The document emphasizes the importance of inner game over surface behaviors in social interactions, particularly in dating. It illustrates that individuals with strong social skills and confidence naturally attract others despite the methods they use, while those who focus on replicating specific behaviors without understanding the underlying confidence and social awareness often fail. Ultimately, the message is that personal development and self-awareness are crucial for genuine connections.

2. Look where the finger's pointing, not
at the finger.

3. This is old advice that is almost always
overlooked.

4. What does it mean?

5. We humans are easily deceived.

6. We are motivated by structure, but we
almost always focus on content.

7. Structure is that part that's hard to
define.

8. A vague kind of energy. Inner game.

9. Content is the outer behavior that we
can measure and write down and
copy.

10. Take some guy who is a stone cold
natural.

11. He's got tons of self confidence.

12. Massive social skills.

13. Amazing social intelligence.

14. He walks into a room, and everybody's
interested.

15. He walks up to a girl and notices she's
got on a silver bracelet.

16. He tells her a story about the time he
used to work in a jewelry store.

17. He tells her some funny stories about
some of the crazy customers he had to
deal with.

18. She looks at him with those rare but
wonderful doe eyes, and goes home
with him.

19. A couple of "game engineers" are
watching and taking notes.

20. They conclude that the secret to
getting laid is noticing something
about the girl, and telling her some
funny story about it.

21. They try it, and fall flat on their faces.

22. Same natural a week later.

23. He sees a girl that's dressed to kill.

24. Way overdressed for the bar.

25. He starts playfully teasing her.

26. But since he's super attuned and got
super human powers of social
intelligence, he doesn't go too far.

27. He knows when to pull back and give
her some good stuff. She's enthralled,
and goes home with him.

28. Another group of guys are watching,
and conclude that busting her chops is
the secret.

29. They try it and get drinks thrown in
their faces.

30. What gives?

31. Forget about the surface structure.

32. Unless it's a natural outcome of strong
inner game, it will fall flat.

33. You don't start the cake with the
frosting.

34. You start with the raw ingredients, mix
it.

35. Bake it.

36. Let it cool.

37. Then MAYBE you put some frosting on.

38. Life is the same way.

39. Getting girls are the same way.

40. Inner game comes first.

41. With strong enough inner game, with
a strong enough and congruent
enough frame, you could walk up to
her and talk about the latest episode
of Gilligan's Island and she'll be into
you.

42. Learn How:
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