This document discusses the importance of preparation before marriage and finding the right partner. It argues that God has a specific person planned as the right marriage partner for each individual. It encourages taking early steps like self-examination, education, work experience, and social development to ensure being ready for marriage and to avoid wasting time courting the wrong person. The goal of these early steps and any courtship is to determine God's will for the relationship and whether an engagement and marriage should follow.
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The day of Thanksgiving which is a national holiday is not the only day in which we should consider giving thanks.
Daily, there are things in which we can find if we would only open our eyes, mind, heart, ears to give thanks to the LORD GOD.
Dorenthea Nemeth tells her story of the worst time in her life, being married to a man who has just been sentenced to 16 years in prison and suddenly finding herself alone, with two small children to care for. She lost her home and everything she had. However, in spite of it all, her faith in God helped her to endure this horrific storm in her life.
In this book she encourages readers that no matter what, God is in control and He will bring you through. Dorenthea went from tragedy to triumph and she lets her readers know that they can do the same, as long as they don't give up--no matter what.
CONTENTS
1. THE LORD'S PRAYER PART I Based on Matt. 6:7-15
2. OUR FATHER Based on Matt. 6:9-15
3. DESIRE DETERMINES DESTINY Based on Matt. 6:7-15
4. THE ETERNAL DESIRE Based on Matt. 6:7-15
5. THE KING AND THE KINGDOM Based on Matt. 6:7-15
6. THE TRINITY OF DESIRES Based on Matt. 6:7-15
7. THE DEBT DISSOLVING DESIRE Based on Matt. 6:7-15
8. THE DESIRE FOR DELIVERANCE Based on Matt. 6:7-15
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We all know people who are enduring marriage. Life is short and a marriage is to safeguard a life of peace, pleasure, and prosperity in the safety of a married partner. Unfortunately, many marriages today are suffering because one or both partners have given up on their marriage. They’re enduring instead of enjoying each other. Today I want to give you five keys that will breathe fresh life into your marriage.
In Everything Give Thanks - 1 Thessalonians 5:18
The day of Thanksgiving which is a national holiday is not the only day in which we should consider giving thanks.
Daily, there are things in which we can find if we would only open our eyes, mind, heart, ears to give thanks to the LORD GOD.
Dorenthea Nemeth tells her story of the worst time in her life, being married to a man who has just been sentenced to 16 years in prison and suddenly finding herself alone, with two small children to care for. She lost her home and everything she had. However, in spite of it all, her faith in God helped her to endure this horrific storm in her life.
In this book she encourages readers that no matter what, God is in control and He will bring you through. Dorenthea went from tragedy to triumph and she lets her readers know that they can do the same, as long as they don't give up--no matter what.
CONTENTS
1. THE LORD'S PRAYER PART I Based on Matt. 6:7-15
2. OUR FATHER Based on Matt. 6:9-15
3. DESIRE DETERMINES DESTINY Based on Matt. 6:7-15
4. THE ETERNAL DESIRE Based on Matt. 6:7-15
5. THE KING AND THE KINGDOM Based on Matt. 6:7-15
6. THE TRINITY OF DESIRES Based on Matt. 6:7-15
7. THE DEBT DISSOLVING DESIRE Based on Matt. 6:7-15
8. THE DESIRE FOR DELIVERANCE Based on Matt. 6:7-15
This magazine is dedicated to all expecting fathers; new fathers; growing fathers and well seasoned fathers. Hopefully in you fathers you will allow the daddy to shine.
This presentation discusses principles on how to build on your life, especially if you are coming from a drought. It also shows biblical perspective on God's plan and guidance for us, regardless of your state in life.
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Preparing for marriage 4
1. Preparing for Marriage 4
Early Steps
At the beginning of our study today I would like to raise this question, or rather, make this
statement. (I don=t want to even, by raising the question, seem to indicate that there is any
uncertainty about the matter.) Here is the marvelous fact, my friends, and I am speaking to
the unmarried. If God has planned for you to be married, there is a special one that He has
planned for you to be married to.
Now, remember in the first class, I pointed out that the enemy is ready and willing to take
advantage of that fact, and cause married people to feel, AWell, I guess I made a mistake.@
But we covered that with clear statements from inspired sources that we are not to permit
doubts like that to come in.
When the marriage vows have been said, when two people have been joined together, we
read a clear statement that even if the devil had led them, they were to do what? Make the
best of it. This is the only way that society could hold together - not if people were forever
considering and reconsidering. God has made the consummation of a legal marriage the end
of the question. From then on, there is only one thing for those two people to do, before God
and each other. It is to do what? Make the best of it.
But I am not dealing with that, today. I have already studied that. I am dealing with the
unmarried. And this is a glorious fact. If God is calling a young man or a young woman to
marriage, it is not merely in a general sort of way. It is not simply that there might be any
one of a thousand or ten thousand people that it might work with. There is a particular one.
Now, I know that good people, some of them are goods friends of mine, think that that is too
idealistic, that it might be even romantic. Well, I am not dealing with it from the romantic
standpoint, at all. I am dealing with it from the standpoint of divine providence.
Turn, please, in Message to Young People, to page 219, and you will see what I base this
statement on. I want you to see it for yourself, because I tell you, my dear friends, it makes a
great deal of difference to a young man, when he comes to the place of seeking a life
companion, whether he has the idea that any one of a hundred might be suitable, or whether
he knows in his heart that there is one, just one, that is heaven=s first and best choice for him.
Before we read this statement let me make plain something else. I do not mean by that, that
there is only one person in all the world that you could make a successful home with. No, I
don=t mean anything like that. Any two people that are Christians and will put their
shoulders to the wheel can make a successful home. Don=t forget that. I repeat it. Any two
people that are Christians and will make the effort can make a success.
But there are degrees of success, my friends. And there are heights of joy and heights of
achievement in blended lives that are possible only in the special one that God has intended
for you and you for. Now, Messages to Young People, page 219.
Someone will say when we read this, AWell, this isn=t talking about marriage.@
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2. It is talking about something that includes everything in life. Do you have the middle
paragraph there? What are the four first words here in the paragraph? AEach has his
place.@ Now notice the rest of the sentence. Will you read it with me?
AEach has his place in the eternal plan of heaven@ MYP 219.
Do I have a place? Oh, yes. My place right now is in this pulpit here in the chapel at Eden
Valley. That is my place. Is that right? Can I have the satisfaction of knowing that heaven
has planned for me to be here? Why, sure, that is my privilege.
Now, this is important, but tell me, friend, do you think the matter of my companion in life is
even more important? And will you tell me that God will have a place for me to work, but it
doesn=t make any great difference to Him which one of a hundred girls I marry, just so they
are decent and I go about it in the right way? Why, the idea, friends, is entirely apart from
this paragraph.
Now let=s read on:
AEach has his place in the eternal plan of heaven. Each is to
work in co-operation with Christ for the salvation of souls. Not
more surely is the place prepared for us in the heavenly
mansions than is the special place designated on earth where
we are to work for God@Messages to Young People, page
219.
Oh, I think that is wonderful. Now, when you get up to heaven, do you think there will be a
place there for you? Jesus said:
AI go to prepare a place for you@ John 14:2.
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Isn=t that a wonderful promise?
I have tried to imagine how it might be if it weren=t the way God has planned it. Suppose I
get up there to heaven, and finally I get to meet Jesus. And I say to Him, AWell, Jesus,
where am I going to stay up here?@ (Now remember, this isn=t going to happen.) And He
stops and He thinks, ALet Me see, I wonder where there would be a good place for you?@
And He calls one of the angels and He says, ADo you know of any vacant room any where in
the city?@ And the angel consults his list and he says, ADown in housing project 312.
There is a vacant room number 1,718. I think we can fix him up there.@
Do you think it will be anything like that? Why, friends, nothing remotely like that. My
blessed Lord is going to take me personally to the mansion that He personally has prepared
for me. And it isn=t going to be like anything that any of the rest of you have. That is what
is going to make it interesting to visit around. When you come over to see my private lake
and waterfall and the view of the mountains on the one side and the great valley and plain on
the other, you are going to say, AThis is marvelous.@
But you know something else you are going to say? You are going to say, AYou ought to see
what the Lord has fixed up for me.@ It is going to take us some time just seeing the
particular individual providence that has planned something special for each of us. Do you
see what I mean, friends?
I have said all that to say this, to repeat this. Look at it again:
ANot more surely is the place prepared for us in the heavenly
3. mansions than is the special place designated on earth where
we are to work for God@Messages to Young People, page
219.
Oh, then just as sure as there is a special place up there, there is a special place for me where?
Right here in this world. Well, listen, let=s make it very geographical. If there is a special
place for me, and there is a special place for a certain woman that is the same place that I am
in, who is she going to be in God=s order? My wife. Is that right? Do you see what I am
getting at, dear friends?
How can she be in a special place and I be in a special place and we are both in the same
place, unless God has planned for this special union that He has called marriage? So I
conclude, and it is a happy conclusion, if you are unmarried you have the wonderful hope, the
wonderful privilege of looking forward, if God wants you to be married, to somebody that He
has prepared especially for you. And by the same token, prepared you especially for.
All this preliminary is to get you ready and to get your partner ready. Say, friends, wouldn=t
it be a good thing to stay in the oven until the bread is done? What do you say? Too much
half-baked stuff coming on the table! That is why marriage in so many lives today is so
unsatisfying. The preparation has not been done.
Well, we have dwelt on that in the last two lessons, this preparation and the parental home,
and we are working now on these steps that lead, at last, to engagement and marriage. And
as we have seen, of course, there is an experience of courtship that precedes engagement.
What is courtship? I would like to have you think of courtship in this way. Courtship is the
serious effort of two people to find out whether it is God=s will for them to be married. The
sincere, frank, earnest effort to find that out in company with each other.
But you will notice in our diagram, I have listed four steps before we ever get there. And
what is the purpose of these four steps? I will tell you why those four steps are there. It is to
keep you and me from wasting our time, and worse than wasting our time, in courting
somebody that God never intended for us even to consider.
Let me hasten to explain. I don=t mean that it is wrong for there to be more than one
courtship during a person=s life. A young man may, after taking these preliminary steps with
the utmost sincerity, court a certain girl, and then later, either he or the girl finds out that God
never meant them for each other at all. And if the preliminary steps have been taken in the
right way and the courtship is carried on in the right way, they can part company without
either one of them having a broken heart, and without either one of them feeling that the other
is an enemy, and each can go his way with faith in God and in the other party. This is the
ideal.
No, I do not mean to leave the impression that the first courtship you enter into must
eventuate in marriage. The purpose of the courtship is to find out whether there is to be an
engagement and marriage. I think that young people, after they have become somewhat
acquainted with these first four steps which we are going to study more carefully today, are
sometimes inclined to get the idea that if they have gone through all those four steps, then the
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4. courtship is more or less of a formality to be gone through as soon as possible, and gotten
through and on to the marriage. Nothing remotely like that should be in our minds, friends.
These first four steps are a preliminary screening process. And let me tell you why they are
so important. We are not dealing with something like shopping for an automobile, or looking
for a piece of real estate to buy. We are dealing with a union which involves the deepest
emotions of the human heart. Love is the electric current of the soul. Electricity is a
wonderful power, provided it is used in the right place, in the right way, at the right time.
Am I correct?
It would be possible to burn this building down if electricity were used in the wrong way at
the wrong place at the wrong time. Am I correct? Yes. Same electricity. So with water
power, steam power, any power. Power, by its very nature, has a great potential for good or
for evil.
And so with this great experience of love. When it is inspired by the Divine, and each step
taken as a step heavenward, it can be a wonderful experience. But I want to tell you
something, friends, and most of you in this room already know what I am saying, but none of
us in this room has fully appreciated all the implications of what I am about to say. That is
this: that the mere being in each other=s society tends to draw a man and a woman together.
That is the tendency.
Now, married people, if they are decent, if they understand the law of God, they continually
are under a restraint, a divine restraint, and they put their will in harmony with that. A
married man does not allow a natural human tendency of being drawn to some other woman
than his wife. He does not allow that to affect his conduct. Do you see what I mean, friends?
And the same with the married woman.
But I have already shown you that unless unmarried people have learned that same self-control,
they are not ready to enter into marriage. And I will go further, or come back closer:
They are not ready to enter into courtship.
Courtship calls for a great deal of self-control. For a young man to be engaged in courtship
with a young woman, and to know that perhaps this is the girl that is to be his wife; and to
feel stirring in his heart the beginnings of that love, which if it is God=s plan, will finally
flower and fruit in a successful marriage - to feel those stirrings in his heart - and yet to be
able to control his hands so they don=t touch that girl; to control his eyes so that they don=t
begin to send love messages; to be able to seriously enter into the business of courtship
without emotion taking over and pushing the thing through, throwing reason aside; I say,
calls for a tremendous amount of self-control.
AOh,@ somebody says, ABrother, you are taking all the romance out of courtship.@
I am taking a lot of a certain kind of romance out, dear friends, I hope. Because that which is
called Aromance@ in the world, so often works counter to reason and judgment, and so often
rides over and away from any counsel that might be given. The time, the best time for
romance, shall I tell you when it is? After you are married. Then you can have a lifetime of
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5. it, the right kind. And the engagement period, of course, too, in a preliminary way.
But the real love, the best love, the glory of love, is reserved for marriage itself. Wouldn=t
God plan it that way, friends? What a pity to have the soup so wonderful and all the rest of
the meal a disappointment. What do you say? Oh, no! Thank God it is to get better and
better and better. But remember, this calls for self-control in the courtship.
As I say, these four preliminary steps are so fundamental. The first one I have phrased for
you today in these words, Counsel, that is counsel with God, with your parents and with the
other counselors that God has appointed - men and women of experience, God-fearing
counselors.
Your first question is: Is God calling me to marriage? That is the first thing to find out. Not
who, but whether.
Oh, but somebody says, AIsn=t God calling everybody to marriage?@
Well, I covered that briefly last time. He is certainly not calling everybody to marriage the
same day is He? No. So the first question is: Is God calling me to marriage? And I will
study that more fully with you another time, as to how we may know that.
All right. Number two: counsel: Am I prepared? I have gone over some of that with you as
to what preparation means. And remember, these are things you counsel about. These are
things you kneel down and pray to God about. But remember, there is nothing to pray and
counsel about with number two, unless you have first counseled about number one.
The teenager doesn=t have to be kneeling down and saying, ALord, who am I to marry?@
I will tell you a secret. God won=t tell you. The devil might. We had a reference on that,
didn=t we? Yes. Perhaps we had better review that so that we get our thoughts clear on this.
Messages to Young People, page 455. We read the last paragraph on this page the other time,
we are going to read the first one just now:
ASatan is constantly busy@ MYP, page 455,
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To do what?
ATo hurry@Messages to Young People, page 455,
Who?
AInexperienced youth into@MYP, page 455,
What?
AThe marriage alliance@Messages to Young People, page
455.
So the devil is working at it all the time. No, we are not to be hurried in this and we are to
take our steps in order. First step: Is God calling me to marriage? Second step: Am I
prepared? And in both of these we are to counsel.
Now, today I want you to notice the third and fourth steps, and these steps are also steps of
counsel.
6. Three: Counsel with the young man=s advisors regarding who.
And I will put number four on here, so we can look at them together.
Four: Counsel with the young woman=s advisors.
Let us look at three and four. Here is a Christian young man. He has counseled with his
parents, with the Lord, and with men of experience in the church who can help him, and
together they have come to the conclusion that God is calling this young man to marriage,
that he is prepared (That doesn=t mean he is perfect, but he is prepared). What is his next
step? He talks over with God and with his parents and with his counselors, who might be
God=s choice for me?
Did God plan Rebecca for Isaac? Oh, yes. And God is perfectly willing to plan marriages
today, and these are the steps, if we want guidance from the Lord.
Now, you say, AWhat is that fourth step for?@
When a young man has counseled with the Lord and with his parents, and with the other
counselors that the Lord leads him to, together they feel that Mary is the girl that might be
considered (Now, remember, they are not deciding that this young man is going to marry
Mary. They are merely deciding that she is somebody who might make a suitable
companion: the best that the young man and his God-fearing parents, and his God-fearing
counselors can pick out for him to court. Do you see, friends?) looking at it from every angle
- from the standpoint of his work in life, his fitness to do this or that, who would make him a
good companion?
By the way friends, do you think that makes any difference? Might the man who is going to
spend all his life farming need a little different type of wife from somebody who is going to
be a doctor or somebody else who is going to be a minister, or somebody else who is going to
be a musician? Might he? Or does that make any difference? Well, you can see it would make
a great deal of difference. Certainly if I were going to hunt for a business partner, I would
hunt for somebody who would help me in the business that I was in or going in, wouldn=t I?
Do you see why that courtship is best delayed until one knows what his lifework is?
Not too long ago I had the unhappy privilege of counseling with a couple who were married
and they were very unhappy. As they both talked frankly to me about their problems, I
discovered that the young woman (Well, she is not so young now. They have been married
quite a number of years) was greatly disappointed because her husband wasn=t in the
ministry.
She married him when he was a ministerial student. And she pictured herself all through life
being the wife of a minister, you understand? But somehow it hadn=t worked out. I think he
was in the ministry maybe a year or two and it didn=t seem to work out, and so he was in
some other line and she felt rather short-changed and humiliated, and her whole life was just
a burden.
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7. Well, of course, I had to read to them the Lord=s instructions about making the best of things.
And I=m happy to say, they got some help and they are, as far as I know, happy now.
But do you see what I am getting at? Therefore, in counseling with this young man, his
parents, and the other counselors that he seeks advice from will consider what his lifework is,
as far as seems at the moment, and what he is fitted for, and who will best be a help-meet for
him. Did God make Eve a help suitable for Adam? Ah, yes.
You know, it is a wonderful thing, friends, when a young man has a woman who just fits with
his needs. Let me give you a picture of her in Proverbs 31. Turn over to this last chapter in
the book. Oh, this is a wonderful chapter. Proverbs 31:10 and on to the end of the chapter:
AWho can find a virtuous woman?@ Proverbs 31:10.
Well, I tell you. Of course, it is a rhetorical question, but I will tell you what the answer is.
The man that seeks counsel from God and the ones that God has appointed that he shall
counsel with, he can find this woman.
Eleventh verse:
AThe heart of her husband doth safely trust in her@ Pr 31:11.
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Twelfth verse:
AShe will do him good and not evil all the days of her life@
Proverbs 31:12.
Twenty-eighth verse:
AHer children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also,
and he praiseth her@ Proverbs 31:28.
Turn now to your MYP, and I want you to notice a word that belongs in between the twenty-eighth
and the twenty-ninth verses. This is so sweet, I want you to see it here on the inspired
page. Some of these verses we have just read, are quoted here and some others from Prverbs:
A>A prudent wife is from the Lord.= >The heart of her
husband doth safely trust in her.... She will do him good and
not evil all the days of her life.= >She openeth her mouth with
wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness. She looketh
well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of
idleness. Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her
husband also, and he praiseth her,= saying, >Many daughters
have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all=@ Messages
to Young People, page 436.
In other words, ADarling, you are the one and only.@
Now the sad thing is, the way society is run today, many a girl hears this before she is
married from a half a dozen different fellows in succession. She never hears it very often
after she is finally married. That is the way the world is doing things today. But that isn=t
the way God intended it at all.
And my dear young friends, you who are unmarried, if you will let God conduct your search
and guide your seeking, you will find the one that this verse is talking about. There is one
who fits this picture for you for what you need is something a bit different from anybody else
in the world. You are an individual like no other one. And your ideal companion is an
individual, like no other one. And it is a wonderful thing, friends, when this experience isn=t
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just some poetry or song, it is a fact.
And may I tell you, very honestly, friends, I know what I am talking about. I know what I am
talking about. God did this for me. And I know what I am talking about because I have seen
Him do it for others who have been willing to take these steps. Oh, yes, friends, if you want
to get to a high mountain, it takes a number of steps to get there. If you want to slide, that is
way on down.
All right, now. This young man is counseling with his advisors about who. But listen. He
has finally found that Mary, at the moment, is the one. This is the best light he has.
Remember he is making the decision. He has counseled with God, he has counseled with his
parents and he is not going to try to run ahead of counsel, but on the other hand, counsel isn=t
going to just arbitrarily say, AMary is the girl for you and you marry her whether you like her
or not.@ No, no. Nothing like that. This is guidance, advise, counsel.
Now, he has another step to take before he starts courting Mary. Do you know why? Mary
belongs to somebody. And if she is a Christian girl, Mary knows she belongs to somebody.
And if her parents are God-fearing parents and rightly instructed, they know that Mary
belongs to somebody. And it isn=t just when Mary is three years old that she belongs to
somebody. Mary belongs to somebody all her life. She belongs first of all to her parents.
And she belongs either to her parents or to those who can act as guardians and protectors and
advisors to her, until the day of her marriage.
You say, AThat is a strange idea.@
Well, now, wait a minute. Have you ever been to a wedding? Did you ever hear the preacher
say something like this (Or were you so interested in the music and the dresses of the bride
and the bridesmaids and all that, that you missed this little detail?) AWho giveth this woman
to be the wife of this man?@ Did you ever hear this? Or do they still do that? AWho giveth
this woman to be the wife of this man?@
I wonder where that ever came from in the marriage ceremony. Isn=t that a strange thing?
AWho giveth this woman to be the wife of this man?@ Tell me, friends, can you give
somebody something that isn=t yours? Honest, can you? Now, who at that time, tells the
preacher that he is giving the girl to be the wife of this man? Who is it that does it? The
father, or someone taking the place of the father. Is that right? Yes. Did you ever think
about it? Did you ever think about its implications?
Now, tell me, if the father is supposed to stand there in the church and say, AI do. I am the
one that is giving this young woman to be the wife of this man,@ do you think that, that
ought to be the first time he has a chance to say anything about it? What do you think?
When would be the time? After the girl=s heart has been won? After the affections of the
two young people are entwined? Is then the proper time for John to go to Mary=s father and
say, AYou know, your daughter and I, we have been keeping company now for quite a while,
and we have decided that we would like to be married and we have come to ask your
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blessing.@
And what does the father say? I suppose if he is like some fathers today, he says, AIsn=t this
wonderful that they would even ask me before the wedding?@ My friends, I wouldn=t feel
flattered with anything like that at all.
I want you to turn now to some very interesting words in Messages to Young People, which if
we will allow them to have their full weight, we will see the importance, not only of step
three, but of step four. Messages to Young People, page 445.
(By the way, there was another statement on this page that I wanted to call your attention to.
It is the last sentence in the first paragraph:
AWhile they are to love and honor their parents, they are also
to respect the judgment of men of experience with whom they
are connected in the church@Messages to Young People, page
445.
So, God has counselors in addition to the parents.)
But now to my point on step four. You have the middle of the page there, don=t you?
AA young man who enjoys the society and wins the friendship
of a young lady unknown to her parents, does not act a noble
Christian part toward her or toward her parents@MYP, 445.
When is the time then, for that young man to be known to the parents, after he wins her
friendship? When? Before. Well, let=s go a little further. After he enjoys her society?
Before. Do you see that?
This is close work and this is so utterly foreign to what is going on, that you may have to look
at it three times and rub your eyes to be sure you are seeing straight. Isn=t that what it says?
And friends, if you will allow me to say it, it is just good common sense. But everything God
says is good common sense, and if you want to be happy, young men, see the guardians of
the girl before you start courting her.
By the same token, young women, if you want to be truly happy and have God plan your
marriage, remain within the protection of your parents or other God-appointed guardians,
until they give you the nod that here is somebody worthy of courting you.
AAh,@ somebody says, AI think that would be quite restrictive.@
Yes, it is. You know, royalty has quite a bit of restriction. I don=t know how they are doing
things in some countries today. Modern fashions and customs have made terrible inroads
even in high places. But at least up until a few years ago, if a young man has wanted to enjoy
the society of one of the daughters of the king or queen of England, he would have had to
undergo quite a bit of scrutiny. Don=t you think so? Especially if he was interested in
courting her, don=t you think he would?
Of course, your daughters aren=t worth as much as the princesses of England, are they? Or
are they? You, parents, are your daughters worth as much as the princesses of England?
10. Well, treat them that way, then. And let them feel that you are guarding them, not in a bossy
way, not in a dictatorial way, but because they are so valuable, because they are so precious.
Do you see what I mean?
AAh,@ but some girl may say, AI think I can choose for myself.@
Well, doubtless you can and you will have plenty of helpers, both devils and human beings.
It is amazing to me, how many people that ought to have better sense, are perfectly willing to
help most anybody to court most anybody. I protest against it, in the name of God, my
friends. Before you give the slightest influence to encourage any young man to court any
young woman or to encourage any young woman to accept the courtship of any young man,
you had better get on your knees and have a session with Heaven, and be sure that you are
getting your signals straight from the throne. You just might be helping the devil in his
business of putting together people that don=t belong together at all.
Now, turn over to the next page and we will clinch this nail:
AThe question is asked, >Wherewithal shall a young man
cleanse his way?= and the answer is given, >By taking heed
thereto according to Thy word.= The young man who makes
the Bible his guide, need not mistake the path of duty and of
safety. That blessed book will teach him to preserve his
integrity of character, to be truthful, to practice no deception@
MYP, 446.
Now, I wish you would read the sentence which follows, with me. All together:
A>Thou shalt not steal,= was written by the finger of God upon
the tables of stone; yet how much underhand stealing of
affections is practiced and excused@ MYP, page 446.
Do you mean that a young man might steal the affections of a girl? Well, how in the world
could he steal something, unless he took it from somebody to whom it belonged, who wasn=t
willing for him to have it? Do you see what I mean, friends? If he has stolen the girl=s
affections, she is willing, isn=t she? Yes, she is a willing captive. She has been kidnaped,
hypnotized, enchanted, bewitched, infatuated. But she is willing.
But then I ask you. Who did the young man steal her affections from? Her parents. Read the
whole page and the page before, and it is perfectly plain. But I want to tell you something,
friends. You can=t steal anything from somebody, unless those things you steal belong to
them. Is that right? That is right.
Yes. You can=t steal that organ from me. It isn=t my organ. You can=t steal that piano
from me. That=s not my piano. But this book is mine. And somebody could steal it. Do
you know another name for stealing? It is taking without permission. Do you know the only
way you could take this book without stealing it from me? What would it be? To ask my
permission. When? Before you take it.
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Let us arise to be dismissed.
11. Heavenly Father, rightly interpret to our hearts these wonderful principles, these strange
principles, these glorious principles, that we may love what God loves and be safe from the
heartbreak, the sorrows, which are filling the world with misery. Cause us to reflect Thy
image and carry out Thy plans and thus have heaven on earth. We ask it for each one in
Jesus= name. Amen.
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