4. Exploring Self Esteem
Why is self esteem important?
How can having self esteem help you in your family,
school, work, and hobbies.
How do you gain self esteem?
5. What is Self Esteem
The way you feel about, value,
or accept yourself.
Overall I feel ___________about
What is Self concept
myself. see yourself. I am
How you
________________.
What is Self confidence
The way you feel in certain
situations.
6. Bill says, “I am tall and shy, I feel
like I am a really good volleyball
player, and I when I’m out on the
court I want to spike the ball!
Terry says, “I am tall but
outgoing, I feel like I am not a
very good volleyball player, and
when I’m out on the court I’m
afraid to make a mistake!
Identify Bill and Terry’s Self Esteem, Self Concept and Self Confidence
8. Identify Esteem, Concept, and Confidence.
When I am singing on stage I view myself as a great singer and I
feel like nothing can bring me down.
I am a good singer but when I am singing on stage I’m afraid to
hit a wrong note and I feel embarrassed when I do.
I only sing when I’m alone. My Mom hears me and tells me I should
try out for American Idol, but I know I am not good enough.
9. Elements of Self Esteem
a. Recognize and accept one's strengths
b. Achieve a sense of belonging
c. Develop a sense of power
d. Have and imitate positive role models
10. How can self esteem help or hurt you and your
overall health?
Help?
Hurt?
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11. Comparing Low and High Self-Esteem
Compare the actions, behaviors, words, beliefs, and attitude of
someone with good self esteem versus someone with lower self
esteem?
Low Self- Category High Self-
Esteem Esteem
Actions/Body
Language
Behavior
Words
Belief
Attitude
12. How do you develop your self-esteem?
Reassurance from others
Praise from others
Your belief about your abilities or inabilities
Criticism/lack of support
Your personal self talk VERY IMPORTANT
Personal Experiences
13. Why is having positive self-esteem important?
What are benefits?
Confidence to try new things
Confidence to meet new people
Confidence to love yourself when others don’t seem to
Confidence in your abilities to help others and yourself
Belief that you matter
Care about your future
14. What kind of things can hurt your self esteem?
Problem Solution
Bullying
Words of others
Failure
Depression
Not accepting differences
15. Something to think about…
Is my self esteem good or could it use improvement?
16. Yes! (2) Sometimes(1) No(0)
I am happy and enjoy my life.
I have confidence to try new things and believe that setbacks are
temporary.
I choose friends who value and respect me.
I learn from my mistakes
I am trustworthy and honest
17. Yes! (2) Sometimes(1) No(0)
I recognize my strengths and weaknesses.
I volunteer in my community to help improve the quality of other’s lives.
I understand that loving someone means supporting that person’s personal
needs.
I express my emotions in positive ways.
When dealing with feelings of guilt or anger I talk to someone
18. 0-5 Brainstorm ways to improve your self esteem. Find supportive help.
6-12 Identify and improve the areas that bring your self esteem down.
12-16 Your self esteem is pretty good keep trying to improve some areas.
17+ Keep that positive attitude even during hard times.
19. Assignment:
In your notes write at least 4 of the following suggestions down and write a
specific example of how you can do what is suggested to improve your
self-esteem.
Pick the 4 that are best suited to you.
3 Slides
20. How to Improve your Self-Esteem
-Don’t criticize yourself or others
-Don’t spend time with people who criticize you.
-Set realistic expectations not perfection
-Choose friends who value and respect you
-Focus on the positive aspects of yourself.
-Do things you enjoy
-Don’t let others control how you feel about yourself
21. Cont’d
-Replace negative self-talk with positive self-talk at ALL TIMES
-Work toward accomplishments rather than perfection
-Consider your mistakes as learning opportunities
-Try new activities discover your talents
-Surround yourself with positive people
-Don’t listen to others who may tease you, tell an adult.
22. Cont’d
-Write down your goals so you can achieve them
-Exercise regularly for more energy and a better feeling
-Volunteer time to help others or look for ways to help others daily
-Accept the things you can’t change and focus your energy on changing the things
you can.
-Find a role model
23. Cont’d
-Look your best, care about how you present yourself
-Improve your personal living space, clean, organized, YOU
-Act as if you are who you want to be. Key to Success
-Post “self improvement reminders” in a visible place.
-List your strengths or accomplishments when feeling low
-Realize the big picture or that life will go on to something better
LOVE AND FORGIVE YOURSELF
25. Something to remember
Remember that self esteem can change over time you have the power to
change your self esteem. If you have poor self esteem take the steps to
empower yourself and learn to accept and love yourself . If you have good
self esteem remember not to let yourself get into bad habits little by
little. Recognize that situation early and change it :)
26. 10 points Extra Credit
Go to www.discoveryhealth.queendom.com
Click on self esteem test
Take the test and read the summary afterward.
Write a half a page about…
a. Why you think your self esteem was at that
level.
b. What you can do to improve it if it was low
and how you could benefit from raising it…or talk
about how having high self esteem has helped you
in life.
27. Self Esteem Collage
1. List 10 or more of your strengths and or skills.
2. Make a list of 3 positive supportive people.
3. List 2 things you love to do.
4. List 2 things that make you unique
5. List 3 things you have accomplished in life.
6. Write a paragraph beginning with the sentence…
“I am important because”
On the other side make a collage of pictures that represent
Your strengths, skills, hobbies, accomplishments, goals,
Hopes, likes, and People you look up to in life.
28. Ms. Ngawaka’s Collage
1. 10 Traits: Hard working, sports, nice, creative, violin, piano, volleyball, high
jumping, drawing, competitive,
2. Support Team: My Mom, Holly, Michele, Tennile
3. Enjoy: Play Volleyball, Spend time outside
4. Iunique: am a twin, I love horses
5. Accomplishments: Graduated from Weber State, Broke a Horse, Graduated with
no debt. School records
29. Love!
Hard Work
Freedom!
Freedom!
Volleyball!
Volleyball!
Ngawaka
Never Quit
Editor's Notes
The way you feel about yourself. The confidence you have in yourself. Accepting your faults and recognizing your strengths. Believing in yourself. Wanting the best for yourself. Your personal thoughts about you are more important than others thoughts about you. You know and accept yourself despite what others may think. You can accept and change when you know you are wrong.
EXAMPLE ONE has high esteem and the concept that she is a great singer and high confidence EXAMPLE TWO has high self esteem and a concept but when on stage she has low confidence. EXAMPLE THREE has low self esteem a poor self concept and low confidence.
Help- You accept yourself, you can accept others, forgive others, get through hard times more easily, believe in yourself, accept challenges and be prepared to face them. Hurt- give up on challenges, won’t believe you can do it, won’t accept yourself, see the bad in others, express your sad emotions in negative ways, may give in to peer pressure and feel bad about yourself later, or do things you know you shouldn’t.
The purpose of this is to start representing yourself as though you have high self esteem and your self esteem will improve