This document discusses emotional intelligence and developing emotional awareness. It covers key concepts like ego states, the triune brain, life positions, and games-free living. It also discusses developing emotional literacy, understanding the roots of emotions in the parent, adult and child ego states. Specific strategies mentioned include analyzing ego states, giving and accepting strokes from others, and opening one's heart through mutual affection and responsibility. The overall message is that emotional intelligence can be learned and improved through understanding emotions and developing emotional awareness.

1. EI with Heart
by
M Chandrachoodeshwaran
16.05.2021 Ver 1.0

2. Activity
How do you feel now?

4. Activity
One thing you like the most in you and one thing you want to
address (emotionally).

5. Key takeaways:
Ego States
Triune Brain
Life Positions
Games Free Life
Strokes

6. Emotional Literacy:
Emotional Literacy helps your emotions to work for you instead of
against you, it improves relationships, creates loving possibilities
between people, makes cooperative work possible, and facilitates the
feeling of Community.

7. Roots of Emotional Awareness

8. Parent Ego State
Behaviors, thoughts and feelings copied
from parents and parent figures
Adult Ego State
Behaviors, thoughts and feelings which are direct
responses to the here and now
(responding the situation)
Child Ego State
Behaviors, thoughts and feelings replayed from
childhood
Ego States

9. Critical Parent Nurturing Parent
Adult
Free Child
Adoptive Child
Rebellious Child
Analyzing Ego States

10. Critical Parent Ego State:
Critical Parent has en external source; it is like a tape recording of other
people’s thoughts and opinions. The Critical Parent is an external influence
that is allowed to run (and sometimes ruin) our lives.

11. ANECDOTE
Stroke City

12. “Once a person is able to talk about his emotions with fellow human
beings he can develop an increasing awareness of his feelings.”

13. The Triune Brain

14. Intellectual / Rational Approach
Emotional Approach
Aggressive / Self preservation
Gathered from https://lecerveau.mcgill.ca/flash/capsules
The Triune Brain

15. ANECDOTE
# 1 Prime Minister’s counter to CM of West Bengal.
# 2 Then CM Karunanithi’s speech about Puducherry
Government.

16. Life Positions

17. 1.I am OK, You are OK
2.I am NOT OK, You are OK
3.I am OK, You are NOT OK
4.I am NOT OK, You are NOT OK

19. Games Free Life

20. Time Structuring:

22. Winners Triangle

23. ANECDOTE
1. Most of the TV Serials
2. Fantasy Books (Cinderella)

24. 6 Seconds

25. Why are Emotions difficult to control?
Emotional Hijacking
Google Images Page No. 25/MEHR

26. “The amygdala can only react based on previously stored patterns. The
amygdala is a very primitive part of the brain that is basically designed for
survival, rather than problem solving in complex situation.”
Duration : three to six seconds

27. ANECDOTE
My experience with Escalator – Stimulation of right brain.

28. Strokes

29.  Give Strokes
 Ask for Strokes
 Accept Strokes
 Reject Strokes
 Give yourselves Strokes

30. “When you give, you will get.”

31. Opening the Heart

32. Opening the Heart :
With supportive people and friends, you take part in simples acts of
mutual affection.
Surveying the Emotional Landscape:
You focus on the ebb and flow of your own emotions and those of
those of people around you. Listening with an open heart you strive
to understand emotions and their reasons.
Taking Responsibility:
You admit that with minor or major mistakes you have hurt people
in your life. You apologize and make amends.

33. “Skills can be learned and the attitudes can be adopted, which
is why emotional intelligence is changeable and developable.”

34. JCI SENATOR CHANDRACHOODESHWARAN M
9994307364 | 7667502961
chandrachoodanm@gmail.com
www.Chandrachoodeshwaran.in