The way you feel about yourself. The confidence you have in yourself. Accepting your faults and recognizing your strengths. Believing in yourself. Wanting the best for yourself. Your personal thoughts about you are more important than others thoughts about you. You know and accept yourself despite what others may think. You can accept and change when you know you are wrong.
EXAMPLE ONE has high esteem and the concept that she is a great singer and high confidence EXAMPLE TWO has high self esteem and a concept but when on stage she has low confidence. EXAMPLE THREE has low self esteem a poor self concept and low confidence.
Help- You accept yourself, you can accept others, forgive others, get through hard times more easily, believe in yourself, accept challenges and be prepared to face them. Hurt- give up on challenges, won’t believe you can do it, won’t accept yourself, see the bad in others, express your sad emotions in negative ways, may give in to peer pressure and feel bad about yourself later, or do things you know you shouldn’t.
The purpose of this is to start representing yourself as though you have high self esteem and your self esteem will improve
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Mental Health The ability to accept yourself and others, expressand manage emotions and deal with the demands of Life.
Mental Health TopicsSelf EsteemEmotionsStressGriefDisordersPersonality
Self Esteem“To wish you were someone else is to waste the person that you are.”
Exploring Self EsteemWhy is self esteem important?How can having self esteem help you in your family, school, work, and hobbies.How do you gain self esteem?
What is Self Esteem The way you feel about, value, or accept yourself. Overall I feel ___________aboutWhat is Self concept myself. see yourself. I am How you ________________.What is Self confidence The way you feel in certain situations.
Bill says, “I am tall and shy, I feellike I am a really good volleyballplayer, and I when I’m out on the court I want to spike the ball! Terry says, “I am tall but outgoing, I feel like I am not a very good volleyball player, and when I’m out on the court I’m afraid to make a mistake!Identify Bill and Terry’s Self Esteem, Self Concept and Self Confidence
Identify Esteem, Concept, and Confidence. When I am singing on stage I view myself as a great singer and I feel like nothing can bring me down. I am a good singer but when I am singing on stage I’m afraid to hit a wrong note and I feel embarrassed when I do. I only sing when I’m alone. My Mom hears me and tells me I should try out for American Idol, but I know I am not good enough.
Elements of Self Esteema. Recognize and accept ones strengthsb. Achieve a sense of belongingc. Develop a sense of powerd. Have and imitate positive role models
How can self esteem help or hurt you and your overall health?Help? Hurt? QuickTime™ and a decompressorare needed to see this picture.
Comparing Low and High Self-Esteem Compare the actions, behaviors, words, beliefs, and attitude of someone with good self esteem versus someone with lower self esteem? Low Self- Category High Self- Esteem Esteem Actions/Body Language Behavior Words Belief Attitude
How do you develop your self-esteem? Reassurance from others Praise from others Your belief about your abilities or inabilities Criticism/lack of support Your personal self talk VERY IMPORTANT Personal Experiences
Why is having positive self-esteem important? What are benefits?Confidence to try new thingsConfidence to meet new peopleConfidence to love yourself when others don’t seem toConfidence in your abilities to help others and yourselfBelief that you matterCare about your future
What kind of things can hurt your self esteem? Problem SolutionBullyingWords of othersFailureDepressionNot accepting differences
Something to think about…Is my self esteem good or could it use improvement?
Yes! (2) Sometimes(1) No(0)I am happy and enjoy my life.I have confidence to try new things and believe that setbacks are temporary.I choose friends who value and respect me.I learn from my mistakesI am trustworthy and honest
Yes! (2) Sometimes(1) No(0)I recognize my strengths and weaknesses.I volunteer in my community to help improve the quality of other’s lives.I understand that loving someone means supporting that person’s personal needs.I express my emotions in positive ways.When dealing with feelings of guilt or anger I talk to someone
0-5 Brainstorm ways to improve your self esteem. Find supportive help.6-12 Identify and improve the areas that bring your self esteem down.12-16 Your self esteem is pretty good keep trying to improve some areas.17+ Keep that positive attitude even during hard times.
Assignment: In your notes write at least 4 of the following suggestions down and write a specific example of how you can do what is suggested to improve your self-esteem. Pick the 4 that are best suited to you. 3 Slides
How to Improve your Self-Esteem-Don’t criticize yourself or others-Don’t spend time with people who criticize you.-Set realistic expectations not perfection-Choose friends who value and respect you-Focus on the positive aspects of yourself.-Do things you enjoy-Don’t let others control how you feel about yourself
Cont’d-Replace negative self-talk with positive self-talk at ALL TIMES-Work toward accomplishments rather than perfection-Consider your mistakes as learning opportunities-Try new activities discover your talents-Surround yourself with positive people-Don’t listen to others who may tease you, tell an adult.
Cont’d-Write down your goals so you can achieve them-Exercise regularly for more energy and a better feeling-Volunteer time to help others or look for ways to help others daily-Accept the things you can’t change and focus your energy on changing the things you can.-Find a role model
Cont’d-Look your best, care about how you present yourself-Improve your personal living space, clean, organized, YOU-Act as if you are who you want to be. Key to Success-Post “self improvement reminders” in a visible place.-List your strengths or accomplishments when feeling low-Realize the big picture or that life will go on to something betterLOVE AND FORGIVE YOURSELF
Something to remember Remember that self esteem can change over time you have the power to change your self esteem. If you have poor self esteem take the steps to empower yourself and learn to accept and love yourself . If you have good self esteem remember not to let yourself get into bad habits little by little. Recognize that situation early and change it :)
10 points Extra CreditGo to www.discoveryhealth.queendom.comClick on self esteem testTake the test and read the summary afterward.Write a half a page about… a. Why you think your self esteem was at thatlevel. b. What you can do to improve it if it was lowand how you could benefit from raising it…or talkabout how having high self esteem has helped youin life.
Self Esteem Collage1. List 10 or more of your strengths and or skills.2. Make a list of 3 positive supportive people.3. List 2 things you love to do.4. List 2 things that make you unique5. List 3 things you have accomplished in life.6. Write a paragraph beginning with the sentence… “I am important because”On the other side make a collage of pictures that representYour strengths, skills, hobbies, accomplishments, goals,Hopes, likes, and People you look up to in life.
Ms. Ngawaka’s Collage1. 10 Traits: Hard working, sports, nice, creative, violin, piano, volleyball, high jumping, drawing, competitive,2. Support Team: My Mom, Holly, Michele, Tennile3. Enjoy: Play Volleyball, Spend time outside4. Iunique: am a twin, I love horses5. Accomplishments: Graduated from Weber State, Broke a Horse, Graduated with no debt. School records
Love! Hard Work Freedom! Freedom!Volleyball!Volleyball! Ngawaka Never Quit