Men and women use language differently, in part because they have different life experiences and different goals in life. In this presentation, you will learn some of the most common mistakes women make when they try to communicate with the men they love ... and more effective ways to get your point across.

1. Dr. Debi Smith
A Wise Woman’s Guide
Learning the Language of Men

2. Proverbs 18:22
He who finds a wife
finds what is good
& receives favor
from The Lord.

3. What bugs you most about men?

4. What bugs men most about women?

5. What if …
Most of your relationship issues were simply a series of
misunderstandings?

6. What if …
Most of your relationship issues were simply a series of
misunderstandings?
Most of those misunderstandings were because he speaks a
different language?

7. What if …
Most of your relationship issues were simply a series of
misunderstandings?
Most of those misunderstandings were because he speaks a
different language?
And what if The Lord has uniquely equipped you to learn a
man’s language?

8. Understanding a Man’s World
More sensitive than women from the start of life.

9. Understanding a Man’s World
More sensitive than women from the start of life.
Just observe toddlers on a playground …

10. Understanding a Man’s World
More sensitive than women from the start of life.
Just observe toddlers on a playground …
However, emotional expression is greatly reduced by the time
a boy enters kindergarten.

11. Boys & Men are Bound by the Boy Code
Be a Sturdy Oak
Any sign of weakness is strictly forbidden.

12. Boys & Men are Bound by the Boy Code
Give ‘Em Hell
Risk-taking behavior is encouraged.

13. Boys & Men are Bound by the Boy Code
Be the Big Wheel
Dominate others & refuse to let anyone know you feel like a
failure or out of control.

14. Boys & Men are Bound by the Boy Code
No Sissy Stuff
Don’t express feelings or urges viewed as feminine, such as
dependence.

15. Question
How might the Boy Code be impacting your conversations
with men?

16. Men’s Emotions
Men’s emotions & emotional reactions tend to be expressed
physically, rather than verbally.

17. Men’s Emotions
Yes, men are much more sensitive than women.

18. Men’s Emotions
Yes, men are much more sensitive than women.
But they’re sensitive about different stuff than we are!

19. Men’s Emotions
Yes, men are much more sensitive than women.
But they’re sensitive about different stuff than we are!
What you say has a very profound impact on any man!

20. Language Differences
Men tend to process internally, whereas women tend to
process externally.

21. Language Differences
Men communicate to share info, whereas women
communicate to connect.

22. Language Differences
Women talk in paragraphs, whereas men listen in sentences.

23. Speak His Language
Don’t demand that he be vulnerable. (The Boy Code)

24. Speak His Language
Don’t demand that he be vulnerable. (The Boy Code)
Don’t lead with, “We need to talk.” Those words trigger his “I’m
in trouble again” reaction.

25. Speak His Language
Don’t demand that he be vulnerable. (The Boy Code)
Don’t lead with, “We need to talk.” Those words trigger his “I’m
in trouble again” reaction.
Don’t use examples – especially if he’s quiet & doesn’t seem to
get your point. His silence means he’s probably already
flooded with emotions.

26. Speak His Language
Engage in a side-by-side activity.

27. Speak His Language
Engage in a side-by-side activity.
Be clear about the purpose of your conversation.

28. Speak His Language
Engage in a side-by-side activity.
Be clear about the purpose of your conversation.
Is it an experience to share or a problem to solve?

29. Speak His Language
Engage in a side-by-side activity.
Be clear about the purpose of your conversation.
Is it an experience to share or a problem to solve?
Give him time & space to think before he responds.

30. Most importantly …
Learn to listen.

31. Most importantly …
Learn to listen.
Listen to Learn.

32. Most importantly …
Learn to listen.
Listen to Learn.
You’ll both be glad you did!

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