Part II of the Compassionate Leadership Series

1. Growing in Relationships
Janet M. Ver Ph.D.
The Way of the Teacher
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2. The Way of the Teacher
The Five A’s
Attention
Acceptance
Appreciation
Affection
Allowance

3. Medicine Wheel
Bighorn Medicine Wheel
Lovell, Wyoming

4. West
 The west represents the emotional self
 Radical Acceptance and meeting the fulfillment of life
as we find our meaning and place
 It stands for our elders, ancestry, and sacred roots of
our lineage
 Ocean and deep sea creatures
 Mystery and unknown

5. Building Self
 In childhood:
 Development of self-esteem
 Development of healthy ego
 Identity
 Coherent personality
 In adulthood:
 Create happiness in adult relationships
 Developing Intimacy
 Giving and receiving the five A’s
 Greater than ego

6. Inner Light Work
 The scintilla is the smallest spark of light within one’s soul. It
is the eternal flame that burns deep inside. When we tune
into our deep Self, we can feel the light and even see the
golden glow.

7. The Place of Mystery

8. Wonder
 What awakens wonder in your heart.
 All belief depends on wonder.
 Explore your belief system
 Where there is no wonder, there can be no faith.
 Wonder is a beautiful way of seeing.
 Wonder never rests on the surface of a fact or situation
 It voyages inwards to discover why something is the way it is
 Wonder celebrates the mystery and depth of presence that is within us
and around us
 It has no greed to grasp or own the heart of a thing
 As Patrick Kavanagh said: "Through a chink too wide comes in no
wonder." Wonder keeps experience fresh and original. At the Winter
Solstice the divine presence stirs in the crib of the heart infusing our eyes
with the glow of wonder. ~~ John O'Donohue (excerpt from his B.B.C.
Radio 4 Christmas Reflection 1998)

9. Quantum Questions
 When have you felt the happiest, healthiest, and
strongest in your life?
 If you could change anything from the past that has
impacted you, what would that be?
 How does a Timeline assist you today?
 Where do you feel stuck?
 If this had roots, where would they go?
 Have you seen this pattern before?
 …and then what?

10. Mentors
 Create a Timeline of the Mentors, Teachers, and
Guides you’ve encountered in your life from birth until
today
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11. Tracing Your Roots
 Let’s look at your ancestry and family of
origin
 Who stands out
 What legacy did they leave for you?
 What do your ancestors stand for?
 What did they endure?
 What are positive and negative traits that
you have inherited?

12. Discover the nugget in the
NOT so pretty

13. Shadow Work

14. Archetypal Imagery
 Exploration of major Jungian archetypes
 Which are leading you today?
 Which have you experienced at earlier times?
 Which is dominant?
 Complete Assessment
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15. Digging the Roots
 Conflict Resolution
 The Emotional Climate
 Dynamics of Change
 Change Perspectives
 Insights
 Empathy
 Cultural Core

16. Symbols and Non Verbals
 What symbols do you identify with
 How do you express non verbally?

17. What is your impact
 How do you affect those around you?
 What feedback have you received?
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18. Emotional Fingerprints
 Writing your feelings for 15 minutes a day
 Attitude towards emotion
 Which feelings are comfortable expressing at
work/home
 How do others react to your expressions What
emotion would you like to express better

19. Storytelling
 Our ancestors express their emotions, beliefs, and
values through stories from earliest times
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20. Understanding Emotional
Triggers
 What is a trigger?
 How do you react to triggers?
 Pay attention through the week to what triggers you?
 How have you attempted to stop a trigger?
 Using the West to stop your triggers

21. History and Icons

22. Yoga asanas that help to open
and align Svadhisthana are …
 Seated pelvic circles: Sitting in a cross-legged or half-lotus
pose with your hands on your knees, make circles with your
torso. Go around in one direction 5 or 6 times and then switch
directions.
 Baddha konasana (butterfly pose) with forward fold: In a
seated position, bring the bottoms of your feet together. Let
your knees drop to the sides and bring your heels in close to
your pelvis. Lengthen the torso and fold forward.
 Bhujangasana (cobra pose): Lie on your stomach with your
feet flat on the floor. Place your hands under your shoulders
and slowly lift your head, chest, and abdomen while keeping
your naval on the floor. Be sure to press down through the
pubic bone toward the mat.

23. Deep Refuge