This document provides an overview and guidelines for mentoring. It begins with defining mentoring as a caring relationship where an individual provides support, advice and role modeling over time. Research shows mentoring improves attendance, self-confidence, social skills and communication. The rest of the document covers key areas for mentors: communication, including active listening; child safety, such as types of abuse and how to respond to disclosures; and general guidelines, like appropriate physical contact, confidentiality and saying "no". The goal is for mentors to build trusting relationships while maintaining proper boundaries and prioritizing child well-being.
Social skills and building relationships can be a challenge for children and adults with ADHD.
Issues with social skills usually stem from the fact that they lack the ability to pay attention
long enough to pick up the social cues, that others take for granted. They also are
challenged with impulsivity that leads to a multitude of difficulties, from hurting someone’s
feelings unintentionally to acting out in a physical manner. These challenges can cause
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I am a very strong believer that the future of a nation is in the hands of its youth. The quality of a nation is therefore truly demonstrated through the quality of its youth.
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Social skills and building relationships can be a challenge for children and adults with ADHD.
Issues with social skills usually stem from the fact that they lack the ability to pay attention
long enough to pick up the social cues, that others take for granted. They also are
challenged with impulsivity that leads to a multitude of difficulties, from hurting someone’s
feelings unintentionally to acting out in a physical manner. These challenges can cause
turmoil in the school, home, and workplace.
I am a very strong believer that the future of a nation is in the hands of its youth. The quality of a nation is therefore truly demonstrated through the quality of its youth.
I have often been the bonafide Mentor to several hundreds of youngsters in their careers & I must admit that I learnt more while mentoring them then I learnt from the books I read.
This is a small tribute in terms of helping many more hundreds of youngsters in their footsteps to hall of fame. May all you young business enthusiasts shine bright & make your businesses prosper even further.....Amen
5 Ideas to Bolster Buoyancy, Wellbeing and Resilience during times of distress.
Supporting ourselves, our friends, families and co-workers during the Covid-19 / Coronavirus Pandemic.
Commitment allows us to fulfill our most basic needs and achieve our most sought after dreams. It gives us purpose. It’s never too late to learn how to commit.
We all have the intention to communicate clearly and frequently are able to make this happen. However, under stress or “In the Crunch,” most of us revert to less skillful styles of making our point. It can be helpful to recognize these styles which present obstacles to communicating and to target specific skills which pave the way for better understanding of the other person’s world. Whether with clients, family members and friends, or work colleagues, conscious choices of how we talk and listen can help …
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Reflective listening
Encouragement
Compromise and cooperation
“I” Messages
Practice
Engagement
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Sharing knowledge with peers, friends and others is one of my habits and passion, and I hope that this little preparation will help others to gain more knowledge for their own benefits, family and society as a whole.
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We all have the intention to communicate clearly and frequently are able to make this happen. However, under stress or “In the Crunch,” most of us revert to less skillful styles of making our point. It can be helpful to recognize these styles which present obstacles to communicating and to target specific skills which pave the way for better understanding of the other person’s world. Whether with clients, family members and friends, or work colleagues, conscious choices of how we talk and listen can help …
This interactive webinar will provide opportunities to discover how our personal “agendas” repeatedly interfere with effective communication and offer a RECIPE for more effective and efficient communication.
Reflective listening
Encouragement
Compromise and cooperation
“I” Messages
Practice
Engagement
Personal Growth__Reflection 3__The Law of Attraction__Assigned by Vaddhana P....Som Oeurn MAO
Som Oeurn MAO
Sharing knowledge with peers, friends and others is one of my habits and passion, and I hope that this little preparation will help others to gain more knowledge for their own benefits, family and society as a whole.
Return Balance To Your Life
By Mel Feller, MPA, MHR
Mel Feller Seminars, Coaching For Success 360 Inc. /Mel Feller Coaching
In order to return balance to your life, remove the excuses from your life.
Attitude is more important than intelligence. The reasons why you can do anything must replace the reasons why you can`t. Find ways to win not to lose. Winning attitude that were once very easy may become more difficult with age.
Teaching your kids how to communicate effectively. Use this simple report to learn how to motivate your young ones, and also help your older kids to understand that they can change their world by the way they engage with others around them
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We can choose our response.
Resilience is contagious (Spread resilience, not the virus!)
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2. Mentor Training Session
• Agenda:
• 1. What is Mentorship?
• 2. Communication
• 3. Child Safety
• 4. General Mentoring Guidelines
• 6. Online Mentor Training
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4. 4
1. Who was/is your mentor? Why?
2. Where have you seen
mentoring relationships in the
media? (movies, TV Shows, etc).
3. What qualities do good mentors
possess?
What is Mentorship?
5. What is Mentorship?
• The Alberta Mentoring Partnership defines mentoring as:
• “The presence of a caring individual(s) who
provides a young person with support, advice,
friendship, reinforcement and constructive role
modeling over time.”
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6. What is Mentorship?
Research has
shown that children
in a Teen
Mentoring
Programs
demonstrate:
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Improved
attendance
Improved
self confidence
and self esteem
Improved
social and
communication
skills
10. Communication
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Activity: What Am I Really Saying?
Adapted from Heart-to-Heart¹
• break into groups of 4
• choose 1 member of your group to be the Actor
• each Actor will be given a scenario that they are
not to show to their group
• the Actor will then act out the scenario to their
group
¹Limoges, J. & Vonde, D. (2009). Training Manual Heart-to-Heart.
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Activity: What Am I Really Saying?
Adapted from Heart-to-Heart¹
Communication is
7% words/what you say
38% how you use your voice (tone)
55% non-verbal (facial, body language, posture…)
What does this activity teach you about
1. Your Mentee?
2. Your Role as a Mentor?
¹Limoges, J. & Vonde, D. (2009). Training Manual Heart-to-Heart.
Communication
12. Communication
How can you communicate to your mentee
that you are listening and you care?
• Eye contact
• Minimal Encouragers - Nodding, “Yes,” “Mm-Hmm.”
• Repeating, summarizing, and paraphrasing what the child has said.
• Asking questions about what the child has said.
• Postponing your responses until the child has finished talking – don’t
interrupt.
• Put away your cell phone and iPod.
• Focus on your mentee – not on other mentors/matches.
• Open posture
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15. What kinds of safety principles could you
teach a child?
Examples
• Safety while baking
• Using playground and gym
equipment appropriately
• Internet safety
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Child Safety
16. Secrets & Surprises
Surprises are good things that, after a while, you tell
someone about and it makes them happy.
Secrets are things that people might tell you to keep to
yourself or never tell anyone about.
No Secrets Ever!
Child Safety
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17. Role modeling safe behaviour is very
important!
It is part of your role as a mentor is to
ensure that your mentee is safe while
they are visiting with you.
Child Safety
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18. Abuse Issues
If you ever have concerns, questions, or
instincts about a child potentially at risk, talk
with your program coordinator THAT DAY.
Don’t wait!
Child Safety
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19. Child Safety
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Types of Abuse:
It is the combination, frequency and duration of
indicators that should alert you to a problem.
Handbook pages 45 – 47
• Physical
• Neglect (note: there is a difference between neglect and poverty)
• Emotional
• Sexual
20. Child Safety
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Disclosures of Abuse
• Direct Disclosure: A child directly tells someone
they are experiencing abuse.
• Indirect Disclosure: Other people notice
behaviours or signs indicative of abuse in the child.
21. How to respond to a disclosure of abuse:
1. Stay calm.
2. Listen.
3. Reassure the child.
4. Report it.
Child Safety
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23. Can I hug my mentee?
General Mentoring Guidelines
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24. Guidelines for Physical Contact
1. Respect the child’s wishes.
2. Allow the child to initiate contact (including hugs).
3. Respect your own feelings about physical contact.
4. Err on the side of caution.
5. Be aware of how others might perceive your actions.
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Yes, you can hug your mentee. But…
25. • Kissing
• Cuddling
• Wrestling or
Roughhousing
• Sitting on laps
• Tickling
• Piggy-backs
General Mentoring Guidelines
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Unacceptable Forms of Physical
Contact with a Mentee:
26. Can I post pictures of my
mentee on Facebook?
General Mentoring Guidelines
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27. Confidentiality:
Assuring the protection of sensitive
information regarding children,
families, and mentors within the
mentoring relationship.
General Mentoring Guidelines
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No. Confidentiality in your match is
very important.
28. Is it okay to say “no” to my
mentee?
General Mentoring Guidelines
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29. Setting Boundaries: Scenarios
In your groups, discuss what you would do in
the scenario given to you.
Be prepared to share about your discussion.
General Mentoring Guidelines
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Yes, we encourage you to set appropriate
boundaries with your mentee.
30. Setting Boundaries
1. Be a friend while maintaining the role of a more mature
person.
2. Take advantage of opportunities to be a positive role model.
3. Acknowledge inappropriate behaviour.
4. Say “no” to inappropriate requests.
5. Be consistent.
6. Praise the child when they make appropriate choices.
7. Set realistic expectations from the beginning of the match.
General Mentoring Guidelines
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31. General Mentoring Guidelines
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Additional Guidelines
• Stay on school/site property
• Use designated washrooms for volunteers
• Stay in visible places with your mentee
• Clean up after each activity
• Dress appropriately
• Absent policy
• Proper closure should take place when the match ends
• Focus on your mentee, not the other mentors
32. • Child-centered
• Ask your mentee
• Be flexible
• Bring in activity supplies
• Utilize available resources
Toy Box
High School Teen Mentoring
Activity Book
Your Program Coordinator
The library
The Web
General Mentoring Guidelines
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Tips for Planning Activities: