This document discusses the importance of emotional intelligence for educators in managing demanding emotional situations that arise from working with students, parents, and others. It emphasizes managing difficult emotions through techniques like STAMP and positive thinking, being willing to experience emotions to learn from them, and cultivating positive emotions. Specific strategies are provided like mindfulness, meditation, journaling, and prioritizing tasks. The key is letting go of thinking one needs to do everything and focusing on purpose instead. Productivity tips include clustering tasks, turning off notifications, and creating a priority to-do list. An action step is committing to try one technique each week.

1. Managing the Chaos and
Maintaining the Calm
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2. Education Wellbeing Research Key Finding:
Essential to an educator’s wellbeing is having an
emotional intelligence that allows them to think
positively about the demands of the job and apply
realistic coping strategies to effectively manage
demanding emotional situations that arise in working
closely with children, young people, parents and other
adults.
(Hastings & Bham, 2003; Kern, Waters, Adler & White, 2014; Kilgalon, Maloney
& Lock, 2008; Lambert, McCarthy, O’Donnell & Wang, 2009; McCallum & Price,
2010; Parker, Martin, Colmar & Liem, 2012; Pillay, Goddard & Wilss, 2005;
Spilt, Koomen & Thijs, 2011; Sturmfels, 2009; Ross, Romer &
Horner, 2012; Vesely, Saklofske, & Nordstokke, 2014)
What is Emotional Intelligence?

3. What is Emotional Intelligence?
•Self Awareness
•Managing Your Emotions
•Empathy
•Putting altogether in
positive relationships
What is the number one thing we need to facilitate learning?

4. Managing Emotions
1. Managing difficult emotions
2. Willingness to experience
emotions & learn from them
3. Cultivating positive emotions

6. 1.Managing Challenging Emotions
Which emotion do you regularly experience in
your working day, that you wish you did not?

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9. What you focus on is what you get to the
exclusion of all else
Your Reality
Potential Reality
Potential Reality
Potential Reality
Are you focussing on what’s right or what ‘s wrong?
Your
Reality

10. 2 million bits of
information a second
delete, distort,
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0.00054% of reality is what we experience

11. Managing Challenging Emotions
Which emotion do you regularly experience in
your working day, that you wish you did not?

12. • things I have not done
• what I have not got right
• what else I should be doing
• how can I possibly get this all done?
• how stressed I am and others seem to
handle it.
• the students who did not complete their
work.
• how out of control I feel
Example: Stressed
What do you focus on? ( thinking)

13. Disempowering Thinking Empowering Thinking
Your Turn : __________ (emotion)

14. Disempowering Thinking Empowering Thinking
All the things I have not done
How can I possibly get this all
done?
What else I should be doing
_______(the emotion you wish you did not feel)

15. Disempowering Thinking Empowering Thinking
All the things I have not done
How can I possibly get this all
done?
What else I should be doing
When you are so busy focussing on this, what are
you NOT CHOOSING to focus on?

16. When you are so busy focussing on this, what are
you NOT CHOOSING to focus on?
Disempowering Empowering
Things I have not done Things I have done
What I have not got right What I have got right
What else I should be doing Focus for 30 minutes on this
task
How can I possibly get this all
done?
One small step at a time. What
is the next small step?
The students who did not
complete their work
The students who did complete
their work, what support do
students need who did not?

17. STAMP TECHNIQUE
Stop
Take a breath
Acknowledge the emotion
Make a different choice
Praise

18. Other Tools to Manage Difficult Emotions:
• Meditation is when you intentionally set aside
time to do something that’s good for you.
There are all kinds of meditations.
• Mindfulness is both a general awareness of
the world as you go about your day and a
formal meditation practice. Meditation and
mindfulness overlap in mindfulness meditation,
which is one of the most popular types of
meditation.

20. Not about finding an hour (idealization)

21. Pear Breathing

22. Sitting Still Like a Frog

23. Mindful Eating

24. 2.Willingness to experience our
feelings and learn what we need
It is crucial to help us notice how we are feeling, understand
the feeling and learn that we are not our feelings.

25. Willingness to Experience our
Feelings and learn from them

26. Feel Great Tools For Learning and Life

27. Willingness to Experience
Our Feelings
• Notice and name the feeling
• Allow yourself to see how this feeling could
actually serve you, or benefit you. What can I
learn from this feeling?
• Journal about how making this feeling wrong and
not having a healthy relationship with it actually
impacts your life. How does it impact your
choices and behaviors? What is the cost?
• What is an action step you can do this week to
embrace this feeling?

28. What to do when there is too much to do?
Part of the problem is an overarching belief system
which creates this thinking that we have to do it all.
I don’t have enough time.
There is too much to do.
I can’t get it all done.
I have to get it all done.
I have to do it all.

29. This creates a divide
Having it all done
Working hard
trying to get it
all done
----
Source of many of our frustrations
whether in the classroom or our life

30. Problem with having to do it all
What we do is never enough, feeds devastating
energy that we are not good enough that at
times every single one of us feels, we don’t like
to feel this so we:
• Work harder
• Medicate
• Do things to excess
• Do nothing

31. We simply can not do it all
Work
Parent
Relationship
Health

32. Connect back to Purpose
Was that connected to ….

33. How to let go of having to do it all?
• Meditation
• Mindfulness of the need to do it all, allow it,
thank it and allow it to pass just like the weather
•Visualization process
• Prayer
• Stillness, Reflection
• Coaching (inner critic work, building self worth)
• Gratitude that what you have done is enough
• Priortising and scheduling what’s important

34. Keys to Productivity

35. Keys to Productivity
1. Input vs. Output
2. Cluster Your time according to Activities
e.g. Lesson planning, emails, phone calls
3. Put the clock on: esp. for little annoying tasks
4. Turn off notifications
5. Serious/ Playfulness see the ridiculous
6. $30000 List

36. $30000 List
1. Complete to-do list the night before
2. Top 6
3. List from most important to least important
4. Do worst job out of most important
5. Move across undone tasks to following day

37. To do List?
1. Teach __ lessons (building relationships)
2. Planning and Prep for __ lessons
3.
4.
5.
6.

38. 3.Cultivating Positive Emotions
CALM: Set alarm five minutes earlier and sit up in bed for
some meditation/ relaxing/ mind time.
CONFIDENCE: First, look in the mirror and say to yourself, “I
am capable and confident.”
OPTIMISM: Brushing your hair, “How am going to learn
today?”
GRATITUDE: Brushing your teeth, “What am I grateful for?”
LAUGHTER: What’s funny about this? Happy dance
PLAY PLAY PLAY

39. Summary
Emotional Intelligence: Managing Emotions
1. Managing Difficult Emotions
• Above and below the line thinking
• Own emotion: STAMP technique
• Mindfulness, Meditation
2. Willingness to Experience Emotions & learn from them
3. Cultivating Positive Emotions
Letting go of mindset of having to do it all
Keys To Productivity

40. What action step will you
commit to this week?

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