Life is like a box of chocolates - slidesPresentation Transcript
Have you ever thought about why we like Hershey Kisses? They taste good. We feel better when we eat them. They are predictable. They meet our expectations.
The Magic of a Box of Chocolates Sometimes we don’t know what is in the box. For some there is love and excitement. For some there is good along with the bad. Sometimes they melt Sometimes the choices do not meet our expectations. Sometimes the choices exceed our expectations! Sometimes we just can’t say “No”
“Life is like a box ofchocolates”
Hopes and Goals:•Provoke thought!•Share some meaningful skills.•Enjoy our time together•Be more like Mama! (Forrest)
Identify somethingthat makes you smile!Identify something that
Something you areA priority thankful in your life
Identify something you are proud of
Things you arethankful for!
Something you do torecover from the day.
“Stuff Happens Forrest Gump Which of these affects your life?
Rate of Change
Loss of control
Relationships are complicated
Money Issues How expensiveis your chocolate?
Culture ChangeJob Loss Divorce Death Relationship issues Financial Issues
SYMPTOMS ANXIETY MUSCLE TENSION SLEEP RELATED ISSUES STOMACH PROBLEMS DEPRESSION IMMUNE SYSTEM
How many of these do you have? Backache s Headaches Ten ANXIETY sion adn essS Heartaches
“Life is like a twominute warning” “Forrest Gump”Make Choices
FACTORS TO REDUCE ANXIETY• NUTRTIONAL CONCERNS• TENSION RELEASE AND DIVERSION• COPING RESPONSES•BELLY BREATHING
How manyof you havesleep problems? Actions you can take!
Prior to Sleep CREATE RITUALS SLOW DOWN ONE TO TWO HOURS BEFORE BED AVOID HEAVY MEALS & SNACKING AVOID ALCOHOL And CAFFINE SLEEP IN ONE PLACE NO TV,FOOD OR COMPUTER IN BED ROOM
TROUBLE GETTING TO SLEEP AVOID IRRITANTS DO DEEP BREATHING OR DEEP MUSCLES RELAXATIONS. LIMIT TIME TO BE RESTLESS. LIMIT LIGHT AND SOUND STILL CAN’T SLEEP GET UP – BE POSITIVE
TROUBLE STAYING ASLEEP DEEP RELAXATIONS NOTE PAD – WRITE THOUGHTS SET LIMITS GET UP AND BE POSITIVE
“Stupid is asstupid does!” Forrest Gump
CHALLENGES WE CREATE Things we do to ourselves!
CHO ICE S
Challenge OneWorry WORRY
Worry is like a rockingchair: It gives yousomething to do, but itdoesnt get youanywhere. Erma Bombeck, Gods Little Devotional Book for mothers US author & humorist (1927 - 1996)
The Nature of Worry Non productive Concern thought Same ReoccurringConcern thoughts More thought
So what can you do? Seek Action
Be Clear worry is… Not productive Not rational Emotionally charged May have some truth in it
Action Options Dale CarnegieSeek ideas to improve upon the worst? Act
SEEK DIVERSIONS EXERCISE/ SPORTS HOBBIES ESCAPES/ MOVIES/ ENTERTAINMENT
CHALLENGE TWO The Uncontrollable SITAUTIONS And Worry
Acceptance can be an Action Action You have You have NO ControlCONTROL and your actions are Is and NO actions evident are evident The Key
SITUATIONS MAY INCLUDEADDICTIONSCHRONIC ILLNESSFINANCIAL ISSUESSPECIAL NEEDS CHILDREN
GENERAL ACTIONS YOU CAN SEEK KNOWLEDGE AND LEARNING SELF CARE BOUNDARIES SUPPORT SELF CARE STOP ENABLING STOP BEING A VICTUM
Acceptance is an action YOUR LIFE IS MADE UP OF:IMAGES + REALITIES You have choices:
IF YOUR IMAGE OF LIFE AND YOUR REALITY OF LIFE ARE NOT THE SAME!IMAGE+REALITY=YOU will be:
Change Your Reality! Image + Reality = HAPPY Find the NEW dog YOU REALLY WANT!
Change your image! (New) Image + Reality = HAPPY ACCEPT thedog you have!
IT’S YOUR LIFEACCEPTANCE IS A CHOICE
DO YOU HAVE ANY DOGS YOU DON’T WANT? OR DO YOU HAVE ANYIMAGES/REALTIES YOU NEED TO CHANGE?ACCEPTANCE IS A PROCESS!
Acceptance Is not complacency Related actions may be: Reduce “Enabling” Denial does not work
CHALLENGE THREEHOLDING ON
Holding On Can be a Problem!
HOLDING-ON BEHAVIORS•Negative•Stuck in the past•Fatigued•Full of Resentment•Sarcastic•Angry
Letting Go IS ASource of Power
OPTIONS Seek help Talk to a friend or spouse Talk to a clergy Seek counseling Get on line and look for support groups
“That is all I have to say about that.” Forrest Gump So where do we go from hear?
CHALLENGE FOUR CLEARPRIORTIES
What you focus on grows
SettingSetting Boundaries Boundaries “Good fences make good “Good Fences Make Good Neighbors” neighbors”
+ Sandwich Technique +
Elements of saying “No”Positive feeling messageNegative content messagePositive feeling message.
Positive Feeling Response: Thank you for asking. I can hear this is important to you!I appreciate you thinking of me.I can’t imagine the task that you have in front of you.
Negative Content I would be glad to help if …. I would be glad to take you to the mall when… If would be willing to help you if you will… I am not available but feel free to ask me next week.
Positive Feeling Conclusion: Thank you again for considering me. I appreciate your thinking of me.Feel free to call me next year. If you can give me a weeks notice
Refusal skills Focuson what you will do not on what they have to do. You are welcome to … but I am going to stay. Thankyou for offering but I am not hungry.
Spend time daily reflectingon the life you would like!
Grow yourself new each day. Discover your potentials
Rituals Daily activities thatrejuvenate and restore you physically, mentally and spiritually.
“Life is 10% what happens to me and 90% what I choose to do about it! All I can do is play on the one string I have and that is my attitude!”Charles Swindoll
Attitude is Positively impacted by Our beliefs Our choices The amount of power we give to someone or something else By getting out of ourselves
Create AnAttitude ofGratitude
Give BackGet out of yourself!
If you want to be enthusiastic,you have to act enthusiastic!
Quiet your often andFconsciously! re qu u r ie t lf en seyo u Q tl y Deep Breathing
HUMOR“Laughter is the best medicine”
Muscular Strength and Muscular EnduranceCardiovascular FlexibilityExercise SEEK TO KNOW YOURSELF PHYSICALLY
Eat to live…Eat consciously
Seek Healthy RelationshipsTake time to keep your relationships current. Leave no business unfinished
Pray and/or Reflection Taketime daily to be with yourself and to listen to the voice inside. Prayer and Meditation are avenues to finding peace and healing the soul
Be Expressive JOY IN THE CREATION YOURSELF IN AND LOOSE THE MOMENT JOY IN THE CREATION
If you always doWhat you always did,You will always feelWhat you alwaysfelt!
It’s your choiceEnjoy the Chocolate
“Life is like a box ofchocolates”
Dr. Jim ScottFor more information: Call 517-784-1332 Websitecontact: http://drjimscott.comOn line course: Managing Stress and Holistic Health HPF 283 Jackson Community College