This document discusses removing emotional wounds from the past in order to heal and move forward. It states that wounds cannot heal until the "stinger" or cause is removed, and encourages readers to identify the specific events that caused their hurt in order to forgive the past. Examples of emotionally wounded behaviors are provided, such as oversensitivity, irritability, and defensiveness. Readers are instructed to use the 5Ws (who, what, why, when, where) to understand what happened to them so they can take responsibility for healing from the past. The overall message is that past hurts must be addressed and forgiven before true healing and wholeness can begin.

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2. PURPOSEPURPOSE
Divorcingthepast to advanceinto the
future.

3. Have you ever been stung by a
bee?
Until the
“stinger” is
removed the
wound cannot
and will not heal.

4. LET US REMOVE THE
STINGER OF THE PAST
TODAY!
• The stingeris the
past.
• Ourproblems are
connected to an
event orseries of
events.
• Question: What
event(s) is ourhurt
tied to?
Purpose is attempting to pull us away from
the past, but instead we choose to hold on.

5. • A solution is A LIQUID, and the answer
that settles overdrawn accounts.
• WE CANNOT DRAWFROMOVERDRAWN
ACCOUNTS BECAUSE THERE IS NO
VALUE PRESENT.

6. We do not need to forget the past, we
need to FOR- GIVE the past, and the
people, places and things connected to
it. FOR- GIVE - NESS IS A
RELEASING, A LETTING GO OF THE
PAST.

7. Everything heals fromthe inside out.
All deep cleanings hurt.
We CHOOSE to sleepwalk(Mentally
and Physically) because we don't
want to feel anything. We don't want
to be hurt. We have become
insensitive to ouractions because
these were norms that were
established in ourlives fromprevious
(DYSFUNCTIONAL) environments.

8. Skit # 1
I AMSORRY.

9. I AMSORRY
SORRY (Adjective describing a
noun.)
“I” is the noun being describing
which is “YOU.”

10. “I APOLOGIZE.”
Apologize is a verb that denotes the action
we
are taking.
It is not who we ARE, it is the action and
position we are taking. Taking responsibility
forouractions.

11. Word of Wisdom#1: If we refuse to address ourheart
issues when the money cometh we will be broke (in $)
because of a broken heart that has not be made
WHOLE. A broken-fragmented heart equals a broken-
fragmented life, and paints a picture of inconsistency
and instability.

12. "Brokenness"in terms of humility allows us
to become whole (stable and consistent)
when handling money.

13. Skit#2
“BUT”

14. Indicators of someone who is emotionally
wounded
• Over-Sensitivity - "You hurt my feelings."
• Irresponsibility (Unrealistic Expectations) - "You do it."
• Irritability - "You get on my nerves."
• Timidness (Shyness) - "I don't want to stand up and
speak."
• Anger(Isolation) - "Leave me alone!"
• Defensive (Unwillingness to accept supervision) - "No, I
don't want to do it."
• Unforgiveness - "I want to breakup."
• Pride - "Me... Me... Me... What about me?"
• Envy - "Lookat what they got."
• Jealously - "She thinks she's all that."
• The Blame Game - "It's yourfault.” “You always do

15. Remember: Ourproblems are connected to
an event orseries of events.
Let's use the 5Ws
Who did this to me?
What did they do to me?
Why did they do this to me?
When did they do this to me?
Where did this take place?
The hurt orpain we endured was not ourfault. We
did not deserve this abuse. We NOWhave to take
the RESPON-siblity to make the decision to get
healed.