“Sowhat if todaywere the last day ofthe rest of your life?”
Goals Thought   provoking Informative Practical Fun
Skill 1Find a quiet place in your mind.Now take deep slow belly breaths.
“It appears that the way people perceive the world is more important to happiness than   objective circumstances.”        ...
“To different minds, the same world is ahell, and a heaven.”                      Ralph Waldo Emerson
The Nun Study (Danner et al., 2001)   Only positive feelings predicted longevity    Age 85: 90% of most cheerful quartile...
Two Types of People in the World   The Fault Finder“The fault-finder will find faults even in paradise”                  ...
The positive elements of being a                   Merit Finder   Well-being (Thompson, 1985)   Health       Affleck et...
HappinessObstacles
“We see what we look for and we miss much ofwhat we are not looking for even though it isthere... Our experience of the wo...
“As a man thinkth so shall he            be!”      Cognitive distortions         By David Burns
The Ten Cognitive Distortions                   (David Burns)1.   All-or-nothing thinking   2.   Magnifying or minimizing ...
Skill 2   Identify ways in which you think that are    stress inducing or stress producing.   Identify one action you ca...
Actions:      Change the Way You think!Seek actions that promote positive attitudes.      Help others      Exercise     ...
Other Distortions   By our nature we focus on the unique for    self preservation. For survival we focus    on:        Da...
Media bias tends to:       Magnify rather than report all       Accentuates the negative       It tends to be detached...
We need to remember:Focus creates reality.Change your focus and you change your reality.
Actions:Change the focus of your attention.   to news, art and the media! Be more selective Look for good news Question...
Seek positive media and art
Seek Good News
HappinessThoughts
A Matter of Interpretation“Never let a good crisis go to waste.”                          Anne Harbison“Things don’t neces...
A Matter of Interpretation“A pessimist sees thedifficulty in everyopportunity;An optimist sees theopportunity in everydiff...
HOW MANY OF YOU    WORRY?
The Nature of Worry  Non productive                        Concern      thought Same                     ReoccurringConcer...
“If I always think,what I always thought,I will always feelwhat I always felt!”
Seek Action!Breaking the cycle of worry can be a conscious action or an unconscious           stroke of luck!Either way an...
Acceptance is an action   YOUR LIFE IS MADE UP OF:IMAGES         +         REALITIES  The Happiness Option
IF YOUR IMAGE OF LIFE AND REALITY    OF LIFE ARE NOT THE SAME!IMAGE + REALITY =             YOU will be:
Options:Make a change…You have choices:
You can change your image to      match your reality! New   Image + Reality = HAPPY ACCEPT thedog you have!
You can change your reality to     match your image!Image + New Reality =     HAPPYOption find the NEW DOG  YOU REALLY WANT!
Consequences Optimistic Hopeful Excitement
DO YOU HAVE ANY DOGS IN YOUR            LIFE       YOU DON’T WANT?
More Actions:           Research on Gratitude   Emmons and McCullough (2002)       Four groups: gratitude, hassles, supe...
Learning to be Grateful“You say grace before meals. All right. But I say gracebefore the concert and the opera, and grace ...
21 days or your money back                   Try It!   Be mindful – stop, reflect, meditate   Becoming a merit-finder  ...
Summary of Options Deep breathing Thought distortions Rituals Worry/Sleep Acceptance Gratitude 21 days or your mone...
Bibliography and Recommendations• Danner, D., Snowdon, D., and Friesen, W. (2001).Positive emotions in early life and long...
Understanding Purpose,  Time and Money
Understanding Purpose,  Time and Money
Understanding Purpose,  Time and Money
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  1. 1. “Sowhat if todaywere the last day ofthe rest of your life?”
  2. 2. Goals Thought provoking Informative Practical Fun
  3. 3. Skill 1Find a quiet place in your mind.Now take deep slow belly breaths.
  4. 4. “It appears that the way people perceive the world is more important to happiness than objective circumstances.” Ed Diener Great wealth is not having great possessions but few wants!
  5. 5. “To different minds, the same world is ahell, and a heaven.” Ralph Waldo Emerson
  6. 6. The Nun Study (Danner et al., 2001) Only positive feelings predicted longevity Age 85: 90% of most cheerful quartile alive; 34% of least cheerful quartile alive. Age 94: 54% of most cheerful quartile alive; 11% of least cheerful quartile alive
  7. 7. Two Types of People in the World The Fault Finder“The fault-finder will find faults even in paradise” Henry David Thoreau  Could lead to resignation The Merit-finder“The invariable mark of wisdom is to see the miraculousin the common.” Ralph Waldo Emerson  Could lead to detachment  The need to respect reality
  8. 8. The positive elements of being a Merit Finder Well-being (Thompson, 1985) Health  Affleck et al. (1987)  Bower (1988)  King & Miner (2000) Longevity
  9. 9. HappinessObstacles
  10. 10. “We see what we look for and we miss much ofwhat we are not looking for even though it isthere... Our experience of the world is heavilyinfluenced by where we place our attention.” Stavros and Torres
  11. 11. “As a man thinkth so shall he be!” Cognitive distortions By David Burns
  12. 12. The Ten Cognitive Distortions (David Burns)1. All-or-nothing thinking 2. Magnifying or minimizing 4. Emotional reasoning3. Over-generalization 6. ‘Should’ or ‘must’5. Mental filter statements4. Disqualifying the 8. Labeling positive 10. Personalization and blame5. Jumping to conclusions
  13. 13. Skill 2 Identify ways in which you think that are stress inducing or stress producing. Identify one action you can take to promote new thoughts.
  14. 14. Actions: Change the Way You think!Seek actions that promote positive attitudes.  Help others  Exercise  Be mindful  Value self  Become empowered - Reduce helplessness What actions can you take?
  15. 15. Other Distortions By our nature we focus on the unique for self preservation. For survival we focus on: Danger Change The media filters these realities to play on our inherent preferences for the unique.
  16. 16. Media bias tends to:  Magnify rather than report all  Accentuates the negative  It tends to be detached from the greater reality  Focuses on the negative 10%
  17. 17. We need to remember:Focus creates reality.Change your focus and you change your reality.
  18. 18. Actions:Change the focus of your attention. to news, art and the media! Be more selective Look for good news Question the bad news Bring balance to your use of the media.
  19. 19. Seek positive media and art
  20. 20. Seek Good News
  21. 21. HappinessThoughts
  22. 22. A Matter of Interpretation“Never let a good crisis go to waste.” Anne Harbison“Things don’t necessarily happen for thebest, but some people are able to make thebest of things that happen.”
  23. 23. A Matter of Interpretation“A pessimist sees thedifficulty in everyopportunity;An optimist sees theopportunity in everydifficulty.” Winston Churchill
  24. 24. HOW MANY OF YOU WORRY?
  25. 25. The Nature of Worry Non productive Concern thought Same ReoccurringConcern thoughts More thought
  26. 26. “If I always think,what I always thought,I will always feelwhat I always felt!”
  27. 27. Seek Action!Breaking the cycle of worry can be a conscious action or an unconscious stroke of luck!Either way an ACTION is required.
  28. 28. Acceptance is an action YOUR LIFE IS MADE UP OF:IMAGES + REALITIES The Happiness Option
  29. 29. IF YOUR IMAGE OF LIFE AND REALITY OF LIFE ARE NOT THE SAME!IMAGE + REALITY = YOU will be:
  30. 30. Options:Make a change…You have choices:
  31. 31. You can change your image to match your reality! New Image + Reality = HAPPY ACCEPT thedog you have!
  32. 32. You can change your reality to match your image!Image + New Reality = HAPPYOption find the NEW DOG YOU REALLY WANT!
  33. 33. Consequences Optimistic Hopeful Excitement
  34. 34. DO YOU HAVE ANY DOGS IN YOUR LIFE YOU DON’T WANT?
  35. 35. More Actions: Research on Gratitude Emmons and McCullough (2002)  Four groups: gratitude, hassles, superior, control  Psychological and health benefits Physiological benefits (McCraty & Childre 2004) Benefits of trait gratefulness Maintaining freshness through mindful focus
  36. 36. Learning to be Grateful“You say grace before meals. All right. But I say gracebefore the concert and the opera, and grace before theplay and pantomime, and grace before I open a book,and grace before sketching, painting, swimming,fencing, boxing, walking, playing, dancing, and gracebefore I dip the pen in the ink.”“Gratitude has produced the most purely joyful momentsthat have been known to man.” G. K. Chesterton
  37. 37. 21 days or your money back Try It! Be mindful – stop, reflect, meditate Becoming a merit-finder Visualize it, feel it Chipping away negativity Nurture Gratitude Make a bucket list “Life begins when you do!”
  38. 38. Summary of Options Deep breathing Thought distortions Rituals Worry/Sleep Acceptance Gratitude 21 days or your money back
  39. 39. Bibliography and Recommendations• Danner, D., Snowdon, D., and Friesen, W. (2001).Positive emotions in early life and longevity: Findingfrom the nun study. Journal of Personality and SocialPsychology, 80, 804-813.• Emmons R. A. & McCullough M. E. (2004). ThePsychology of Gratitude. Oxford University Press.• Seligman, M. (2002). Authentic Happiness. FreePress.• Brother David Steindl-Rast (1984). Gratefulness, theHeart of Prayer. Paulist Press.• Wiseman, R (2003). The Luck Factor. Miramax.• Wiseman’s website: http://www.luckfactor.co.uk/

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