Three keys to self direction and leadership with Christopher Avery @AgileNOVA

1. Three
Keys
to
Self-­‐Direc2on
and
Leadership
@ChristopherAver

2. leadership
is
innate
Leaders
make
themselves
by
being
pulled
toward
compelling
challenges.
Anyone
who
takes
responsibility
for
a
situa=on,
problem,
or
opportunity,
and
mobilizes
resources
is
a
leader.
(Noel
Tichy)
and
situa2onal

3. Think
of
2mes
when…
1. You
felt
compelled
to
step
up
to
a
situa=on,
problem,
or
opportunity
that
required
others
to
join
you.
And
you
did.
And
you
grew.
2. You
did
not
feel
compelled
to
step
up
to
a
situa=on,
problem,
or
opportunity.
So
you
didn’t.
And
you
cruised.
What
was
different?

4.
“People
need
leadership”
(so
last
millenia)
When
on
purpose
and
free,
people
lead
themselves
quite
well.
@ChristopherAver

5. Self-­‐Efficacy
With
high
self-­‐efficacy,
you:
• see
challenges
as
opportuni=es
to
gain
new
mastery
• engage
more
deeply
in
ac=vi=es
• bounce
back
more
rapidly
from
set-­‐
backs
With
low
self-­‐efficacy,
you:
• avoid
challenges
• emphasize
your
personal
failings
• have
liUle
confidence
in
your
abili=es

6. Developing
Self-­‐Efficacy
Mastery
Experiences
Always
be
mastering
something.
Social
Modeling
Engulf
yourself
with
models.
Be
a
model.
Social
Persuasion
Encourage.
Release
discouragement
and
invalida=on.
Physiological
and
Psychological
Responses
Maintain
physical
and
mental
fitness.

7. What
are
the
3
keys?
INTENTION
CONFRONT
AWARENESS
@ChristopherAver

8. Inten2on
WANT
+
BELIEF
+
EXPECTATION
WISH
+
DENY
+
REJECTION

9. Will
Ella
Wheeler
Wilcox
(1850-­‐1919)
You
will
be
what
you
will
to
be;
Let
failure
find
its
false
content
In
that
poor
word
"environment,"
But
spirit
scorns
it,
and
is
free,
It
masters
=me,
it
conquers
space,
It
cows
that
boasdul
trickster
Chance,
And
bids
the
tyrant
Circumstance
Uncrown
and
fill
a
servant's
place.
The
human
Will,
that
force
unseen,
The
offspring
of
a
deathless
Soul,
Can
hew
the
way
to
any
goal,
Though
walls
of
granite
intervene.
Be
not
impa=ent
in
delay,
But
wait
as
one
who
understands;
When
spirit
rises
and
commands,
The
gods
are
ready
to
obey.
The
river
seeking
for
the
sea
Confronts
the
dam
and
precipice,
Yet
knows
it
cannot
fail
or
miss;
You
will
be
what
you
will
to
be!

10. Some
ways
to
master
Inten=on
Allow
yourself
to
want
Focus
on
wants,
not
needs
List
wants
frequently
§ Include
Be,
Do,
Have
§ I
prefer
x
to
y
§ I
believe/value
Let
go
of
shoulds
When
upset
or
uncertain,
ask
“What
do
I/we
want?”
Prac=ce
segment
intending
@ChristopherAver

11. Claim
Wins
A
win
is
an
inten2on
met.
Size
does
not
maUer!
Size
does
not
maUer!
Size
does
not
maUer!

12. Awareness

13. ®
NO
RESULTS
UNSATISFYIING
RESULTS
RESULTS
THAT
MATTER

14. Awareness
The
first
key
to
change
#1
approach
to
leadership
development
Mindfulness
|
Being
Present
AUen=on
|
Focus
|
Medita=on
Clearing
|
Releasing
|
Breath
work

15. Reac2ve
Mind
Resourceful
Mind
Fear
Inspira=on
Purpose
Seek
safety
Poor
results
Results
that
maUer
Mind
@ChristopherAver

17. Ways
to
develop
Awareness
Prac=ce
Responsibility
Catch
Sooner
game
Try
on
points
of
view
Study
scarcity
&
abundance
Stop
evalua=ng/
judging
and
start
looking
Understand
your
biases
Examine
your
fears
@ChristopherAver

18. Confront
The
key
to
truth
and
growth
“the
ability
to
face”

19. Inten2on
-­‐
Awareness
-­‐
Confront
1. Create
3
columns
with
a
header
row
2. In
the
boUom
center
column,
list
all
of
your
commitments
3. Label
the
columns
No
|
Yes
|
Hell
Yes
4. Empty
the
middle
column
Take
care
of
the
cats
Study
the
bible
Take
out
the
trash
Make
a
wonderful
living
Pay
for
my
sons
college
Take
care
of
the
cats
Study
the
bible
Take
out
the
trash
Make
a
wonderful
living
Pay
for
my
sons
college
Take
care
of
the
cats
Study
the
bible
Take
out
the
trash
Make
a
wonderful
living
Pay
for
my
sons
college
No
Yes
Hell
Yes
Take
care
of
the
cats
Study
the
bible
Take
out
the
trash
Make
a
wonderful
living
Pay
for
my
sons
college
Pay
for
my
sons
college
Take
care
of
the
cats
Study
the
bible
Take
out
the
trash
Make
a
wonderful
living
Source:
Derek
Silvers

20. 99%
is
a
bitch.
100%
is
a
breeze.
(Jack
Canfield,
on
commitment)
@ChristopherAver

21. Characteris2cs
of
Good
Goals
CLARIFY
INTENTION
The
more
clear
you
are
about
what
you
want
and
intend
to
accomplish,
the
beUer.
FOCUS
ATTENTION
If
you
want
to
be
sure
something
will
happen
you
must
focus
aUen=on
on
it.
REMOVE
OBLIGATION
“Goals”
become
a
burden
when
people
believe
they
have
an
obliga=on
to
do
them.
GENERATE
ENERGY
Good
goals
lead
to
excitement,
dedica=on
and
a
deep
desire
to
do
it.
hUp://co-­‐evolu=on.com/goals.php

22. Obliga2on
Good
Goals
Owning
it

23. Becoming
more
means
choosing
to
re-­‐condi2on
your
mind
with
Inten2on,
Awareness,
and
Confront
You
already
have
all
of
the
capabili=es
Your
condi=oning/programming
may
not
be
suppor=ng
you.
You
can
refactor
that.

24. How
you
can
get
involved
ChristopherAvery.com/book
Partnerwerks.com
The
Leadership
Gi
Program

25. Photo
Credits
Flickr.com