Our children are our legacy to future generations. We hope to pass on our values and faith so that they stand firm. However, society has become increasingly hostile to spiritual values, focusing more on materialism. Parents must recapture a strong sense of values and beliefs to teach their children, for their benefit and future generations. We must guide them to the right path through role modeling, counseling, mentoring and being a good coach in their decisions.

1. Our children, Our
Legacy
Dr. Kanwal Kaisser

2. What do people leave
behind for posterity?
Business Charity Name/
Wealth Property
Empires homes landmarks

3. What we think about kids?
Our children are the
next generation and
we are passing on a
legacy to them—
whether for good or
for ill.

4. Questions for parents
What are
What hope you hoping
do we have in— that
For those of us What are
that our Live by will
who are you
children their produce
parents or counting
will stand values? relationally
grandparents: on?
by their healthy,
faith? followers
of God?

5. Alarming decline in moral
direction and spiritual
values
Society is
Nuclear
No need for Science competitive
family
religion reigns and
disintegrated
materialistic

6. Parenting approach
Child oriented
Vague parental focus
Less direction for right and wrong
Focus of success is material prosperity
Changes in culture and society have
been so gradual that the human mind
has not always detected them

7. We Live In A Culture Hostile to
Values
• Diminished respect for marriage
• Unfaithfulness in marriage
The world’s • Rise in divorce rates
attack on the
family • Destroying gender role distinctions
• Distractions - Busy mom’s and dad’s
• More focus on the secular than the holy

8. The London Sunday Times
of November 1, 1998,
reported
“According to Kay Hymowitz, author of a book on
tweens [an age group between childhood and
adolescence]... busy parents are spending less
time with their children—so television,
magazines and peers at school are becoming
more significant influences on children's lives.
‘It's a very disturbing trend’ [Hymowitz] said.
‘Parental absence, the market and the peer group
form a vicious circle that works to distort the
development of youngsters.’”

9. Raising Godly
Children In An
Ungodly World
We Live In A Culture Hostile to Godly Values
Television, movie, and music industries glorify immorality of all kinds
– especially sexual sins., while ridiculing godliness
Government education promotes immorality and tolerance for every
form of ungodliness – while forbidding exhibitions of faith in Christ -
Naturalistic Evolution and humanism are taught in public schools at
every level -

10. What parents need…..
Teach their offspring
Recapture a strong
so as to benefit them
sense of values and
and succeeding
beliefs
generations.

11. Think About It …
Abu Huraira (ra) reported Allah's Messenger (saw)
as saying, "Among the actions and good deads for
which a believer will continue to receive reward
after his death are knowledge which he taught and
spread, a good son whom he left behind, or a copy
of the Qur'an which he left as a legacy, or a mosque
he built, or a house which he built for the traveller,
or a stream which he caused to flow, or a sadaqa
which he gave from his property when he was alive
and well, for which he will continue to receive
reward after his death." (Ibn Majah and Baihaqi)

12. Back to basics

13. Become a good coach in their decisions.
Counsel with Dua
Mentor, using your life as an example
Be a friend for life

14. Ibrahim Zakariyah Ibad ur
(A.S): (37:100) (AS): (3:38) Rahman: (25:74)

15. Right Foundation
What is the purpose of the foundation of a building?
Why would we need a spiritual foundation?

16. Keep Your Focus

17. Role Modeling Principles
Behold! his Lord said to him: "Bow (thy will to Me):" He said: "I bow (my
will) to the Lord and Cherisher of the Universe.”
And this was the legacy that Abraham left to his sons, and so did Jacob;
"Oh my sons! Allah hath chosen the Faith for you; then die not except in
the Faith of Islam.”
(2: 131-133)

18. Advice of Luqman to
his sons

19. Out of Question: Shirk
Behold, Luqman said to his son by way of instruction: "O my
son! join not in worship (others) with Allah: for false worship
is indeed the highest wrong-doing.”
(31:13)

20. Tarbiyah of children by
Rasulullah (saw)
• Friendly
• Focus on Fard ibadah
• Habit formation
• Role modeling

21. Teach Them God’s
Word
Teach them
Begin teaching
“diligently” – Teach them by
them the Quran
keeping it before living it
early
them at all times

22. Regulate Their
Friends
Do not be deceived into thinking that worldly friends
will not negatively influence your child. Children may
see it as intrusive, especially in the teenage years, but
it is necessary – it is your duty to protect them.

23. Develop Taqwa
"O my son!" (said Luqman), "If there be (but) the weight of a
mustard-seed and it were (hidden) in a rock, or (anywhere) in
the heavens or on earth, Allah will bring it forth: for Allah
understands the finest mysteries, (and) is well-acquainted
(with them).
(31: 16)

24. Teach Taqwah via Life
Message
What kind of Quranic truths or principles
might be taught in this situation?

25. Teach taqwah via Life
Message
What kind of Quranic truths or principles might be
taught in this situation?

26. Teach Taqwah via Life
Message
What kind of Quranic truths or principles might be
taught in this situation?

27. Personality traits
"O my son! establish regular prayer, enjoin what is just, and
forbid what is wrong: and bear with patient constancy
whatever betide thee; for this is firmness (of purpose) in (the
conduct of) affairs.
(31:18)

28. Discipline Them
Properly
Teach them to respect authority
Teach them to think – discerning right from wrong
Be firm on disobedience

29. Listen for ways we
should communicate with
our children

30. Teach Them How To
Love By Loving Them
To love them
is to value
them

31. Narrated by Anas ibn Malik
The Apostle of Allah (peace be upon him)
came to some children who were playing: He
greeted them lovingly. (Abu Dawood)

32. Dress Them
Appropriately
Teach them Like it or not,
the meaning clothing
and sends a
importance message
of modesty

33. Get Them Involved In
Good Deeds
Getting them
involved in
helping others
consistently
will train them
to be conscious
of others needs.

34. Words of Wisdom
And keep
him with you
Let your Then let him
(for
child play succeed
education
upto seven (well and
and training)
years; good)
for another
seven years;

35. Kanwal Kaisser