7. More About Interests vs. Positions Feelings, emotions: hurt, anger, sadness; Needs: respect, consideration (NVC bridge) Things you say you will/ will not do: I won’t call you until you call me to apologize Aspirations, future hopes, standards: professional quality, aesthetics, meaningful contribution Terms & Conditions I will not submit this report until I think it is ready Needs, values, concerns: health, safety, on time to school, responsibility Demands: Clean up your room right now! Underlying motivations: organic, locally grown, good wine, open late, ambiance Things you say you want: I want to go to Avanti for dinner tonight! Interests (why) Positions (what)
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9. Interactive Exercise: Guess the Interests! Palestine: viable political state Israel: land & water No more settlements in the West Bank! International Mom/Dad: health Kids: fun! I want krispy kremes for dinner Family Buyer: Financial well being Seller: Financial well being I refuse to pay > 10 % commission Business Water District: water supply Fish advocates: sustainable fishery Put more water in this stream! Environment Employees: incentives Management: $ certainty We want bonuses of $1K each quarter Labor Interests Position Context