Successful people think differently. They have the ability to bounce back, persevere, and make things happen even in the face of adversity. In this innovative learning laboratory, we’ll be exposed to the burgeoning research in Positive Psychology, the science of success and happiness. We will discover how we’re genetically predisposed to negativity, and how switching this habit of thinking to something more positive takes intention, attention and effort. Come learn some scientifically informed strategies for how to build psychosocial muscle and in turn, get SO’MO of what you want in life (at home, work, and every place in between).

1. How
To
Be
More
Resilient
+
Happier
(and
help
others
do
the
same)
Louis
J.
Alloro.,
M.Ed.,
MAPP

2. What
brings
me
here?

3. SOMO
Leadership
• What?
• Why?
• How?
• What
(next)?

4. What
brings
you
here?
Everything
has
a
tradeoff.
What
you
expect,
you
experience.

5. ©
2011
SOMO
Leadership
Labs
AKenLon
is
Limited

6. What
is
SOMO?
A
dynamic
&
socially
constructed
posi8ve,
place-­‐based
interven8on*
for
change-­‐agents**
who
share
proximity
(businesses,
schools,
community
groups,
SIGs).
*An
intervenLon
is
defined
as
any
measure
to
improve
health
and
well-­‐being,
which
have
been
shown
in
research
studies
to
predict
success.
**Leaders
who
have
influence.
A
SOCIAL
EXPERIMENT

7. What
is
posiLve
psychology?
1
=
strongly
disagree
2
=
disagree
3
=
slightly
disagree
4
=
neither
agree
or
disagree
5
=
slightly
agree
6
=
agree
7
=
strongly
agree
___
In
most
ways
my
life
is
close
to
my
ideal.
___
The
condiLons
of
my
life
are
excellent.
___
I
am
saLsfied
with
my
life.
___
I
have
goKen
the
important
things
I
want
in
life.
___
If
I
could
live
my
life
over,
I
would
change
almost
nothing.
The
Science
of
Well-­‐Being
Success
+
Happiness

8. What
is
posiLve
psychology?

10. ① Think
about
how
they
think.
② Ask
different
quesLons.
③ Influence
and
empower
others.
④ Build
psychological
muscle
themselves.
What
do
SOcial-­‐eMOLonal
leaders
do?

11. ①
Think
about
how
you
think.
• In
every
moment
of
every
day
.
.
.
• SO
in
this
MOment

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2011
SOMO
Leadership
Labs
Toward
Reward
Status
Certainty
Autonomy
Relatedness
Fairness
Away
Threat
Threat
OR
Opportunity
(David
Rock,
2009)

13. Did
you
know?
• Research
shows
we
are
condiLoned
to
spot
threats
over
opportuniLes,
• that
we
operate
with
many
negaLve
and
scarce
biases
in
our
thinking,
and
• that
more
people
today
are
anxious,
aKenLon-­‐deficited
and
depressed
than
ever
before
– Stress
is
the
number
1
predictor
of
depression

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15. ©
2011
SOMO
Leadership
Labs
Learn
your
ABCs!
objec4ve
The
Consequences
subjec4ve
Feelings
behaviors
Your
Beliefs
about
what
happened
?
Ac8va8ng
Event
(what
happened)

16. ©
2011
SOMO
Leadership
Labs
Cycle
o’
Pessimism
Colleague
Gus
not
saying
hello
You
think
.
.
.
You
feel
.
.
.
You
behave
.
.
.

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2011
SOMO
Leadership
Labs
OpLmisLc
Cycle
“I
wonder
what’s
up
with
Gus,
he
must
be
really
Lred
from
that
big
project
he’s
working
on”
Feel
concerned
Behave:
ask
Gus
if
he
needs
help
when
you
see
him
Colleague
Gus
not
saying
hello

18. #SOMO:
A
lens
you
choose
to
see
the
world

19. ② Ask
Different
QuesLons
“Human
systems
move
in
the
direc8on
of
the
ques8ons
they
ask.”
-­‐Dr.
David
Cooperrider,
founder
of
AppreciaLve
Inquiry

20. Prime
for
posiLvity
WHAT ARE YOUR 3 WINS?
THINK them. FEEL them.
SHARE them.
#SOMO

21. Broaden
+
Build
Theory
The
broaden-­‐and-­‐build
theory
of
posi8ve
emo8ons
suggests
that
posiLve
emoLons
broaden
one's
awareness
and
encourage
novel,
varied,
and
exploratory
thoughts
and
acLons.
Over
Lme,
this
broadened
behavioral
repertoire
builds
skills
and
resources.
(Fredrickson,
1998)

22. AcLve
ConstrucLve
Responding

23. “The
illiterate
of
the
21st
century
will
not
be
those
who
cannot
read
and
write,
but
those
who
cannot
learn,
unlearn,
and
relearn.”
Alvin
Tofler,
Future
Shock
• By
learning
to
think
differently,
we
can
intenLonally
shit
our
not-­‐
so-­‐helpful
tendencies
and
create
new
neural
connecLons
that
make
us
more
engaged
+
happier.
• It’s
like
going
to
gym
–
but
for
your
mind
.
.
.
and
mine.
③ Influence
+
empower
others

24. It’s
contagious

25. Taking
PosiLve
Psychology
Home:
social
experiment
in
SOMO
“Hey
guys,
we
can
do
beKer.”

26. Family
tree
of
strengths
“Our
families
are
our
greatest
learning
labs.”
Adele
DiMarco-­‐Kious,
MBA,
first
partner
in
&
co-­‐creator
of
SOMO
CLE

27. So,
what’s
the
ask?
Plug
into
#SOMO.

28. ④ Build
Psychological
muscle
yourself
• Join
or
form
a
SOMO
Pod

29.
What
are
SOMO
Learning
Labs?
Experien8al
places
for
SOcial-­‐
eMOLonal
leaders
to
build
psychological
muscle,
by
learning
language,
tools
&
strategies
from
the
science
of
success,
well-­‐being,
&
happiness
–
thereby
becoming
beKer
and
more
equipped
change-­‐agents
back
within
the
organizaLon/
networks,
adding
new
&
abundant
neural
connecLons
to
spearhead
innovaLon
–
gezng
us
SO’MO
of
what
we
want,
need,
and
value.
THE
MIND
GYM

30. SOMO
Macro
Lab
An
opportunity
for
key
influencers
to
build
their
individual
psychological
muscle.
6
2-­‐hour
sessions
over
2
months.
SOMO
1O1.
We
are
wired
for
posiLvity
but
condiLoned
for
negaLvity.
Introduce
opportunity
vs.
threat
construct
and
provide
an
evoluLonary
and
neurobiological
understanding
of
why
it’s
important
to
learn
how
to
think
differently.
ParLcipants
will
challenge
beliefs
on
change
and
engage
in
scienLfic
research
on
flourishing
and
success
and
well-­‐being,
which
includes
happiness,
meaning/purpose,
healthy
social
relaLonships,
etc.
THE
RESILIENCE
FACTOR.
A
major
component
to
resilience
is
learned
opLmism.
Incorporate
evidenced-­‐based
flexible
and
accurate
thinking
strategies
that
help
parLcipants
detect
thinking
traps
and
reframe
mindset
from
threat
to
opportunity.
We’ll
measure
explanatory
style.
SOMO
KNO
YO.
Knowing
your
strengths
–
and
using
them
–
makes
us
at
our
best.
Ater
measuring
our
character
strengths,
parLcipants
will
learn
to
idenLfy
and
spot
strengths
(in
themselves
and
others)
and
use
them
to
be
more
successful
in
overcoming
challenges
and
achieving
personal
and
professional
goals.
BEING
PULLED
BY
THE
FUTURE.
Everyone
deserves
to
live
their
calling.
We’ll
differenLate
between
intrinsic
and
extrinsic
moLvaLon
and
provide
a
formula
for
stepping
into
the
best
possible
future
with
grounded
hope
and
self-­‐
determinaLon.
ParLcipants
will
idenLfy
values.
POWER
OF
FULL
ENGAGEMENT.
Lab
will
include
evidenced-­‐based
self-­‐care
and
mindfulness
strategies,
which
will
help
parLcipants
learn
to
beKer
manage
energy
and
achieve
flow,
the
state
of
opLmal
experience.
We’ll
measure
grit,
the
passion
and
perseverance
towards
long-­‐term
goals
and
learn
a
fool-­‐proof
goal-­‐sezng
technique
that
all
top-­‐performers
need
to
know.
CALL
TO
ACTION.
ParLcipants
will
learn
about
how
to
build
high
quality
and
healthy
relaLonships
by
building
capacity
to
connect,
aKune,
innovate,
and
collaborate.
We’ll
end
with
visioning
and
acLon
planning
for
applying
SOMO
into
networks
around
the
region
moving
forward.

31. ©
2011
SOMO
Leadership
Labs
Be
a
Part
of
the
Change
“It’s
not
the
strongest
of
the
species
that
survives,
but
the
one
most
responsive
to
change.”
Charles
Darwin

32. Pulling
it
all
together
“SOMO
is
the
best
emoLonal
sLmulus
package
ever.”
LENA
BOSWELL,
SOMO
CLE
SOMO
SOcial-­‐
eMO8onal
LEADERSHIP
SOMO
LEADERSHIP
LABS
#SOMO

33. What
are
you
leaving
with?

34. We
need
you!
Louis@LouisAlloro.com
www.louisalloro.com
www.somoleadershiplabs.com