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Why Do Men Stonewall? (and what you can do about it)
The document discusses men's emotional behaviors, specifically the tendency to stonewall in romantic relationships, and explores societal expectations placed on men, termed the 'boy code.' It provides insights into why men may struggle with communication and emotional expression, along with strategies for women to address these challenges. Additional resources, including a free ecourse and ebooks, are mentioned for further exploration of these topics.
Why Do Men Stonewall? (and what you can do about it)
- 1. www.DrDebiSmith.com Why Do Men Stonewall? ...and what you can do about it. The Psychology of Men & Romance Dr. Debi Smith PO Box 13154, Newport Beach, CA
- 2. www.DrDebiSmith.com Why Wont’ HeTalk to Me? • Does the man you love ... – withdraw and refuse to face issues? – have problems being open about things? – frequently misunderstand what you’re saying?
- 3. www.DrDebiSmith.com Our Beliefs AboutMen If you’re like many women, you probably believe that men … – are insensitive jerks – don’t have feelings like women do – are only interested in one thing – just don’t get it
- 4. www.DrDebiSmith.com The Boy Code Rule#1. Be a Sturdy Oak. • No whimpering allowed. • No crying allowed. • No complaining allowed. • No sign of weakness allowed.
- 5. www.DrDebiSmith.com The Boy Code Rule#2. Give ‘em Hell. • Encourages risk-taking behavior – macho – invincible – sometimes violent – high-energy – superman
- 6. www.DrDebiSmith.com The Boy Code Rule#3. Be the Big Wheel. • Dominate others • Refuse to let anyone know that he actually feels – like a failure – like life is out of control
- 7. www.DrDebiSmith.com The Boy Code Rule#4. No Sissy Stuff. • gender straitjacket that prohibits boys from expressing feelings or urges seen (mistakenly) as feminine – dependence – warmth – empathy
- 8. www.DrDebiSmith.com The Boy Code Readmore about boys’ experience! Dr. William Pollack
- 9. www.DrDebiSmith.com The Boy Code Readmore about boys’ experience! Dr. Debi Smith
- 10. www.DrDebiSmith.com What to do? • Bring things up sooner rather than later. • Realize your emotional impact on him. • Give him time to think before he responds.
- 11. www.DrDebiSmith.com What to do? • Realize that men don’t operate on the same principles women do. – Don’t think like us. – Aren’t affected by the same things. – Don’t act like we do. – Don’t experience the world the same way we do.
- 12. www.DrDebiSmith.com Additional Information • Free30-Day eCourse – www.WhyWontHeTalkToMe.com • eBook – www.DrDebiSmith.com/books.html – Download for Kindle, Nook, Apple iBooks • Dance With Me A Hopeful Romantic Interprets Ephesians 5