Open Source communities face a challenge of empowering their communities and still maintaining a balance of quality software management. We explore some of the words we use, and why the feelings people have about being out of control are generally false. See a copy with speaker notes https://docs.google.com/presentation/d/118A7hLCpBv2T5VgU9wYzmfrWpJYrPJZ5sl3IGUTNDLI/edit