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"Bullying" for #YC14


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Session for Youthwork the Conference (Eastbourne, November 2014): Dealing with Bullying: In recent years, (cyber) bullying has taken up increasing space in the headlines, and there has been a surge of publications on the topic. We question what bullying is, who is involved, identifying risk factors, and suggestions for intervention.

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"Bullying" for #YC14

  1. 1. DEALING WITH BULLYING Dr Bex Lewis @drbexl Director, Digital Fingerprint Research Fellow in Social Media and Online Learning, CODEC Centre for Digital Theology, Durham University
  2. 2. Types of
  3. 3. Physical Bullying
  4. 4. Verbal Bullying
  5. 5. Relational Aggression
  6. 6. • One noticeable difference in the digital era, especially as the social platforms have stabilized, is that it’s difficult to leave anyone behind, which can be delicate to negotiate: – Generally, it is socially unacceptable to delete a Friend one knows. When this is done, it is primarily after a fight or breakup. In these situations, the act of deletion is spiteful and intentionally designed to hurt the other person. Raising Children in a Digital Age, p.106
  7. 7. Cyber Bullying
  8. 8. Sexual Bullying
  9. 9. Prejudicial Bullying
  10. 10. The Bullied The Bully The Bystander
  11. 11. The Bullied
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  13. 13. Signs specific to cyber-bullying? • Long hours on the computer • Secretive Internet use • Screen minimization • Refusing to log on or answer phone • Extreme possessiveness of phone, to which constant nervous looks are given.
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  15. 15. Emotionally: • No shame: not their fault • Don’t threaten their (online) access • Spend extra time together: time for communication • Nurture self-confidence
  16. 16. Practically: • Don’t respond • Keep copies of messages as ‘proof’ • Understand how to ‘block’ accounts • Talk to child re contacting school • Think hard before talking to parents of bully • Get phone number blocked
  17. 17. Practically: • Break it up… • Find out what happened • Support all the children involved • Be involved
  18. 18. The Bully
  19. 19. My child a bully…? •Someone will tell you •Talks about other children at school negatively or aggressively •Has money, toys, or other items that don’t belong to them
  20. 20. Disinhibition The bully doesn’t see the distress that they cause, feels safe from capture, and protected by the technology, able to say things that they would never say offline.
  21. 21. Zero- Tolerance?
  22. 22. Any solutions? • Explain what bullying is. • Monitor their e-devices • Ensure a consistent approach with school/youth-group • Are they avoiding being bullied by becoming a bully?
  23. 23. Any solutions? • Assign him/her a book to read about bullying • Get them to write an essay on the dangers of bullying. • Remove their Internet and mobile privileges (for a fixed period). • Assign him/her to community service or other time-consuming activity. • Encourage them to apologise and take responsibility.
  24. 24. The Bystander(s)
  25. 25. The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing Quote commonly (and probably erroneously) attributed to Edmund Burke
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  28. 28. Digital Allies
  29. 29. Matthew 25:40 Whatever you did for one of my brothers or sisters, no matter how unimportant they seemed, you did for me.
  30. 30. Increased time spent online will most likely increase exposure to negative experiences – but also the positive opportunities. Nancy Willard, a cyberbullying expert, calls for us to work on the “understanding that the vast majority of young people want to make good choices, do not want to be harmed, and do not want to see their friends or others harmed”. We can’t control their whole environment, online or offline, so parents need to give their children the capability to deal with problems as they come across them. Raising Children in a Digital Age, p.63
  31. 31. Ferguson, a professor from Texas A&M who researches technologies’ effects on human behaviour: “Youth today are the least aggressive, most civically involved, and mentally well in several generations .” ‘Imagining the Internet: Millennials will benefit and suffer due to their hyperconnected lives’, Pew Research Center,, 29/02/12
  32. 32. Setting a good example! • Recognising workplace bullying – Verbal abuse – Intimidation – Questions adequacy & commitment – Intrudes on privacy – Undermines your work – Impedes your success – Spreads rumours about you – Isolates you at work •
  33. 33. Community not individualism
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  35. 35. Some useful sites for those needing help • (preventing young suicide) • (suicide prevention for LGBTQ youth) • (confidential helpline for those under 19) • (advice about cyberbullying, and opportunities to report your own situation, or someone else’s) • (US based site for those struggling with depression, addiction, self-injury, and suicidal thoughts) • (MTV site for those suffering digital abuse) • (for those suffering LGBT abuse)
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