Rising Strong ™ When Faced with Professional Change: My Story, My Ending

Rising Strong™ When Faced
with Professional Change
My Story, My Ending
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Trisha Wohlfeil
Trisha Wohlfeil works with individuals,
couples, families, children, adolescents,
and teenagers from a systemic
perspective. She believes it takes a lot of
courage to enter the therapeutic process
and feels honored to come alongside her
clients in their journey towards hope and
healing.
•  Certified Daring Way™ Facilitator
•  Military spouse
Trisha Wohlfeil, MA
Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist

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When Faced With
Professional Change
MY STORY:
MY ENDING
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“Reunion after Deployment”
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Objectives
●  Increase access to emotions and identify how
emotions are connected with behavior and thought
●  Learn resiliency skills in the face of change
●  Identify & use additional resources to strengthen
and build resilience

Brené Brown Introduction

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who
points out how the strong man stumbles, or
where the doer of deeds could have done them
better. “
“The credit belongs to the man who is actually in
the arena, whose face is marred by dust and
sweat and blood;
who at the best knows in the end the triumph of
high achievement, and who at the worst, if he
fails, at least fails while Daring Greatly.”
Theodore Roosevelt
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The Physics of Vulnerability

Redefine Failure
"Falling in the arena
is where
courage is forged
and
values are tested”
Brené Brown

VALUES CLARIFICATION IS ESSENTIAL FOR THE
DEVELOPMENT OF RESILIENCY
Values Light the Way

Defining Your Values
“A Value is a way of being or believing that you hold
most important.” – Brené Brown

Brené Brown Quote
“There are no guarantees in the arena.
We will struggle. We will even fail.
There will be darkness.”
“But if we are clear about the values that
guide us in our efforts to show up and be
seen, we will always be able to find the
light.
We will know what it means to live
BRAVE.”

Question
Think of a recent thing that you did or participated in
that was challenging or hard for you?
What was the value that led the way for you to be able
to do that?
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Rising Strong™ Process
▪ Rise from the fall
▪ Overcome the challenges
▪ Face feelings and hurt in a way
that brings wisdom, healing and
wholeness

We are Wired for Story
Every Story has 3 Acts
Beginning, Messy Middle, End

Own your story
"Walk in your story
and
own your truth
or
stand outside
and
hustle for your worthiness”
Brené Brown

Act 1: The Reckoning
▪Reckoning is a navigational term. We have to know
where we are and where we have been to be able to
chart a new course.
▪Requires recognizing a feeling
▪Curiosity and seeing the connection between emotion,
thought, behavior.

Act 2: The Rumble (owning our story)
Getting honest about the stories we are
making up and then challenging those stories
(what’s truth, what’s self protection)

Rumbling with Vulnerability
UNCERTAINTY
RISK
EMOTIONAL EXPOSURE
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Rumbling with Shame
●  If we have the capacity for
connection, we feel shame.
●  We when name it and talk
about it, it loses its power
over us.

Rumbling with Wanted vs. Unwanted Identities
Wanted Identities Unwanted Identities

The Revolution: Process becomes Practice
●  This is where we write a brave new ending based on
the learnings from the rumble
●  Courageous presence with emotions(Mindfulness)
●  Allow this brave new story to transform the way we
live, love, work, parent and lead(wholehearted)

Exercise
● Think of a person who is causing you a lot of trouble
or angst in your life right now
● What if you had verification from the highest
authority that this person is doing the best they can
with the resources they currently have?
● How would that change how you view them or how
you respond to them?

Living BIG while Rising Strong™
Core belief: People are doing the best they can
Boundaries-What’s okay with me and what’s not
Integrity-Living in alignment with my values
Generosity-Interpretations of words and actions

U.S. Department
of Defense
This material is based upon work supported by the NaDonal InsDtute of Food and Agriculture, U.S. Department of Agriculture, and the Oﬃce
of Military Family Readiness Policy, U.S. Department of Defense under Award Number 2015-48770-24368.

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