This document provides an overview of a presentation titled "Parenting 2.0: The Presentation Your Parents Want to Hear" given by Rita Oates, PhD. The presentation aims to help parents understand the challenges of parenting in a technology-rich world. It discusses issues like cyberbullying, online safety, and helping children develop technology fluency rather than just literacy. The presentation reviews research on parents' technology concerns and shares strategies and resources to help parents have conversations with their children about appropriate online behavior and developing balanced technology habits. It also recommends books to help parents navigate issues around their children's technology use.

2. Parenting 2.0: The Presentation Your
Parents Want to Hear
Presented by: Rita Oates, PhD

3. Session Description
• Did your mama talk to you about sexting, cyberbullying, and
watching what you post on Facebook? Parents today have new
parenting challenges and issues, created by technology at school
and home. When districts go BYOD or 1:1, new challenges arise at
home. “Getting ready for school” means having your device fully
charged before you leave home. Finding online connections for
homes without Internet access isn’t always easy. This session
models a presentation to a PTA, with permission to adapt the slides
to use in your district. See how you can help parents understand
real issues, fears and challenges for families in a 2.0 world. The core
presentation is based on sessions at school PTA meetings, Wired
Safety and Wired Moms. The presenter has spoken to almost a
thousand PTAs on technology topics during a dozen years, served
two terms as a PTA president and seven years as district tech
director.

4. Techno-tots are not yet parents
in our schools
b. 1984
b. 1988

5. Welcome!
Family Technology
Night
Sponsored by
OurSchool PTA and
OurSchool Educators

6. What are your biggest fears
for your child in this technology-rich
world?

7. What are your biggest fears
for your child in this technology-rich world?
1. Predators meet my child online and do something awful
2. My credit card number is stolen after my child buys
something -- without my permission
3. My child shares family information with strangers
4. My child sees graphic porn or gruesome photos
5. My child takes and shares an indecent photo
6. Info on my child will create a problem when he’s older
7. My child will be bullied (or will be a bully)
8. My child will be distracted and neglect learning
9. My computer will get viruses after my child downloads
10. Other things?

9. Latest Research
• Overwhelming majority of parents believe
technology has positive effect on their
children's lives
• Concerns remain over social media, levels of
physical activity
• Parents today have new issues
not encountered by their own
parents

10. Parents believe….
• Technology has a positive effect on their
child's future, career and life skills (78%)
and creativity (64%).
• Parents are more concerned about their
child's personal safety and privacy than
kids' technology use.
-Nov. 17, 2015 - Parents, Privacy & Technology Use from Family Online Safety
Institute (FOSI)

11. Do parents discuss acceptable conduct
on the Net with teens?
• Mothers are more likely than fathers to report
talking frequently with teens about appropriate
online and offline behavior.
• Parents who are less affluent are more likely than
those from higher-income households to have
these conversations.
• Hispanic parents (51%) are more likely than white
(32%) or black (32%) parents to frequently speak
with teens about online behavior towards others.

12. More research findings
• Half of parents (54%) have learned
something from their child regarding use of
a smartphone or tablet.

14. Technology Fluency
• Technology fluency is
different from having
technology literacy.
• For tech literacy, people
set their sights “on the
goal of correctly employing
electronic products and
digital media without
hesitation.”

15. Exercises to Encourage
Technology Fluency
Ask your child to show you how she
uses her devices, what she can do
with them.
Sit with your child and compile a
list of ways she uses a computer.
Create a "Producer/Consumer
Table."

16. Producer/Consumer Table
Produce Interact Consume

17. Producer/Consumer Table
Produce Interact Consume
creating a picture
blog
touch-typing tutor watching shows
editing videos playing games reading cartoons
writing poems using Khan
Academy
looking at other
people's blogs and
galleries
If activities are evenly distributed between Produce, Consume
and Interact, your child is doing very well.
If no activities are under Produce, and Interact activities lack
creative or knowledge-building examples, then focus on
mindful improvement.

18. Some Recommended Books
• Book circle with faculty, sharing highlights
with each other
• Book circle of faculty and parents
• Brief highlights from books shared at PTA
meetings during year, posted on website as
video

19. Logged On and Tuned Out
Helps low-tech (tuned out) parents whose
high-tech (logged on) kids use modern
computer and cell phone technology like
second nature.
Parents overwhelmed by today's digital world
will learn the imperative basics and
checkpoints of Instant Messaging, text
messaging, social networking Web sites
(Facebook), chat rooms, and photo and video
uploading.
A related website provides online safety
contracts, information about safety filters, and
more. (2007 publication, Christian focus)

20. www.whenparentstext.com
• Receives 300,000 to 500,000 page
views a day, with features in The
Huffington Post, Entertainment
Weekly, College Humor and others.
• Includes an emoticon glossary and
16-page color insert of MMS texts--
multimedia messaging service.
• It's the perfect gift for every text-
savvy teen to give to his or her
parents.

21. iParenting – how parents stay involved
when kids go to college
Many parents are in constant contact
with their college students via cell
phone, texting, email, Facebook, Skype.
Parents have become increasingly
involved in academic matters. They edit
their children's papers via email.
Parents should create a mutually
agreeable "calling plan" that takes the
student's need for independence and
self-reliance into account.

22. Screen-smart Parenting
• What kinds (and amounts) of screen
time boost learning and development
and what kinds may be harmful?
• When is the right age for a game
console or a smartphone?
• What impact do parents' technology
habits have?
Practical strategies for navigating the
digital frontier and creating realistic,
doable rules and expectations for the
whole family.
Based on child development stages

23. Parental behavior?

24. Organizations Providing Help
• Common Sense Media
• PTA
• WiredSafety.org
• Stop.Think.Connect
• Future of Privacy Forum

25. Common Sense Media
• https://www.commonsensemedia.org/
• https://www.commonsensemedia.org/mobile
• Graphite.org
• Check it out in the pod here at CoSN!

26. Graphite.org

27. PTA.org resources
• Internet safety statement (2002)
• Digital safety and suggested links
• Student data privacy

29. PTA.org Suggests Using….

30. Watch videos and discuss with your
children at home

31. https://stopthinkconnect.org
is multilingual

33. Goodnight iPad
There was an iPad
And a kid playing Doom
And a screensaver of
A bird launching over the
moon.
Goodnight LOLs
Goodnight MP3s
Goodnight LCD
And Wi-FI HDTV.

34. Questions? Thoughts?
Rita Oates, PhD
President, Oates Associates
@ritaoates
ritaoates@gmail.com
www.ritaoates.com