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Raising Children in a Digital Age, St Thomas's Church, Fair Oak

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2 hour session for St Thomas's Church, Fair Oak, Hampshire. 14th March 2015

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Raising Children in a Digital Age, St Thomas's Church, Fair Oak

  1. 1. Dr Bex Lewis, Director, Digital Fingerprint; CODEC, St John’s College, Durham University Fair Oak, 14/03/15 http://j.mp/raisechildrenST RAISING CHILDREN IN A DIGITAL AGE CC Licence 4.0 non-commercial @drbexl
  2. 2. Published by Lion Hudson February 2014 http://digital- fingerprint.co.uk/di gitalparenting/
  3. 3. “If we want resilient kids we need to understand what young people’s experiences are online, listen to their concerns, and intervene with their best interests in mind.” Jane Tallim, Co-Executive Director, MediaSmarts, Canada, January 2015 http://mediasmarts.ca/research-policy/young-canadians-wired- world-phase-iii-trends-recommendations UNDERSTAND!
  4. 4. “We’re doing this because all the research tells us that children and young people respond best to their peers. Whether they’re under pressure to take part in a dangerous prank, or to victimise someone, or whether they’re an online bully themselves, stories told by other young people are most likely to resonate and to help them cope, or change their behaviour.” Andrew Tomlinson, Executive Producer, Media Literacy, BBC Learning http://www.bbc.co.uk/blogs/aboutthebbc/entries/f1f50247-4902-4998- bf58-3e2d3c007587 BBC: BE SMART
  5. 5. LET’S “TWEET” EACH OTHER…
  6. 6. HEADLINES!! Image Credit: Stockfresh
  7. 7. ARE FEARS JUSTIFIED? Image Credit: Stockfresh
  8. 8. Even though in practice, face-to-face communication can, of course, be angry, negligent, resistant, deceitful and inflexible, somehow it remains the ideal against which mediated communication is judged as flawed. Prof Sonia Livingstone, Children and the Internet: Great Expectation s and Challenging Realities. 2 009, p26
  9. 9. https://twitter.com/hanelly/status/405754162555944960/photo/1
  10. 10. DIGITAL CULTURE: WHY IT MATTERS Image Credit: Stockfresh
  11. 11. http://youtu.be/zxpa4dNVd3
  12. 12. http://pennystocks.la/internet-in-real-time/
  13. 13. TECHNOLOGY: THE TOOLBOX Image Credit: iStockphoto
  14. 14. http://www.reddit.com/r/geek/comments/1zxyz2/social_media_explained/
  15. 15. Facebook http://www.digitalinformationworld.com/2015/01/2015-facebook-marketing-success-kit-infographic.html
  16. 16. Twitter http://www.adweek.com/socialtimes/twitter-facts-2015/612443
  17. 17. YouTube
  18. 18. Blogging
  19. 19. https://www.pinterest.com/revmaryhawes/
  20. 20. CHILDREN IN DIGITAL CULTURE Image Credit: RGBStock
  21. 21. COMMUNICATE, COMMUNICATE, COMMUNICATE Image Credit: Stockfresh
  22. 22. http://www.Fosi.Org/downloads/ resources/familycontract_us.Pdf
  23. 23. PRACTICAL ADVICE: PRIVACY & PERMANENCY Image Credit: RGBStock
  24. 24. To monitor or not to monitor?
  25. 25. IDENTITY, VALUES AND AUTHENTICITY Image Credit: Stockfresh
  26. 26. JUST BECAUSE YOU CA … DOESN’T MEAN YOU SHOULD!
  27. 27. H.A.L.T. If you are Hungry, Angry, Lonely or Tired, step away from the keyboard/keypad and deal with that issue first. http://redcatco.com/communication/stop-posting-social-media/
  28. 28. Who sees this? 1. (God) 2. Parents 3. ‘Kids’ 4. Newspaper 5. Enemy
  29. 29. HUMAN BEINGS AT MACHINES, NOT “ARE MACHINES” Image Source: Stockfresh
  30. 30. RELATIONSHIPS (ONLINE) Image Credit: RGBStock
  31. 31. The Bullied The Bully The Bystander
  32. 32. The Bullied
  33. 33. SIGNS SPECIFIC TO CYBER- BULLYING? • Long hours on the computer • Secretive Internet use • Screen minimization • Refusing to log on or answer phone • Extreme possessiveness of phone, to which constant nervous looks are given.
  34. 34. EMOTIONALLY: •No shame: not their fault •Don’t threaten their (online) access •Spend extra time together: time for communication •Nurture self-confidence
  35. 35. PRACTICALLY: • Don’t respond • Keep copies of messages as ‘proof’ • Understand how to ‘block’ accounts • Talk to child re contacting school • Think hard before talking to parents of bully • Get phone number blocked
  36. 36. The Bully
  37. 37. MY CHILD A BULLY…? Someone will tell you Talks about other children at school negatively or aggressively Has money, toys, or other items that don’t belong to them
  38. 38. DISINHIBITION The bully doesn’t see the distress that they cause, feels safe from capture, and protected by the technology, able to say things that they would never say offline.
  39. 39. Zero- Tolerance?
  40. 40. ANY SOLUTIONS? •Explain what bullying is. •Monitor their e-devices •Ensure a consistent approach with school/youth-group •Are they avoiding being bullied by becoming a bully?
  41. 41. ANY SOLUTIONS? • Remove their Internet and mobile privileges (for a fixed period). • Encourage them to apologise and take responsibility. • Assign him/her a book to read about bullying?! • Get them to write an essay on the dangers of bullying?! • Assign him/her to community service or other time-consuming activity.
  42. 42. The Bystander(s)
  43. 43. The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing Quote commonly (and probably erroneously) attributed to Edmund Burke
  44. 44. HTTP://YOUTU.BE/RUBQETAMD5G
  45. 45. DIGITAL ALLIES
  46. 46. Increased time spent online will most likely increase exposure to negative experiences – but also the positive opportunities. Nancy Willard, a cyberbullying expert, calls for us to work on the “understanding that the vast majority of young people want to make good choices, do not want to be harmed, and do not want to see their friends or others harmed”. We can’t control their whole environment, online or offline, so parents need to give their children the capability to deal with problems as they come across them. Raising Children in a Digital Age, p.63
  47. 47. Stranger Danger 2012/13 550 UK Abductions Less than 1/5: unknown
  48. 48. INCREASINGLY MOBILE Image Credit: RGBStock
  49. 49. SEX TALK (PORN, PAEDOPHILIA AND SEXTING) Image Credit: Stockfresh
  50. 50. KEEPING WITHIN THE LAW Image Credit: RGBStock
  51. 51. HEALTH WORKS Image Credit: RGBStock Physical Setup Brain Changes Addiction Multitasking Conversational Ability Couch Potatoes
  52. 52. SCREEN TIME AND FAMILY DYNAMICS Image Credit: Stockfresh
  53. 53. GAMING Image Credit: RGBStock
  54. 54. DOES DIGITAL OFFER (LIFE) OPPORTUNITIES? Image Credit: RGBStock
  55. 55. Do it for them Do it with them Watch while they do it Let them do it for themselves. Will Taylor PROGRESSIVE RESPONSIBILITY Image Credit: RGBStock
  56. 56. GRANDPARENTS, TEACHERS & YOUTH LEADERS Image Credit: RGBStock
  57. 57. LOOKING TO THE FUTURE Image Credit: RGBStock
  58. 58. BOUNCE BACK? Image Credit: Stockfresh
  59. 59. What is your ONE takeaway action?
  60. 60. @drbexl @codecuk @digitalfprint

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