Sex is generally broken down into 3 distinct phases. Sex begins with the phase known as ‘Foreplay’. This phase
initiates the mating ritual and establishes initial arousal. Next is the penetration or intercourse phase, this
phase is what generally is called ‘sex’. The plateau phase which brings the mating ritual to an ecstacis halt is the
phase known as ‘Climax’. This phase is when semen is released and can begin the fertilization phase.
foreplay is generally used to begin penetration is often the ‘sex’ climax is what ends ‘sex’. it is
‘sex’. it is a form of initial arousal. part. it is used for stimulation the result and/or goal of ‘sex’.
labia majora flattens urinary bladder closes areola/labia increase in size
clitoris stimulation pre-ejacuratory fluid rise uterine/vaginal contractions
increase in heart-rate areola and labia increase in size orgasm
kissing/petting sexual intercourse: euphoric sensation
oral sex vaginal penetration / stimulation
cunnulingus anal penetration / stimulation
These phases may be skipped,
prolonged or shortened per situation,
however they may not be done out of
order. Each phase is progressive and
leads into the other phase. However
the first two phases may be inter-
changeable, the final phase of sex is
always climax. That is to say it is
impossible to reach the Climax phase
without having been through either (or
both) Foreplay and Penetration
In a quantitative study I conducted, reaserch shows that women and men often
have different understandings of what sex should constitute of. These
difference of opinions often lead to an unsatisfactory and unhealthy
sexual relationship, leaving both partners with feelings of unfullfilment.
Most men believe that sex primarily is Penetration Women on the other hand place a higher Penetration
defined by the penetration phase. Climax importance to foreplay and the climax Climax
They define ‘sex’ as being 10% foreplay, phase. They define ‘sex’ as being 45%
60% penetration and 30% foreplay, 15% penetration and 40%
climax (only 10% less than women). 60 climax (only 10% more than men). 15
Sex is defined as an interactional behavioral pattern. What
often leads to ‘Bad Sex’ is a combination of physiological and
psychological behaviors which interconnect, resulting in not
meeting a pre-conceived notion or expection partners may have.
• PREMATURE • BODY DYSMORPHIA
A males sex organ is easily accessible to stimulate. There are many aspects of persons’ individual bodies
Because of this, it is much easier for a man to that people feel uncomfortable with and causes lower
reach climax (through penile stimulation). self-esteem. Males are often concerned about the
A womans sex organ (specifically the organ that adequacy of their penile endowment largely due to
stimulates pleasure) is not as easily accessible. There a social stigma that says ‘real’ men are big.
are many instances where men are completely In popular social culture there are also many
incapable to locate the clitoris. This often leads to ‘sex’ misconceptions of what ‘average’ size is.
finishing even before a womans organs’ are ever stimulated.
Women in turn also may feel concerned about their
Other physiological concerns that may interupt sex physical body. Primarily, it may be concerns of their
are health concerns including temporary physical weight which in part connects to the size of their breasts,
ailments (cold, flu, fever) or longterm STD’s. the firmness of their hips, thighs and buttocks.
Sex remains a behavior to be improved due to the large unsatisfaction
in achieving the pre-conditions or cognitive implications/expectations
partners may hold for the sexual encounter. A simple way to improve sex is by
providing equal access to the importance of each of the phases so that
both partners have the same expectation and understanding of sex .
A simple way to do this, is by determining the mean of what men and women constitute as ‘sex’. In order to do so, we can
add the numbers for the relevance of each phase according to each sex, and divide it by two. We can then
take those numbers to create a new graph determining the idealic proportions of a sexual pattern.