ORGASM IN AMERICANew Findings on a Perpetually Explosive Topic Leanna Wolfe, Ph.D. Sex and Culture Salon May 30, 2012 Sponsored by Loveology University
What is an Orgasm? From the Greek, orgasmos, from organ to mature-swell Re: sudden discharge of accumulated sexual tension during the sexual response cycle
Why is Orgasm Interesting? Pleasurable Male ejaculation can lead to pregnancy In (at least) the Western world female orgasm has been elusive Female anatomy has been misunderstood by both males and females And by both amateurs and professionals Missionary position sexual intercourse is not often women’s most reliable means of reaching orgasm
Language and Orgasm Sapir Whorf Hypothesis (re: how language conditions thought) The names we give sensations impact our noticing and valuing them
Types of Orgasms Male Ejaculatory Non-ejaculatory Single Wet Dreams Female Clitoral G-spot / Vaginal Blended Ejaculatory Butterfly Multiple New Terminologies Unigasm Bigasm Trigasm
Orgasm in America Slam bang thank you ma’am (not so much) Quickie inconsiderate sex with a near stranger Men are expected to bring their partners to orgasm Women are expected to be responsive and skilled More interest in pleasing a partner than pleasing oneself Power over a partner…gain compliance, commitment Creates pressure to fake orgasm
Changing Perspectives on the Sexual Response CycleEllis (1906) Two-stage Process: Tumescence and DetumescenceMasters (1966) Four Stage Model: Excitement,and Plateau, Orgasm, andJohnson ResolutionKaplan (1977) Triphasic Model: Desire, Excitement and Orgasm
Sigmund Freud Clitoral Orgasms are an adolescent sensation while Vaginal Orgasms are a mature woman’s experience (1905)
Masters and Johnson • Four Phase Sexual Response Cycle •No Physiological Difference between a ―Vaginal‖ and a ―Clitoral‖ Orgasm
Survey Overview 27- question Internet Survey 1,053 completed surveys (84% response rate) January 10, 2010 – November 12, 2011 Sponsored by Loveology University 28.5% of respondents from Dr. Ava Cadell 17% of respondents from Loveology University 54.5% of respondents from Dr. Leanna Wolfe Designed and Analyzed with Survey Monkey Software
Overview of RespondentsGender Distribution Sexual Orientation667 males (53.6%); 566 females 81.3% Males heterosexual,(45.4%; 12 transgenders (1%) Females 57.6% straight; 23.4% bi
Relationship Status Incidence of Current Relationship Open Relationship54.3% of males and 33% of females Respondents in open relationships werewere married; Females more evenly more likely to be bisexual and to engagedistributed in other relationship forms in a wider variety of sexual activities
Sexual ExperienceLifetime Sexual Partners Frequency of Partner SexMode of 2-4 lifetime partners Mode of 3-4 times a week 60% at least weekly sexual activity
Experience with OrgasmFull Survey Younger Respondents (17-29)97.6% of males and 90.8% of Younger women less likely to havefemales are sure they have experienced orgasm (83.6%) andexperienced orgasm more likely to not be sure (9.4%)
Orgasm Duration The mode was 6-8 seconds. More males report shorter (2-5 seconds) orgasms and three times as many females report 30 second to 1 minute orgasms.
Incidence of Multiple Orgasms A much more common experience for females (64.6%) than for males (24.1%)
Incidence of Faking Orgasm More commonly done by females (66.3%) than by males (30.6%)
Why do People Fake Orgasm? Please a partner Make the partner feel as if they are able to satisfy you Cause a no longer satisfying sex act to end To maintain an otherwise pleasing relationship To get into a desired relationship Issues of surrender, trust not (yet) resolved Unskilled partner (not yet trained)
Faked Orgasm ComparisonsYounger Respondents (17-29) Older Respondents (36-69)Younger males have fewer Younger females may be more honestperformance challenges than older with their partners or simply have hadmales fewer years to participate faking…
Middle Years – The Biggest Fakers Women (74.2%) in their middle years (30-35) may feel the most pressure to fake orgasm (4% higher than older females and 15% higher than younger females)
Incidence of Simultaneous Orgasm Male respondents report higher rates of orgasmic synergy than female respondents….
Reaching Orgasm TogetherComparisonsYounger Respondents (17-29) Older Respondents (36-69)While younger females have the highest rate of ―never happens‖(21.3%), younger males have the highest rate of it always happens (3.4%).
Coming Together - Middle Years Respondents between 30-35 have the lowest levels of gender alignment. Just 9.2% of males report ―it never happens,‖ while 17.6% females make this report. This parallels this group’s high level of female orgasm faking (74.2%). Pressure to build/maintain families may be trumping honest partner communication.
Methods for Achieving Orgasm Masturbation is the most reliable for both genders, sexual intercourse is much more reliable for males (12% difference); a wider variety of methods are reported as effective by females.
Methods for Intensifying Orgasm Many gender-based differences except for ―tantric practices.‖
The Orgasmically Challenged 40 females presented as anorgasmic Top explanations: Unskilled partners (37.5%) Feeling guilty about sex (35%) Being too inhibited (30%) Previous sexual trauma (25%) Lack of information about human sexuality (20%) (Just 3 males reported being anorgasmic)
EjaculationNon-ejaculatory Males Ejaculating Females 44.8% report non- 46.4% report ejaculatory orgasm ejaculating 19th Oneida Spontaneous? community practiced A sought and valued to prevent pregnancy experience… Tantric/Taoist practices pursued by some respondents…
Difference Between Vaginal andClitoral Orgasms? More males are confused (33%) than females (21.7%). Does this reflect Freud’s 1905 observations?! Discount the 1970sfeminist contention that the vaginal orgasm is a myth?
Can Females Climax withoutDirector Clitoral StimulationYounger Respondents (17-19) Older Respondents (36-69) Older respondents are much more definitive that this is impossible (77%)—younger respondents, especially males (22.7%) believe this is can happen.
Females who climax without directclitoral stimulation Tantric Training Use of Pelvic Toners Positions where female can ―grind‖ into partner
Do Females Take Longer to Climaxthan Males? Largely seen as true – even more true for impatient males (84.5%) than the females (78.9%)
Is Sex without Orgasm Satisfying? Nearly half (46%) agree; and another 43.7% concur that ‖it depends‖ perhaps on things like emotional connection, love and rewarding touch.
Discussion Several Schools of Thought re: Women Women Need Direct Clitoral Stimulation to Reach Orgasm PV intercourse alone is often not sufficient Men need to realize this Women Need to Strengthen their Pubococcygeus Muscles through Kegel Exercises and/or using a Pelvic Toner Tantric Training (re: eye gazing, breathe work, self and partner awareness) can align couples Sex without Orgasm can be both emotionally satisfying an loving Males (and females) have very little information about how to enhance the Male Sexual Experience…