieces or ornaments to be hung by each family in
Memory of your Loved One.
Your Loved One’s name will be acknowledged in the program.
(We are seeking a sponsor(s) for this event)
If you would like to be a sponsor contact: Rose 909-798-4803
mail4ffmv@yahoo.com
FFMV will be accepting gifts/toys for our Annual Raffle
November 1, 2012 thru December 5, 2012, please contact
Rose @ 909-798-4803 or email mail4ffmv@yahoo.com to
make arrangements for drop-off or we can pick up gifts.
~ Our Goal is to have all children receive a
special gift at Annual Raffle ~
11. Christmas Memorial RSVP by November 30, 2012
~We ask that you please bring a salad or side dish and dessert to share ~
~ Bring your Loved Ones picture to display on our Memorial Table ~
~ Each family will receive an ornament in Memory of their Loved One ~
~ Our Loved Ones Slide Show Presentation (send your picture) ~
FFMV will provide the main course, & beverage, and one
ornament for each family
*We are in need of additional donations. If you are interested in donating a gift/toy for our annual raffle, or if you
know of a business that would like to help sponsor this memorial please call and leave a message at (909)798-4803 or
e-mail mail4ffmv@yahoo.com with your interest or questions.
*We will be taking reservations for individual tables if you have 8 or more in your party attending.
This will be on a first come basis only, please mention your interest when you RSVP.
Directions to the Diocese:
From I-210 East; exit at Waterman Ave. and go right , then go left on Highland Ave. Diocese is on the right
From I-10 E, to I-215 N towards San Bernardino, merge onto I-210-E, HIGHLAND / MTN RESORTS, exit at Waterman Ave. and go right , then go
left on Highland Ave. Diocese is on the right
From 91 E , 91E becomes I-215 N , merge onto CA I-210 E / HIGHLAND / MTN RESORTS, exit at Waterman Ave. and go right , then left on
Highland Ave. Diocese is on the right,
From Beaumont take I-10 W, merge onto I-210-Pasadena/CA-30 W toward HIGHLAND, continue going west on I- 210, exit Del Rosa Ave, and go left,
then right on Highland Ave. Diocese is on the left
Diocese is on Highland Ave & Golden Ave (signal)
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( ) Yes I will be attending ( ) Yes I would like to request an individual family table for a family of _____________
I would like ________ additional ornaments at $1ea - Enclosed is $_____________ for ___________ additional ornaments
( ) Enclosed is my loved ones picture ( ) I will e-mail my loved ones picture ( ) Use my loved ones picture that you
have on file
PLEASE PRINT: Your loved ones DOB_________________________ DOD _______________________
Loved Ones First Name________________________ Last Name____________________________________
Your Name: _________________________________________________________________
Your Contact phone # with area code ( ) _____________________email____________________________
# of adults________ # of children ________ # Boys______ Ages_______________________________
# of Girls_______ Ages________________________________________________________________
I will bring (circle one) Salad Side Dish
Mail or e-mail this completed form no later than November 30, 2012 to:
FFMV ~ P.O. Box 11222 ~ San Bernardino, CA ~ 92423-1222 ~ mail4ffmv@yahoo.com
12. From Rose Madsen, Editor/Chair/co-founder of the
Colton & Coachella Chapter of FFMV
In Memory of my daughter Jennifer LeAnne Balber
12/02/73 – 11/10/94
A 20yr. old SoCal Gas Co. Meter Reader,
Fatally Shot in the Line of Service in Rialto, CA
November 10, 1994, my life forever changed….it will be 18yrs that my Jen was
taken…. I continue my journey of healing …still trying to understand why this
happened…. in this journey I have encountered a new circle of friends that
understand me… I cherish their friendship and support. I thank my family for their
continued love and support!
Thoughtfully
Rose
My beautiful Jen…..I can no longer…See you with my eyes…Touch you with my hands…
But I will feel you in my heart….Forever…Love, Mom
FFMV is a non-profit organization dedicated to serving survivors of murder victims & victims of
attempted murder. Our main purpose is grief support for those victim/survivors. All assistance provided
to victims is given free of charge by volunteers. Contributions and/or questions regarding the policies of
FFMV may be addressed to: FFMV Executive Board at P.O. Box 11222 San Bernardino, Ca. 92423-
1222, e-mailed to mail4fffmv@yahoo.com or phoned to
909-798-4803. FFMV is a tax-exempt organization under the Section 501 (c) (3) of the Internal
Revenue Service.
Our Organization depends largely upon private donations which will cover operational
expenses, Our Annual Family Christmas Memorial Luncheon, and Our Annual Victims’ Rights
Week Memorial. We are seeking a sponsor (s) for our events. Please contact FFMV at the above
e-mail or phone if you are interested.
Tax ID #68-0299211
All Contributions Are Tax Deductible
13. 2013 Participant /Photo Release Form for slide show & picture boards
Families & Friends of Murder Victims, INC (FFMV)
Circle one: New Participant ~ Update my information ~ Agency/Non Victim
Please Print
Date________________ Relationship to Victim_______________________
Victim’s First Name_________________________________________
Victim’s Last Name_________________________________________
Date of Birth _____________ Date of Death__________ Solved: Yes ( ) No ( )
Permission to use photo(s): Yes ( ) No ( ) Just add me to e-mail/mailing list to
receive monthly newsletter and event information
I grant to Families & Friends of Murder Victims, Inc. (FFMV), the right to use
photograph(s) of the above-identified subject. I authorize FFMV to use and
publish the same in print and/or electronically.
I agree that FFMV may use such photographs with or without his/her name and for
any lawful purpose, including for example such purposes as publicity, illustration,
advertising, and Web content.
I have read and understand the above.
Name of Agency/Non-Victim if applicable: ________________________________
Signature _________________________________________________________
Print Full Name _____________________________________________________
Address___________________________________________________________
City__________________________________ Zip Code____________________
Phone with area code ______________________________________
E-mail ____________________________________________________________
Mail or e-mail participant/release form to: mail4ffmv@yahoo.com
FFMV ~ P.O.Box 11222 San Bernardino, CA ~ 92423-1222
I have included a picture ( ) Yes ( ) No use the one on file
I have included a $_________ donation for 2012
Thank-you… if you have already sent your 2013 donation
14. Please help with this legislation, to either sponsor or co-sponsor this urgently needed bill.
Write to your congressperson and Senators Barbara Boxer and Dianne Feinstein
Congresswoman Ileana Ros-Lehtinen as the Chair of the House Foreign Relations Committee and Congressman
Howard Berman as the Ranking Member.Chief of Staff Margaret Mott (mail won't be stalled thru radiation there as it is in
DC)14546 Hamlin St. # 202 Van Nuys, California 91401 Phone (818) 994-7200 Fax: (818) 994-1050
Congresswoman Ileana Ros-Lehtinen, Chair of the House Foreign Relations Committee
2206 Rayburn House Office Building Washington, DC 20515-0918 to either sponsor or
Co-sponsor this urgently needed bill.
Thanks, Maxine B. Russell - Mother of Darren - russellbliss21@aol.com
On the web: www.russellcase.net (UPDATED)
On Twitter: @killed_in_china
In U.S. Federal Court: Case No. CV-09-06050
