This document provides guidance on positive parenting techniques. It advises parents to understand their child's emotions, know how their own attitudes influence their child's development, and establish rules with a loving relationship. When disciplining, parents should respond calmly, focus on feelings, be consistent, and use love. They should spend quality time with their child, set limits through their own actions, listen attentively, and model good behavior. Positive parenting benefits the parent-child relationship and teaches the child to handle problems empathetically.

1. COUNSELLING ON
POSITIVE
PARENTING
Dr. Suparna Sengupta, Psychotherapist and Life
Coach

2. KNOW YOUR CHILD’S
EMOTION
• Mad: things didn't work out as
planned
• Sad: I am feeling a loss of some kind
• Anger: I want to control something I
can't
• Scared: there is something about this
I don't understand
• Embarrassed: I can see I can not
meet the expectation

3. FIND YOUR CHILD’S
ATTITUDE - 1
 CRITICISM TEACHES CHILD TO CONDEMN
 HOSTILITY TEACHES CHILD TO FIGHT
 FEAR TEACHES CHILD TO BE APPREHENSIVE
 PITY TEACHES CHILD TO FEEL SORRY
 RIDICULE TEACHES CHILD TO BECOME SHY
 JEALOUSY TEACHES CHILD TO BE ENVY
 SHAME TEACHES CHILD TO FEEL GUILTY
 ENCOURAGEMENT TEACHES CHILD TO FEEL
CONFIDENT
 TOLERANCE TEACHES CHILD TO HAVE
PATIENCE
 PRAISE TEACHES CHILD TO LEARN
APPRECIATION

4. FIND YOUR CHILD’S
ATTITUDE - 2
 ACCEPTANCE TEACHES CHILD TO LOVE
 APPROVAL TEACHES CHILD TO LIKE
 RECOGNITION TEACHES CHILD TO SET GOAL
 SHARING TEACHES CHILD TO LEARN
GENEROSITY
 HONESTY TEACHES CHILD TO LEARN
TRUTHFULNESS
 FAIRNESS TEACHES CHILD TO LEARN JUSTICE
 KINDNESS TEACHES CHILD TO RESPECT
 SECURITY TEACHES CHILD TO HAVE FAITH
 FRIENDLINESS TEACHES CHILD TO BE NICE

5. • PARENTING EQUATION
I. RULES WITH OUT RELATIONSHIP = REBELLION
II. RELATIONSHIP WITHOUT RULES = CHAOS
III. RELATIONSHIP + RULES = RESPECT + RESPONSIBILITY

6. • STRATEGY FOR MISBEHAVIOUR
 RESPOND, DON’T REACT
 TRY TALKING LESS, ACTION SPEAKS LOUDER THAN WORDS
 FOCUS ON THEIR NEGATIVE FEELINGS INSTEAD OF MISBEHAVIOUR
 BE CONSISTENT TO SHOW YOUR RESPONSES
 DISCIPLINE WITH LOVE, STAY CALM OR WALK AWAY
 DON’T RESPOND AT ALL IF NEEDED

7. • NORMAL SITUATION GUIDELINES - 1
 NO NEGATIVE SENTENCES IN CONVERSATION
 TALK LESS, OBSERVE MORE
 BE A FRIEND OF YOUR CHILD
 SPEND TIME WITH YOUR CHILD
 TEACH YOUR CHILD TO BE RESPONSIBLE
 ASK YOUR KID'S OPINION IN SOME FAMILY DECISION
 KEEP YOUR PROMISES
 GIVE THEM SOME SPACE
 STRUCTURE A PEACEFUL ENVIRONMENT
 SET LIMITS WITH YOUR OWN ACTION
 LISTEN TO THEM WITH FULL ATTENTION

8. • NORMAL SITUATION GUIDELINES - 2
 LET YOUR CHILDREN MAKE CHOICE
 DON'T MAKE TOO MANY QUESTION
 GIVE THEM TIME TO ANSWER
 APPRECIATE THEIR EFFORT
 SAY POSITIVE THINGS ABOUT THEM
 MODEL THE BEHAVIOUR YOU WOULD LIKE TO SEE
 SPREAD HOPE, LET THEM SEE THEMSELVES IN FUTURE
 GIVE CHILD PERMISSION TO SOLVE THE PROBLEM
 THINK YOUR CHILD A 5 YEARS OLD WHILE TALKING

9. • FAMILY RULES
 BE FRIENDLY
 TELL THE TRUTH
 TREAT EACH OTHER WITH RESPECT
 NO ARGUE IN FRONT OF CHILDREN
 RESPECT EACH OTHER PROPERTY
 TRY TO BE KIND AND HELPFUL TO EACH OTHER
 HAVE FUN AND PLAY TOGETHER
 MAINTAIN SOFT VOICE

10. • BENEFIT OF POSITIVE PARENTING
 CHILD IS NOT DISTRACTED BY ADULT'S ANGER
 THE CHILD MUST OWN HIS/HER PAIN RATHER THAN BLAMING IT ON THE ADULT
 ADULT-CHILD RELATIONSHIP IS MAINTAINED
 CHILD IS MUCH LESS LIKELY TO SEEK REVENGE
 ADULT IS SEEN AS BEING ABLE TO HANDLE PROBLEMS WITHOUT BREAKING A SWEAT
 THE CHILD LEARNS THROUGH MODELLING TO USE EMPATHY WITH OTHERS