Dating and Marital Success   TASKS AND FACTORS AFFECTING           SATISFACTION
True or False? Research suggests that dating experience leads to greater  marital success. FALSE “Being in love” when y...
A Study ... Psychologist: Martin King Whyte Hypothesis: dating experiences lead to successful marriages. Findings: No c...
“Being in Love” According to Sternberg, couples who are deeply in love:#1   Strong sexual desire for each other#2   Knew ...
Issues: “The Market Experience” Shopping for a partner, “test driving” is problematic In the realm of free-choice mate s...
The Role of Negotiation Romanticizing “the day”, rather than the commitment. Couples may not realize the shared roles, r...
9 Psychological Tasks Psychologist: Judith Wallerstein Out to determine “what makes marriages succeed”. The pillars tha...
#1 Separating from your own family, and investing fully in the new one. Redefining the lines of connection to each.
#2 Building togetherness based on mutual identification, shared intimacy and expanded conscience.
#3 Establish a healthy sexual relationship and maintaining it, despite work and family obligations.
#4 (For Couples with Kids) Take on the daunting roles of parenthood! A baby’s impact is challenging.
#5 Confronting and mastering the inevitable crises of life.
#6 Maintaining the strength of marital bond despite adversity. Marriage as a safe haven.
#7 Use humour and laughter to keep things in perspective and avoid boredom.
#8 Nurture and comfort each other. Offer encouragement and support.
#9 Keep alive the romantic, idealized images of falling in love, even when unpleasant realities hit.
SuccessfulMarriageScavenger Hunt!!• Choose  your partner.• Get a piece of paper & write numbers 1-9.• Can you find and mat...
The 6 R’s of Marriage Psychologist: Claude Guldner Influenced by Systems Theory Aims to summarize the negotiations requ...
The 6 R’s – pg 214#1   Roots#2   Rhythms#3   Rules#4   Roles#5   Relationships#6   Rituals
Questions What is the meaning/definition of your “R”? How could this “R” present challenges for a newly married couple? ...
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  1. 1. Dating and Marital Success TASKS AND FACTORS AFFECTING SATISFACTION
  2. 2. True or False? Research suggests that dating experience leads to greater marital success. FALSE “Being in love” when you first get married is the greatest predictor of marital success. TRUE Greater dating experience may make marital satisfaction harder to achieve because it heightens an individual’s expectations. TRUE
  3. 3. A Study ... Psychologist: Martin King Whyte Hypothesis: dating experiences lead to successful marriages. Findings: No correlation between dating experience, length of dating, engagement, degree of pre-marital intimacy and marital success. Couples from Detroit were interviewed.
  4. 4. “Being in Love” According to Sternberg, couples who are deeply in love:#1 Strong sexual desire for each other#2 Knew each other well and enjoyed each other’s company#3 Made the relationship a priority in their lives
  5. 5. Issues: “The Market Experience” Shopping for a partner, “test driving” is problematic In the realm of free-choice mate selection, we have to say “yes” or “no” to one partner at a time. What if you want to return to an old partner and they’re no longer available? Greater choices = increased expectations and scrutiny of partners in marriage.
  6. 6. The Role of Negotiation Romanticizing “the day”, rather than the commitment. Couples may not realize the shared roles, rules and duties that need to be negotiated in their new life. Will the new roles be compatible? How can we form a new life together without “ditching” our independent selves?
  7. 7. 9 Psychological Tasks Psychologist: Judith Wallerstein Out to determine “what makes marriages succeed”. The pillars that hold up a marriage.
  8. 8. #1 Separating from your own family, and investing fully in the new one. Redefining the lines of connection to each.
  9. 9. #2 Building togetherness based on mutual identification, shared intimacy and expanded conscience.
  10. 10. #3 Establish a healthy sexual relationship and maintaining it, despite work and family obligations.
  11. 11. #4 (For Couples with Kids) Take on the daunting roles of parenthood! A baby’s impact is challenging.
  12. 12. #5 Confronting and mastering the inevitable crises of life.
  13. 13. #6 Maintaining the strength of marital bond despite adversity. Marriage as a safe haven.
  14. 14. #7 Use humour and laughter to keep things in perspective and avoid boredom.
  15. 15. #8 Nurture and comfort each other. Offer encouragement and support.
  16. 16. #9 Keep alive the romantic, idealized images of falling in love, even when unpleasant realities hit.
  17. 17. SuccessfulMarriageScavenger Hunt!!• Choose your partner.• Get a piece of paper & write numbers 1-9.• Can you find and match the “9 Psychological Tasks”?
  18. 18. The 6 R’s of Marriage Psychologist: Claude Guldner Influenced by Systems Theory Aims to summarize the negotiations required in early marriage. What rules, roles and duties need to be discussed?
  19. 19. The 6 R’s – pg 214#1 Roots#2 Rhythms#3 Rules#4 Roles#5 Relationships#6 Rituals
  20. 20. Questions What is the meaning/definition of your “R”? How could this “R” present challenges for a newly married couple? What types of challenges? Can you think of a specific example of a challenge? How could this challenge be negotiated or resolved?

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