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  1. 1. Practice of CompassionFor your meaningful, healthy & happy life Hitoshi Tsuchiyama Action Speech Karma Body Thought (Motivation) Instinct & Emotion [Transformed] Reason (Compassion) Mind Emotion Instinct Spirit Smile Controller
  2. 2. FOREWORD We, human beings, can’t be happy only by ‘money’and ‘intelligence’. Because money and intelligencealone brings anxiety, fear, distrust, frustration andanger. It means that the present education of scienceand technology at schools is not enough to makepeople happy. If you really want to be happy, youneed ‘compassion’ also in addition to intelligence andmoney. Because intelligence and money brings usmaterial comforts and compassion brings us mentalcomforts. And we need both of them to be happy. Ifwe practice compassion, we get calm mind, normalfunction of intelligence and good health. But if wemake bad use of intelligence in anger or with hatred,tragedies such as war and violence occur. We can learn intelligence through classes at school,however we can not learn compassion at school. Ofcourse, we may learn compassion spontaneously bydeveloping human relations’ skill through hometraining or extracurricular activities at school. 1
  3. 3. However, if we are not lucky enough to have such awonderful experience, it is very difficult to be wellaware of the importance of compassion becausetoday is the times when material value or economicvalue (money) is likely to be given top priority. So,many people including adults have not learnedcompassion yet even though spiritual value or innervalue should be given the highest priority in our life. Even if we study hard to have excellent academicbackground and get snobbish jobs such as elitebureaucrat or employee, politician and entrepreneur,it is impossible to make a true success withoutcompassion. Those who are intelligent but have notlearned compassion may succeed at the start butdefinitely make a serious mistake sometime in thefuture. Because from the other point of view, the lackof compassion means the lack of self-confidence andinner strength which is supposed to reduceself-centered mind and destructive emotions. Howcan such a person make success wherever andwhatever one does? How wasteful it is! So, it is very2
  4. 4. important for us to master compassion as early aspossible to avoid meaningless efforts in our life. Even nowadays many tragedies are occurring allover the world due to the lack of compassion.Never-ending terrorism, global financial crisis andeconomic depression caused by American sub-primeloan problems, expanding gap of rich and poor, morethan 30,000 suicides for 13 consecutive years andserious problems of bullying at school and powerharassment at work in Japan are concrete examples.These are just the tip of the iceberg and there mustbe uncountable tragedies beneath the water. Wemust prevent all these man-made tragedies fromoccurring by all means for our meaningful, healthyand happy life. From this point of view, I hope thisbook will be useful to decrease tragedies andincrease happiness.October, 2010 Hitoshi Tsuchiyama 3
  5. 5. CONTENTSFOREWORD 1Chapter 1 Purpose of life and how to achieve it 7 (1)What is the purpose of life? 7 (2)What is happiness? 7 (3)How to have calm mind 8Chapter 2 Structure of our mind 10 (1)Break-even point of Mind flow 10 (2)Reason (Altruism) or Self-centered mind 11 (3)Calm mind or Destructive emotion 12 (4)Positive motivation or Negative motivation 13 (5)Positive karma or Negative karma 14 (6)Benefit or Negative consequence 14 (7)Happiness or Suffering 15Chapter 3 Human framework 16 (1)A chain of human inner and outer world 16 (2)Instinct 17 (3)Emotion 17 (4)Reason (Compassion) 184
  6. 6. (5)Thought (Motivation) 21 (6)Speech 23 (7)Action 23Chapter 4 Control of destructive emotion 25 (1)Anger and hatred 25 (2)Other destructive emotion 32 (3)How to control destructive emotion 33Chapter 5 Calm mind 35 (1)Need for compassion 35 (2)Definition of compassion 36 (3)Practice of compassion 38 (4)Effects of compassion 38 (5)Varieties of compassion 41APPENDICES (1)Mind Flow 43 (2)Effect of Compassion 44 (3)The Ultimate Reality of Interdependence 46AFTERWORD 48 5
  7. 7. Practice of Compassion For your meaningful, healthy & happy life6
  8. 8. Chapter 1 Purpose of life and how to achieve it(1)What is the purpose of life? It may be a difficult question but let’s think aboutthe purpose of life. The answer must be different byeach person but I am sure that everybody wants tobe happy and nobody wants to suffer. Life is not easybut all human beings are living for the same purposewhich is to be happy even though living fields aredifferent.(2)What is happiness? What do you need to feel happy? You must haveperfect harmony of material comforts and mentalcomforts to feel happy. Material comforts mean thatyou have enough material value or economic valuesuch as money and goods for living. Mental comfortsmean that you have calm mind through full ofspiritual value or inner value such as compassion. Ifone of them is lacking, you can not feel happy.However in fact, we see many people working hard 7
  9. 9. to make money but seldom see people making effortto have calm mind. So, many people aren’t aware ofthe reality that one can’t feel happy without calmmind and with full of anxiety, fear and distrust eventhough one’s dream to be a billionaire has come true.(3)How to have calm mind If you have full of destructive emotions such asanger, hatred, jealousy, fear and sorrow, you must beirritated and it’s impossible to have calm mind.Furthermore, if you link these destructive emotionsdirectly to your thought and speak or act based onyour destructive thought (motivation), violence ortragedy will occur and your destructive emotionswill be amplified. You will have serious damagesboth mentally and physically and people around youwill be also disturbed if this vicious circle continuesfor a long time. How can we control these destructiveemotions? This is the first theme. What should we doto have calm mind? This is the second theme. Inshort, the purpose of the first theme is to search forthe method to overcome sufferings, which means the8
  10. 10. improvement from minus situation to zero. And thepurpose of the second theme is to search for themethod to be happy, which means the improvementfrom zero to plus situation. Because our mind isinvisible, it is much harder to be understood thanmaterial value. So, we can not take countermeasuresto deal with our mind unless we understand thestructure of the human inner world. That is why weneed to understand the structure of our mind andthe human framework in detail. 9
  11. 11. Chapter 2 Structure of our Mind(1) Break-even point of Mind flow (Fork of happiness or suffering) Let’s study the mind flow first. We can see thereare two main streams in the mind flow by observingthe back cover of this book. One main stream is ‘thestream to happiness’ on the right and the other mainstream is ‘the stream to suffering’ on the left. And itdepends on whether the person understands theultimate reality of ‘Interdependence’ or not to choosewhich way to go. ‘Interdependence’ means that“Everything on the earth exists by depending onothers” or “There is no independent existence”. Inother words, everything is interconnected orinterrelated, so things are relative. Furthermore,human beings can’t live alone. Let’s think about ourliving essentials such as foods, clothes and housingfor example. Nobody on the earth is self-sufficient inproducing foods, clothes and houses from rawmaterials to the final products. So, our survival10
  12. 12. entirely depends on the other people and things.Therefore it is impossible for us to survive withoutrelations with the other people. Our way of thinkingwill be very different whether we understand thisultimate reality or not.(2) Reason (Altruism) or Self-centered mind The attitude will be totally opposite whether aperson understands the ultimate reality of‘Interdependency’ or not. Those who understand theultimate reality respect other people and materialsand try to cooperate with others based on mutualtrust. That’s why they can automatically takealtruistic attitudes to others. They always try totreat others based on reason or altruism such ascompassion, warm-heart, gentleness and kindness. To the contrary, those who can’t understand theultimate reality have an illusion that they cansurvive alone and don’t appreciate other people whoreally support their survival. Therefore their mindor heart becomes so selfish that they care for theirhappiness only and don’t care for others’ happiness. 11
  13. 13. So, they take actions based on their self-centeredmind such as attachment, arrogance and greed.(3) Calm mind or Destructive emotion Mental state will be totally opposite whether ourmind is full of reason or full of selfishness. Thosewho always care for the happiness of others withwarm-heart and think based on reason with full ofgentleness can enjoy calm mind or peace of mind.Moreover, the practice of compassion enables us tobe self-confident and to establish mutual trust withothers, so we gain friendship and cooperation whichbrings us inner strength. To the contrary, those who have self-centered mindsuch as attachment, arrogance and greed suffer fromtheir destructive emotions. These people are notsatisfied unless everything goes just as they wantedand always keep destructive emotions such assuspicion, distrust, fear, loneliness, insecurity andanger even though these emotions destroy theircalm mind and harm other people at the same time.Destructive emotions do you no good and much harm.12
  14. 14. Furthermore, we will have ill will to others and loseour self-confidence due to the hypocrisy if we takeself-centered attitudes.(4)Positive motivation or Negative motivation Motivation is created based on our mental state oremotions. So, it depends on whether we have ‘Calmmind’ or ‘Destructive emotion’ to create positivemotivation or negative motivation. A motivationcreated by our calm mind is always a positivemotivation. It is natural that we create a positivemotivation because the source of our calm mind isour sense of care for others’ happiness, warm-heart,gentleness and kindness. To the contrary, a motivation created by ourdestructive emotions is always a destructive ornegative motivation. It is also natural that we createa negative motivation because the source of ourdestructive emotions is our self-centered selfishnesswhich means that we care for our happiness onlyand don’t care for others’ happiness. 13
  15. 15. (5) Positive karma or Negative karma Karma means action and there are verbal actionand physical action. It depends on whether we havea ‘Positive motivation’ or a ‘Negative motivation’ tocarry out a positive karma or a negative karma. Ifour action is based on our positive motivation, itautomatically becomes a positive karma. And if ouraction is based on our negative motivation, itautomatically becomes a negative karma.(6) Benefit or Negative consequence There is a proverb that says “A good cause brings agood effect and a bad cause brings a bad effect”. Itexactly depends on whether our action is positive ornegative to receive a benefit or negative consequence.It’s easy to understand that we receive a benefit ifwe take a positive action and we get negativeconsequences if we take a negative action. Anyway,the effects return to us right after the cause and inthe long run.14
  16. 16. (7) Happiness or Suffering It exactly depends on whether we get positiveeffects or negative effects to have happiness orsuffering in the end. It is very simple that we feelhappy if we receive benefit and we suffer if we getnegative consequences. In this way, there are two main streams in themind flow. One main stream is ‘the stream tohappiness’ and the other main stream is ‘the streamto suffering’. Which main stream do you want tochoose? 15
  17. 17. Chapter 3 Human framework(1) A chain of human inner and outer world Let’s study the human framework for the nextstep. If you look at the front cover of this book, it willbe easier to understand the human frameworkthrough visualizing the invisible inner world and thevisible outer world as a pile of mind and karma.First of all, ‘Instinct’ and ‘Emotion’ occursspontaneously and then we make ‘Reason’ occurconsciously. When our instinct or emotion is negative,we control it by reason to transform it to be positiveand link to ‘Thought’ which turns out to be amotivation. If our reason is too weak to control ournegative instinct or emotion, our negative instinct oremotion is automatically linked to our thought,which is dangerous and risky. Then our thoughtbecomes a motivation and gets out from the innerworld as a ‘Speech’ or an ‘Action’ to the outer worldso that other people may hear and see. And finallythose mind and karma, after being imprinted in our16
  18. 18. brain, returns to our origin which is called ‘Spirit’ or‘Soul’. This chain is being found scientifically that itis controlled through neurons ordered by our brainbut it is not completely found yet.(2)Instinct Basic human instinct is ‘Sleep desire’, ‘Appetite’and ‘Sexual desire’. As our instinct spontaneouslyoccurs, we can’t prevent it from occurring consciously.However we need to control it consciously by reasononce it occurs, because it may cause a crime if wefollow our instinct by self-centered attitude. Even ifour instinct is satisfied temporally, our satisfactiondoes not last for a long time and disappears shortly.But if we succeed in controlling our instinct byreason, we can keep our calm mental state for a longtime.(3)Emotion Emotion also spontaneously occurs and is dividedinto positive emotion and destructive emotion.Positive emotion is emotion such as ‘Liveliness’, 17
  19. 19. ‘Enthusiasm’, ‘Spiritedness’ and ‘Eagerness’. Anddestructive emotion is emotion such as ‘Anger’,‘Hatred’, ‘Jealousy’, ‘Fear’ and ‘Sorrow’. Emotioninfluences our thought, and thought creates ourmotivation and influences our speech and action, sobasically it is necessary for us to reduce or eliminateour destructive emotion by reason as soon aspossible before it links to our thought. Thisdestructive emotion is our real enemy because itcreates destructive motivations and brings usviolence and tragedy if we think, speak and actbased on our destructive emotion. However thereseems to be an exception that anger is effective toprotect oneself from dangerous situation.(4)Reason (Compassion) Reason means Compassion which cares for others’happiness and we make it occur consciously. Thereare many varieties of reason such as ‘Compassion’,‘Warm-heart’, ‘Gentleness’, ‘Kindness’, ‘Sincerity’,‘‘Self-confidence’, ‘Trust’, ‘Respect’, ‘Honesty’,‘Patience’, ‘Tolerance’, ‘Forgiveness’, ‘Appreciation’,18
  20. 20. ‘Non-violence’ (No harm to others). Reason plays animportant role in controlling negative instinct,emotion and mind to keep good judgment ability. Forexample, reason enables us to prevent destructiveemotion and negative mind from occurring as muchas possible and to transform them to positiveemotion and mind as soon as possible even if theyoccur. In case our reason has not been developed tomature level due to lack of wisdom, there is a riskthat our inner space for reason is dominated byself-centered mind such as ‘Attachment’, ‘Arrogance’and ‘Greed’. Especially attachment has a warmaffection to the holder and looks respectful, so it’snot easy for us to dump strong attachment. Howeverit ultimately becomes source of anger only by a tinymatter and has strong influence. Attachment andanger seems to cover our ignorance but we mustn’tbe deceived. In fact, ignorance causes our mentalconfusion due to lack of insight to see the reality. Ifwe have anger or attachment, we can’t see thereality by our mental projection and our approach 19
  21. 21. becomes unrealistic. The right way to transform ourignorance to wisdom is mastering the ultimatereality of ‘Interdependence’ which means thateverything is interdependent and our futuredepends on others. Then we should eliminate ourunrealistic view and get holistic view to see thereality. In short, every human being can’t survivealone, so we need the other’s help. That’s why wehave to cooperate with one another. It is very easyfor us to understand that everything on the earth isinterdependent because nobody is self-sufficient inproducing living essentials such as foods, clothesand housing from raw materials. This means thathuman beings can’t survive unless we live inharmony. This wisdom is the basis of developingreason to care for others and of controlling ourself-centered mind. Because our self-centered mind as well as ourdestructive emotion influences our thought and ourthought creates motivations and our motivationinfluences our speech and action, it causes tragedy.That is why we need to hurry up to transform our20
  22. 22. ignorance which is the source of our self-centeredmind to wisdom and to develop reason throughpractice of ‘Compassion’. When we learn andaccustom wisdom and compassion, our self-centeredmind disappears. If strong attachment appearsbefore accustoming wisdom and reason, we need toconsider demerits and undesirable characters of theattached object. And if arrogance or pride appears,we need to reflect our weak points and call for ourconscience to bring modesty. If we can’t control greed,we need to recognize that material or economic valueis limited. For example, why do we have to makesuch a lot of money as we can’t spend while we arealive? If we think this way, we can control ourself-centered mind before accustoming wisdom andreason to some extent. I think ‘Mind’ or ’Heart’ means aggregation ofinstinct, emotion and reason.(5)Thought (Motivation) We also make our thought occur consciously andour thought has close relation to instinct, emotion 21
  23. 23. and reason. There are two patterns of linkage.Direct link of instinct or emotion to thought is oneand indirect link of instinct or emotion to thoughtafter being controlled by reason is the other. Theformer is a case which is not necessary to becontrolled by reason as instinct or emotion ispositive, or it is dangerous as reason is not developedwell by wisdom. Because our positive thought ormotivation appears from our positive emotion andour destructive thought or motivation appears fromour destructive emotion. The latter is a safe casebecause reason is well developed and is performingthe controlling function, so all destructive instinct oremotions are transformed to be positive ones beforelinking to our thought. Then our thought will be apositive motivation to bring positive speech or action.Once our speech or action appears from the innerworld to the outer world, other people perceive it bytheir ears or eyes. Our speech or action alwaysappears from our motivation, so it is recommendableto ask yourself if your motivation is positive. If yourmotivation is negative, you mustn’t speak or act.22
  24. 24. (6)Speech Speech is an expression of our thought bylanguage based on our motivation and is not alwaysequal to our motivation. We sometimes speakhonestly but sometimes indirectly and exactly theopposite in extreme cases. In any case, we shouldn’taccept other’s speech without analyzing. We shouldmake sure of other’s motivation or intention if it ispositive (goodwill) or negative (ill will).(7)Action Action is an expression of our thought by actionbased on our motivation and is not always equal toour motivation like speech. We sometimes acthonestly but sometimes differently and exactly theopposite in extreme cases. That is why we have to becareful to judge actions also. But action is mucheasier to analyze than speech because it finallyappears as concrete visible behaviors which showthe actor’s real motivation or intension. We caneasily guess if actor’s motivation or intention is 23
  25. 25. positive or negative by observing actions. But if theperson speaks beautiful things and behaves exactlythe opposite to speech (in case of inconsistency ofspeech and action), we have to be very careful tosuch a hypocrite because the motivation or intentionis definitely negative (ill will). I think ‘Karma’ means aggregation of thought,speech and action. And I believe that our growth ashuman beings is evolution and elevation of thewhole personality, which means lowering impurityand raising purity of our spirit or soul which is theaccumulation of our mind and karma.24
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  27. 27. Compassion Practice of Compassion For your meaningful, healthy & happy life --------------------------------------------------------------------- Published on December 21, 2010 Author Hitoshi Tsuchiyama Publisher Hitoshi Tsuchiyama© Copyright 2010, Hitoshi Tsuchiyama. All rights reserved. 26
  28. 28. flow Mind flow Reality : Interdependence Ignorance Wisdom(Care for the happiness of yourself only) (Care for the happiness of others) others) Self- Self-centered mind : Reason (Altruism) : *Attachment *Compassion *Arrogance *Warm- *Warm-heart *Greed… *Greed…etc. reed *Gentleness… *Gentleness…etc. Destructive emotion : Calm mind : *Anger, Hatred *Anger, Hatred *Peace of mind *Jealousy *Friendship *Fear, Sorrow… *Fear, Sorrow…etc. *Cooperation…etc. Cooperation…Negative motivation Positive motivation Negative karma Positive karma Negative consequence Benefit Suffering Happiness