The document discusses choices and solutions for abuse survivors. It explores the different types of abuse and how abuse is often perpetuated within family systems. The author notes that abuse can lead to long-term health issues. The path forward involves awareness of what abuse is, acceptance of responsibility, and taking action. Action may involve emotional healing techniques to shift beliefs away from feelings of guilt or shame to empowerment. Speaking up can help prevent future abuse and save one's inner child. Overall, the document provides guidance to abuse survivors on recognizing, understanding, and moving past abuse.

1. ANU MEHTA
presents:
The Healing
Journey:
Choices and
Solutions
after abuse

2. MOVIE: UNHEARD SCREAM

3. I could see the broken soul,
The tears in her eyes,
The fear in her heart,
She wanted to trust,
She wanted to believe,
She wanted to live,
But she had trusted earlier,
and paid heavily for the trust she had
laid in people she loved,
She deserved to live and really live,
Not die everyday,
She had dared trust and paid heavily.

4. She held her moms hand and asked her,
Where did I go wrong?
Did I do something wrong?
Mom promptly put a finger on her
daughter’s lips,
And said SHHHHHHHHHHHH…
Don’t say anything to anyone,
People don’t want to hear you,
You will become a part of newspaper
clippings only,
You need to live.

5. If you tell people what happened,
They will make you feel ashamed,
They will call you a brave heart,
And they will fight their abuse
through you,
They will kill you with words,
looks and fear.

6. LIVE, MY CHILD,
BUT BE SILENT TODAY, TOMORROW
and FOREVER,
That’s the only way to live,
That’s is the only way to live.
I have also lived in hiding,
I also went through what you went
through in silence,
For people are still not ready to deal
with broken souls.

7. I wanted to be understood,
not ridiculed,
I wanted to be loved,
not called a brave heart,
I wanted to belong, not be condoned,
Today I give you my silence to protect you,
In silence we understand each other perfectly,
Our souls belong to the souls of the children of
silence.
Anu Mehta

8. What is abuse?
AB + USE
AB = About
BEING USED

9. TYPES OF ABUSE
• Physical abuse
• Emotional abuse
• Verbal Abuse
• Economic Abuse
• Mental Abuse
• Sexual Abuse
• Self abuse

10. WHO CAN BE ABUSED?
ANYONE
BOY /GIRL

11. Is it really about

12. ARE WE AWARE THAT
WE ARE ABUSING?

13. ABUSE HAS BECOME
PART OF OUR SYSTEM
•In the name of
discipline
•In the name of love
•In the name of trust

14. Discipline
Power assertion:
“Spare the rod and spoil the Child.”
Love withdrawal: threatening to
with - hold love
Verbal abuse: calling names -
“I WISH YOU HAD NEVER BEEN
BORN.”

15. WHO IS AN ABUSER?
ANYONE

16. Sexual abuse-
Some one you trust
The abuser may be a:
father
stepfather
sentimental partner
of the mother
mother or
the baby sitter

17. WHY ABUSE CONTINUES
• Fear of rejection
• Fear of isolation
• Fear of shame
• Fear of what will people say
• Fear of a tarnished image
• Fear of being alone

18. THINKING POINTS
“Is it a coincidence that less than 100
years ago girls married at the age of 12
years and today girls less then 12 years
are getting abducted, raped and sold
for flesh trade?
Have things really changed?”
Anu Mehta
META-Health Mater trainer
Anumehta.co.in

19. I was only six years
old at that time.
Childhood should
be carefree,
playing in the sun,
not living a
nightmare in the
darkness of
the soul.”
Abuse only ended
when I was 11 years
old

20. My abuser was old enough to be my
grandfather. He was my fathers uncle.

21. My father was
in between jobs

22. MY MOM WAS PREGNANT

23. I was separated from my parents

24. My abuse started when I went back to visit my family

25. Life became a
question mark
Why did my mother not choose to see anything?
Am I not important?
Its happening in front of them, do they approve of it?
Should I tell them anything?
Am I a bad girl?
Did I do something wrong?

26. Don’t tell your husband.
He will throw you out
of the house.

27. I BROKE MY SILENCE
BUT

28. TODAY
I am fearless
because
I am honest.

29. No, its not easy
to forget or forgive

30. Family Patterns

31. Pattern repeated again in
the next generation and in
older generation before
These are incomplete
stories that nature tries to
complete by repeating the
pattern

32. “Abuse is a ‘huge silent killer’.
It is a precursor
to many health issues
e.g. bipolar disorder,
Parkinson's disease, polycystic ovaries,
obesity, thyroid, endometriosis,
pimples, infertility, skin issues,
and the list goes on.”
Anu Mehta
META-health Master trainer
Anumehta.co.in

33. Awareness
Acceptance
Action

34. WHY - Why do you want the change?
HOW - How will you take responsibility?
WHAT - What will you do?
ACTION
What action will you take?
Emotional Freedom Techniques
Advanced Clearing Energetic

35. Awareness :
What is abuse?
Who can be abused?
How does an abuser look and
behave?
How does a victim behave?
How can we make her/him safe?
Who can she/he seek help from?

36. Acceptance:
Acceptance means taking responsibility
to tackle a problem.
This comprises of making:
Choices
Changes
Chances

37. Victim has to know what responsibility to take:
Unanswered can create conflict
Why he/she got abused?
What was her/his fault?
What made him/her create this story
in their life?
Am I a bad child?
Do I deserve punishment?
Or was it past life karma?

38. IF I KNOW THE WHY?
I can take responsibility

39. Action:
means the process of doing something,
typically to achieve an AIM, which needs
Courage
Compassion
Connection

40. Iamnotavictim
Itwasn’tmyfault
Icantrust
Iamempowered
Iamsupported
Iwillalwaysbesafe

41. “So many unheard screams,
in silence screams spoke louder than
words could ever speak.
Today together let us take a pledge to
speak up so that this never happens
again.
Break your silence;
and save the child in you.”
Anu Mehta
META-health Master trainer
Anumehta.co.in

42. “Everyone has the right
to be treated like a
human being.”
Anu Mehta
META-health Master trainer
Anumehta.co.in